the_ferret Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 basically just want to know peoples views had a huge chat with me mates about it and were split some think if you can get away with it go for it others are really against it. just thought could be interesting as people can have mega extreme opinions about it ..oggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UrbanPoet Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 It's possible to get away with it. It's just wrong that's all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 ben if you cheat half as much as you claim to ....then yes it is wrong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 It is wrong, it is mean, it is thoughtless, it is selfish etc etc, but the fact is most people will do it at some point in their life, whether it's just a kiss or one night stand or full on affair. It's human nature to want what you can't have!Often it is a sign that you shouldn't be with your partner, subconsciously you want to get caught to get out of the relationship, but sometimes you think the grass will be greener on the other side and in doing it you realise that it's not and that strengthens your relationship, so it can be a healthy thing!Anyone who says they would never cheat just hasn't been tempted by the right person, everyone has their limits and girls can be very persuasive!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash-Kennard Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 no don't, will just get stupidly complicated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_ferret Posted September 21, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 simpson im a good boy really i just wondered lol no doubt you have in fact i know you have! i agree your normally looking for a way out ect but sometimes people just find it natural to have who they want when they want! like old kings used to have lods of wives Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poopipe Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 it's not all that wrong really - it depends how you do it. If we're just talking a one/two nighter while your missus is on holiday, a once in a lifetime chance at a threesome/gangbang/shemale/bukkake party etc. or buying yourself a blowjob while you're in the Dam then it's nothing. More extended affairs are a different matter - that's getting pretty close to b*****d territory.Its both hopelessly romantic and totally irrational to genuinely believe that after 10 years of a relationship neither party will have felt the urge to pork somebody else. The thing is, after 10 years youll have a lot more invested in a relationship than just humping so minor transgressions aren't going to be an issue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmt_oli Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 Its a complex thing, and every situation is different. If you mean by cheating havign a relationship with someone and ogin around sleeping with a load of other people willy nilly, then i don't believe you even deserve to be in a relationship full stop. However, certain situations can arise, whether it be love, lust, drunkness whatever that allow us make mistakes. Im not saying its 'right' in this case, but being in a serious relationship, getting plastered one night and having a one night stand and not rembering much of it is very different to 'hmm i think i feel liek a change tongiht, il go pull some other bird' and both situations should be treated very differently.I personally don't agree with it, and have never cheated on anyone (although once, and i regret it, have allowed myself to be the '3rd person', which i consider almost as bad, but the situation is different). I also don't belive i have been cheated on, although i do belive another guy was at least partly why my ex left me- but thats another long complex story.In a relationship there should be communication, openess, trust and honesty. Unless you both agree that its an open relationship, going and sleeping with someone else undermines all of those things. Sometimes people do it, and realise it is a mistake, communicate well and the relationship can be saved, other times its not worth even trying.To me, you mates views seem very immature:some think if you can get away with it go for itThat isnt the right atitude to have if you in a relationship, i personally don't think they are mature enough to have any kind of relationship.Anyone who says they would never cheat just hasn't been tempted by the right person, everyone has their limits and girls can be very persuasive!I have to say, i partly agree with this, although if you deeply care for someone and have a fair amount of will power- it usually take a LOT of persuasion. Your right, girls can be very persuasive, as i found out when i was the 3rd person kinda thing. she wanted me, and in the end she blamed me for the whole situation, so you've got to be careful.it's not all that wrong really - it depends how you do it. If we're just talking a one/two nighter while your missus is on holiday, a once in a lifetime chance at a threesome/gangbang/shemale/bukkake party etc. or buying yourself a blowjob while you're in the Dam then it's nothing. More extended affairs are a different matter - that's getting pretty close to b*****d territory.Its both hopelessly romantic and totally irrational to genuinely believe that after 10 years of a relationship neither party will have felt the urge to pork somebody else. The thing is, after 10 years youll have a lot more invested in a relationship than just humping so minor transgressions aren't going to be an issueThats a very interesting viewpoint, especially since it comes from someone in a very longterm relationship.I do agree, that it can be not as bad as some peopel make out, and with that afte such a long time things will change, but i do belive comunication shoudl still be at the heart of the relationship and to go behind the others back isnt right, you should comfornt them and see there opinion. It may open doors to something else, open relation ship or otherwise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_ferret Posted September 21, 2006 Author Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 how is it immature to discuss things....and i understand its wrong and all of that but YOU cant have been that honest ect if you have done it yourself....im not looking for a fight but i just dont get it?oggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 There's no real discussion, you just don't chat. It's imoral, and nothing good will ever come out of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmt_oli Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 how is it immature to discuss things....and i understand its wrong and all of that but YOU cant have been that honest ect if you have done it yourself....im not looking for a fight but i just dont get it?oggyi never said it was immature to discuss things, infact i think its quite the opposite. Its jsut the views you had posted sound, to me, ver immature.'if you can get away with it, do it'Is not a mature way to think about relationships in my opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 Gotta gree with the pipe man there, if it's just sex, the mindless animal lust type that we use the F word to describe, then it has nothing to do with love or emotions and although it's technically cheating it's not that bad. Although if she did it to you then you would cut the guys balls off!It's when you start liking someone else a bit too much that things get complicated, if you can completely detach from emotions and just get your knob wet then it's not much different from wanking off to porn, and the missus knows I've done that!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramps Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I don't agree with it. At all. I have had a small amount of perswasion put on me but it just isn't right and most certainly isn't nice. Think about if you found out she had done then you would f**king flip if you were anything like me, and that is probably how she feels. Even if she doesnt find out the guilt will allways be on your mind well it would on me. I wouldn't be able to cope at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 i just wondered lol no doubt you have in fact i know you have! Was urm..... a holiday thing TOTALLY different lolna i wouldnt advise doing it again cos' she did find out in the endOOOOOP's i wont do it again!!!!! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ducko Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 ive cheated and felt bad, been cheated on a few time ana dnoe dont really care if i cheat or not.if shes relly nice i wontbut if its just a girl of many whatever,if you find someoine better split with them and have done with it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rickycoleman Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 This subject seems to be quite relevant At the moment.Im afriad im just like every other mug that has no thought of thier partners feelings when temptation arises.If Im remotely not happy, Then im likely to cheat, Which i know is very wrong, But when the opportunity arises I tend to put my 'Live for the moment' hat on. However, If the shoe is on the ot her foot, its one of the most awful things that can happen to someone, so i think i better change my policy pretty soon, thinking about it.ive cheated and felt bad, been cheated on a few time ana dnoe dont really care if i cheat or not.if shes relly nice i wontbut if its just a girl of many whatever,Amen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoyoyo Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I can say i wouldn't want to cheat on my missus.But seeing as i don't have one, nothing i need to worry about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1a2bcio8 Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I think a question worth asking is if everyone was secure and content in themselves and not leaning/dependant on other individuals, namely sexual partners, would polygamy be considered such a bad thing in consensus society? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si-man Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 f**k cheating, never have, never will.girls always do it though, tis a fact that lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lardo_69 Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I find when you are in a relationship and you do really like the person loads, Love them even. I find it impossible to think about any one else but them. let alone actually go all the way behide your girlfriends back. But i guess this feeling always fades eventually. And if you do meet some who is really nice then it may be hard to stay truthful. its all about commitment at the end of the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoo Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I have cheated on my hand a few times.....Cheating wouldn't really bother me...if they find out,they find out and if they don't...good on you !zoo baby! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si-man Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I have cheated on my hand a few times.....Cheating wouldn't really bother me...if they find out,they find out and if they don't...good on you !zoo baby! You like touching cock then? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoo Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 You like touching cock then?No comment lol Nah i ain't batting for that team.zoo baby! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si-man Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 haha, should have just said "yer my own!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoo Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 haha, should have just said "yer my own!"Bugger ! I never saw that one zoo baby! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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