Relationships And Cheating....

[fruitbat]

Never ever ever cheated on a girlfriend and never come close. Had chances to and walked away without a second thought

IMO if you wanna cheat you should be single, meaning you shouldnt have to cheat

Part of being in a relationship is that there are certain things only the 2 of you share, and intimacy (sp) is one of them

Cheating is wrong, end of. If you think its good its time to grow up and face reality

Frooty

[Rich Pearson]

Don't do it. Trust me on this one.

Rich

[James_Porter]

if your in another country then you can do what you like... thats my view on that.

if you are 100miles or more away from g.f just be sure your mates arent toss and tell or what ever.

but if its your g/f's mate... i couldnt, just imagin if it was the other way around... just imagin how pissed you would be.

although if it is a girl that you REALLY like then you wont wanna cheat anyways... i havent met anyone i feel like that with so maybe im wrong... but im pretty sure i wouldnt if i was in that situation.

[Smo™]

I would never, EVER do it and the only reason I wouldn't dump my girlfriend for kissing someone else is that she was actually unconscious at the time. Then I'd find who molested her and f**k them up. Cheating is wrong and I will never tolerate it.

[Prawny Baby]

Don't do it. Trust me on this one.

Rich

agreed.

[Greetings]

My ex cheated on me after 2,5 years and the day I got to know it was one of the worst days in my life. I could never do it. While working at Wimbledon this year I had various girls asking me to spend the night with them. My answer was always no regardless how pretty and fit they were. Ok, it'd be enjoyable and so on, but next day you wake up with the thought that from now on you'll have to lie to your gf every time she asks you if you love her (you can't cheat and love somebody at the same time imo). Never cheated, and never going to.

[Token]

I dont have a conscience

[Joe Papasnap Maher]

Meh , i have. S'all part of life

[Token]

is cheating when you do something you dont want your other half to see (like flirting with another girl or going to a party) or does it have to be abit more intense (sexually orientated)? I've thought about it a few times an never come up with a conclusive answer.... tell me what you think

[Josephine]

Speaking from a personal viewpoint, sex in a relationship is not only a lot of fun it's also probably the most intimate thing you can do, and it becomes symbolic of a lot of trust and affection within the relationship, so you can't really sleep with someone else and expect it to be ok, it's a betrayal of trust. Plus, if you're wanting to cheat you're probably not with the right partner to start with, I know I don't find anyone more exciting than my girlfriend, but that side only came out of us wanting to be even closer together.

I really can't understand the idea of just f**king someone and it not meaning anything, it's (for me anyway) a semi-religious experience and representative as I've said of a lot of trust and intimacy, outside sociopaths I think there'll always be an emotional connection, I think those who deny that are probably kidding themselves...

Joe xXx

[Davey]

I really can't understand the idea of just f**king someone and it not meaning anything, it's (for me anyway) a semi-religious experience and representative as I've said of a lot of trust and intimacy, outside sociopaths I think there'll always be an emotional connection, I think those who deny that are probably kidding themselves...

Joe xXx

There are different levels of sex. There's "making love" which is intimate and close and slow etc bla bla, then there's "f**king" which is hard and dirty and just for kicks for both parties concearned, full stop.

I can honestly say without kidding myself that I have had sex numerous times with no emotional connection what so ever. I slept with this one girl a few times despite the fact we couldn't stand each other and have never been able to have a conversation about anything other than f**king each other, some of the best (and dirtiest) sex I've ever had!

Are you telling me when you have a w**k to a porno you imagine being emotionally involved with the girl on screen?!? No, of course not, you don't even care what her name is!!!!

Davey

Edited September 22, 2006 by Small_Gear_Big_Style

[Josephine]

There are different levels of sex. There's "making love" which is intimate and close and slow etc bla bla, then there's "f**king" which is hard and dirty and just for kicks for both parties concearned, full stop.

I can honestly say without kidding myself that I have had sex numerous times with no emotional connection what so ever. I slept with this one girl a few times despite the fact we couldn't stand each other and have never been able to have a conversation about anything other than f**king each other, some of the best (and dirtiest) sex I've ever had!

Are you telling me when you have a w**k to a porno you imagine being emotionally involved with the girl on screen?!? No, of course not, you don't even care what her name is!!!!

Davey

Sorry I just don't get it! *shrug*

Joe x

[poopipe]

Sorry I just don't get it! *shrug*

Joe x

maybe Davey is a sociopath

I know I am

[Davey]

maybe Davey is a sociopath

I know I am

You know I am, haha, I think that's quite clear!

[Lawnmowerman]

Done it once and I'm now with the girl i cheated with. Would never do it again though, my gf is my life, I would never hurt her. But if she ever did it to me I would go f**kin mental and kill the person she did it with. I class even flirting as going too far

[rocktrials]

never have, never will

[Nuke Bowel]

same here... never have never will.

I could never cheat, unless your in a shit relationship why would you?

[Has anyone seen my shoe?]

I could never cheat, unless your in a shit relationship why would you?

*Awaits an 'unless your gay, why would you dress like you do' comment*

I've obviously had the rare privalige of being in good relationships as I have never cheated or even thought about it.

[PaRtZ]

K ready for a quick story?

Ive been with my girlfriend *technically* for about 12 months but officially 2 (look in the girl trouble thread, she WAS my f*ck buddy now my gf)I really loved her, honestly I'd do anything for her and just loved to spend time with her, even if it was just talking. Anyway she posed the question to me a couple of weeks ago

"What we going to do when I go to uni?"

Now i immediatly thought, theres no way Im going to be able to resist other girls with her away so instead of cheating on her, I told her honestly that we should split so that she can "experiance" relationships with other guys. Bare in mind that im the only boyfriend shes ever had, I didn't want her to go through life thinking she had men dialled just because she knows how to turn me on.

Anyway I told her that and we agreed that thats what we'll do. Now shes gone, I haven't heard from her in 2 days and she at Uni and even though Im going to see her on Monday, I really can't wait to see her again!

Im in a real mess about this because I want to stay with her, but at the same time I don't want her to feel that she's tied to me because Im not there. Especially considering its fresher's week.......

I'm going to stick to my guns because I think that by splitting with her she wont feel bad if i sleep with someone else. And similar if she does too. It'll feel bad for a bit but I think its something I gotta get used to

So in short no, don't cheat on her. If you want someone else then dump your gf, but be warned regardless of how amazing the sex with the new person could be, it won't beat a proper relationship. EVER.

[Josephine]

K ready for a quick story?

What he said.

Word. Congratulations on a hard choice decisively made. Dunno if I could've done that.

Joe x

[Bucky]

i cheated it was fun at the time but afterwards felt horrible,.......... but i caried on doing it for 3 months behind her back.

not good she found out everything became really f**ked up and it was shite.

lesson learnt dont cheat. at all. ever. its not nice.

[JT!]

K ready for a quick story?

I'm gald your thinking these thins though, but i think what you've done is stupid.

People's lives these days revolve around finding that 'special someone', and you've found each other, and you've broken up.

If you really do love this girl, stick with her, see as often as you can, but braking up with her just to 'experience other relationships' is just plain stupid. How on earth can u have a relationship when your still in love with someone else. It's not fair on either of you, and it's not fair on the people you'll be having these other relationships with, becuase they can't really go anywhere. It's mad.

Looking at it from the other side though, if, like you said, your going to find it hard to resist other girls while shes away, maybe the relationship you have with her isn't as strong as you think it is. If you really did love her it'd be easy to resist other women.

[Shaun H]

Never cheated and never will. It's a complete betrayal of trust.

However perving is a completely different matter whilst you've got a long term partner

EDIT: Speaking of Uni shizzle. I had "the talk" with my girlfriend the other day, we said we'd at least try and stick together, but if it's too hard to maintain a strong relationship we'd end it. Hopefully we'll both end up in one of the Birmingham Unis and it'll be all happy and fun

Edited September 25, 2006 by Shaun H

[craigjames]

i can honestly say that ive never cheated on a gf, the times ive been tempted, ive usually spoken to the gf about it and weve sorted it out, because there usually some underlying reason for the urge to be there. the only time i fealt i couldnt talk to a gf about it was when the urge was too great and i knew why, i wasnt where i wanted to be so i got out. i was better for it in the end.

I'm gald your thinking these thins though, but i think what you've done is stupid.

People's lives these days revolve around finding that 'special someone', and you've found each other, and you've broken up.

If you really do love this girl, stick with her, see as often as you can, but braking up with her just to 'experience other relationships' is just plain stupid. How on earth can u have a relationship when your still in love with someone else. It's not fair on either of you, and it's not fair on the people you'll be having these other relationships with, becuase they can't really go anywhere. It's mad.

Looking at it from the other side though, if, like you said, your going to find it hard to resist other girls while shes away, maybe the relationship you have with her isn't as strong as you think it is. If you really did love her it'd be easy to resist other women.

i think he has done the right thing, yes you will find someone you really do feel complete with, but it isnt always at the right point in your life or the right situation. he's made a fookin hard decision which takes serious balls, its damn hard to let someone you love go but i think that he'll be better for it, if he genuinely beleives the reason he's done it. yeah its gonna hurt for a damn long time, but i look back on my last relationship and realise how damn good it was and how much i lost. its a learning curve and you'll know the next time that someone like that comes around it might be the right place and the right time and you wont let it go. amicable break ups are the worse, cause you still love the person youre leaving you still care. however i dont think your doing yourselves any fovours by seeing her again so soon. its gonna make leaving her behind again even harder, in a way your kidding yourself if you still feel for her in more than a friends way. give it time and space and dont see her until that feeling goes or you know you can make summat of it from the situation your both in.

i know its so cliche, but its true there are plenty more fish in the sea, its just gonna take you a while to be able to spot em.

[Token]

I cheated, didn't regret it one bit because she then went and cheated on me after about 3 years

get one up before they do.... you wont feel so bad when they get drunk an laid behind your back because you beat them too it