Teenage Angst Communal Agony Aunt Thread

[Dan6061]

She's taken. Pretty sure it's serious too.

Thing is, we have everything in common, apart from our genders..pretty much.

I went out with her aaages ago, and she went to a party, got trashed, and got with some guy for like 2s. Then she told me in person, and I forgave he.

After that, she started being all weird, just not being the same as before.

I asked her what was wrong, and she said she was thrown by my reaction when she told me what happened. I stayed calm when she told me, because that's what i'm like. I don't get fired up about anything.

Then she split up with me. Which properly sucked.

We've been best mates for ages now, but I want more then that. I told her how I feel a while ago, and I messed things up. I was so nervous, but went for it, and she didn't feel the same. Which made things awkward for a while.

But recently i've been getting mixed signals from her, at times i've been thinking she likes me again, other times I just don't know.

[JohnyMilton]

I havent been able to read the prevoius posts cos its blocked on my school computer, but just because your girlfriends a silly slag and cheated on you its caused all this agro? shoulda been easy man! if it was me mate then yea ok i might have hit the bloke out of anger and not being able to hit her. but if he jumped me id call it even and draw a line under everything, after all if you knocked him out, and he knocked you out your even so get over it, and forget about the bird!

A lot has happened between me and this guy, we have been in many a fight before, i cant really remmeber why! lol

But I found her, and we spoke about it, then we argued! Then I said why the hell am I bothering, I will just back of, and find som other chick, hows worth me!

cheers to everyone who helped!

[JD™]

A lot has happened between me and this guy, we have been in many a fight before, i cant really remmeber why! lol

But I found her, and we spoke about it, then we argued! Then I said why the hell am I bothering, I will just back of, and find som other chick, hows worth me!

cheers to everyone who helped!

i'm really sorry to have to be this blunt, but you are being (in this particular situation) a complete and utter dickhead! your bird cheats on you. Not only does she cheat on you but she's also enough of a twat to let it happen when you could walk in. you haven't ceased all contact?!

have

some

respect

for

yourself

i dunno whether you have decided to yourself that you couldnt get anyone better or something, but you can and you will. sooner you let this girl go - no matter how close you were/could have been/wanted to be - the better.

once a cheat, always a cheat, dont line yourself up for another emotional beating.

J

[zoo]

Found out my girlfriend went a club thing last night and ended up kissing this lad we met at a sleepover,I saw her this morning and we both cried our eyes out,I don't know what to do,I feel like such shit.I love her so much and I can't believe this has ended up happening,knowing me I'd probably take her back.

Now it is A swastika tattoo and probably go in the army and have the absolute shit kicked out of me . Never have I felt so much like death before,been crying for about 4 hours solid now.

[Lawnmowerman]

Shit man, feel sorry for you. Was she drunk?

[poopipe]

she only kissed him and she was probably pissed - it's not exactly important. How would you feel if you got dumped for getting pissed and kissing some random bint in a club by accident?

You're obviously upset about the prospect of splitting up so don't do it - simple really. If she starts taking the piss by doing it all the time give her a slap and get shot of her - you'll be properly annoyed then so it wont bother you.

[Token]

Ow that's a bad one, you gota make sure she's totally intent on staying with you and getting with this other lad has been an eye opener to show her how much she does love/like you. Make sure of those things before forgiving her, and if it helps you, call war on this lad providing he knew she was taken then whatever you do to him is totally justified.

[zoo]

She said that we should not see each other for a while,so it just seems to me that she is gonna go after him,I don't know if she was pissed I never thought to ask her.I could get over it because after all it is just a kiss,I know for a fact that she would dump me if I kissed somebody else wether I was pissed or not,which annoys me because I aren't the kind of person to just end a relationship over pretty much nothing,what pissed me off even more was that I fell out with her,and then she invited him to go and not me,this may change every bodies views I don't know. Please offer advice because i'm really stuck with this shite.

Thanks all

[Tony Harrison]

Nah, if you think she's going after him, f'ck it, it's doomed.

But fear not - according to your profile, you're 17. Too young to be worrying about anything 'long term'. The world is your oyster my son!

[poopipe]

it's all far too complicated now.

when it was just a drunken fumble it was easy. you could make it really simple and batter them both

[Balman]

Well my girlfriend go's out every friday with basicly every scum bag in the area. Because her mates do they all sit in a feild drinking, people do and sell all sorts and she don't want me there because she says I would hate it i'm not the sort of scum bag that hangs about drinking, smoking and having knifes and stuff. So she allways come's up with reasons for me not to go but i have been finding that the boys that go down there have been trying it on. As in flirting n trying all sorts and what not althought she has been saying No n pulling away and that it still bothers me that people try. That they are a bunch of w**kers it only takes one to push it to far and shes pissed sometimes anyway it bothers me but everytime i mention i hate her goin she ether says it shouldnt oryou dont trust me or yeah but you do no you cant stop me goin dont you ect im probably over reacting as i often over react and im well to protective when it comes to girls all sorts of little things piss me off so am i beeing picky and just making somthing out of nothing or am i right in hating the fact i dont no what go's on other than as mentioned above paranoid or concerned?

cheers Jack

Edited September 25, 2007 by jackbalman

[Dan6061]

By the sounds of it, she'd rather be out in a feild drinking with these lads etc than spending time with you?

Doesn't sound good.

Tell her that's what it feels like, and see what she says. If she still wants to go out with everyone else and not you, then is she really worth hanging on to?

[Balman]

The thing is its not just the boys she says "yeah well i hardly ever see my mates i just wana spend time with them" or "so what the boys are my friends" and "you dont trust me" and im insecure ect maybe i am maybe shes just making me think i am?

Cheers for your help.

Edited September 25, 2007 by jackbalman

[poopipe]

The only surefire ways to stop a woman going out and being tempted by other men are to get her pregnant or give her the Aids.

I'll leave the decision up to your best judgement

[Balman]

The only surefire ways to stop a woman going out and being tempted by other men are to get her pregnant or give her the Aids.

I'll leave the decision up to your best judgement

I'm 16 dont really fanncy a little one just yet, im still young enough to remmber what rat bags we can be. I'm yet to gain aids it's a working progress.

Cheers.

Edited September 25, 2007 by jackbalman

[JohnyMilton]

i'm really sorry to have to be this blunt, but you are being (in this particular situation) a complete and utter dickhead! your bird cheats on you. Not only does she cheat on you but she's also enough of a twat to let it happen when you could walk in. you haven't ceased all contact?!

have

some

respect

for

yourself

i dunno whether you have decided to yourself that you couldnt get anyone better or something, but you can and you will. sooner you let this girl go - no matter how close you were/could have been/wanted to be - the better.

once a cheat, always a cheat, dont line yourself up for another emotional beating.

J

well thanks for making me feel good about myself! lol

but you cant control how you feel!

[JD™]

my girlfriend go's out every friday with basicly every scum bag in the area because her mates do they all sit in a feild drinking people do and sell all sorts and she dont want me there because aparently id hate im not the sort of scum bag that hangs about drinking, smoking n with knifes n shit so she allways comes up with reasons for me not to go but iv been finding out that the boys that go down there have been trying it on as in flirting n trying all sorts n what not althought she has been saying erm no and pulling away and that it still bothers me that people try and that they are a bunch of w**kers it only takes one to push it to far and shes pissed sometimes anyway it bothers me but everytime i mention i hate her goin she ether says dont worrie or ow so you dont trust me or yeah but you do no you cant stop me goin dont you ect im probably over reacting as i often over react and im well to protective when it comes to girls all sorts of little things piss me off so am i beeing picky and just making somthing out of nothing or am i right in hating the fact i dont no what go's on other than as mentioned above paranoid or concerned? haha

cheers Jack

thing is its not just lad she says like yeah well i hardly ever see my mates i just wana spend time with them and so what the boys are my friends and aparently i dont trust her and im insecure ect maybe i am maybe shes just making me think i am?

cheers for you help

im 16 dont really fanncey a youngen yet lol im still young enough to remmber what shit bags we can be haha and im get gain aids its a working progress lol

cheers

i'd probably be more fussed if you learnt to spell/use punctuation. The impression you give with posts like that is that you actually ARE one of those "scum bags" thats drinks in fields and makes passes on taken women. Obviously you're not, but maybe take that into account next time you're looking to set yourself apart from these people.

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J

[Balman]

i'd probably be more fussed if you learnt to spell/use punctuation. The impression you give with posts like that is that you actually ARE one of those "scum bags" thats drinks in fields and makes passes on taken women. Obviously you're not, but maybe take that into account next time you're looking to set yourself apart from these people.

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J

sorry was in a bit of a rush being moaned at to tidy up do course work ect,

will edit

[Dan6061]

i'd probably be more fussed if you learnt to spell/use punctuation. The impression you give with posts like that is that you actually ARE one of those "scum bags" thats drinks in fields and makes passes on taken women. Obviously you're not, but maybe take that into account next time you're looking to set yourself apart from these people.

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J

You really shouldn't judge people because of how they type on a forum.

It was obviously readable, unlike what some of the new members seem to type out...

"Oh look! He said 'im' instead of 'i'm'. He obviously tries to get with girls with boyfriends and spits on old people!'

I know it's annoying when it's not all typed out in sentances and paragraphs etc, but he could be rushing typing it out. It happens when you're angry/upset/whatever.

OnTopic: Jack, have you properly talked to her about how you feel about her going out with her 'mates'?

[Balman]

You really shouldn't judge people because of how they type on a forum.

It was obviously readable, unlike what some of the new members seem to type out...

"Oh look! He said 'im' instead of 'i'm'. He obviously tries to get with girls with boyfriends and spits on old people!'

I know it's annoying when it's not all typed out in sentances and paragraphs etc, but he could be rushing typing it out. It happens when you're angry/upset/whatever.

OnTopic: Jack, have you properly talked to her about how you feel about her going out with her 'mates'?

Cheers

But yeah i have said it bothers me and i don't like it but she see's that as more of a reason for me not to come in fairness its not the sort of place i would like to be. But if im there i know nothings going to happen to her or people are not going to try it on when im not there, or if they did id know that second and be able to deal with it then and there. If she really has to go i would rather be there with her i would feel better about it but she wont see it like that.

cheers for the help.

Jack

[Simon]

My troubles seem so insignificant compared to recent events in this thread, but just text her basically goodbye, as she didn't text back for 2 days after 2 texts, got a reply not long after saying she forgot and does want to meet again...

Now, good news, but seriously, if your interested you don't forget to text, busy or not, takes a minute to tell them your busy and you'll be in touch soon.

Meh, be good practise as i've never been on a date before... :$ but i can't see it going further then that, sadly, as shes a nice girl.

[Pauly]

supposed to be taking this girl out either tomorrow or friday have no idea where to go, any ideas ?

[Fixed Pants™]

i'm a tit.

You silly billy! There's still hope though? Unless the text you sent her was a mean one? If it was something like 'well i guess you didn't like me, i'll stop bothering you now, cya around ' or something, it can be redeemed (obviously not if it was 'i hate you, you absolute f**king bitch, not replying to my texts...' etc) just say, 'ah shit, sorry babe, i never seem to get anywhere with girls and i thought i had scared you off we can still meet up for a drink and a cuddle on friday though please? '

Good luck.

[Simon]

me - "Or not... Nice meeting you no doubt see you out in town some time. X"

her - "What? Sorry i didn't reply the other day completely forgot. Yeah would be cool to meet up sometime i'l just quite busy at the mo"

I replied basically saying 'ok, give me a shout when your free'.

Usually i'd expect a reply there, or what ever, but nope, just the one text.

Meh, not sure why i bother.

[Fixed Pants™]

Grasp that opportunity you donut!

Go for it, you've got nothing to lose, it's better to have tried and failed than to not have tried at all.