br3n Posted September 12, 2007 Report Share Posted September 12, 2007 women.nuff said for the moment. when i calm down i may elaborate.Jguessing from your avatar, abusive relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials rules Posted September 12, 2007 Report Share Posted September 12, 2007 (edited) Without the paedophile comments, what are peoples views on an 18 year old (just turned 18) going out with a 14 year old?Yes its me lolJust ive had mixed views, her 'rents are fine are about it, seems mine are too, except my mum coming out with the initial 'you're a paedophile' and a mate's mum calling me a cradlesnatcher! Ive had different responses from my mates and hers, some being good, others bad.I'm not really faced by these but just wanted a wider view? Edited September 12, 2007 by trials rules Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted September 12, 2007 Report Share Posted September 12, 2007 Depends what the developement gap is. Is she 5'4 or 4'5? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Nick Riviera Posted September 12, 2007 Report Share Posted September 12, 2007 Long distance, how the f**k do i do it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 guessing from your avatar, abusive relationship?haha, no not quite. she's just always been a damn spoilt child and expects the same from me while im paying for a flat and all the bills and stuff. the whole thing actually started because she wouldnt do the washing up lol. it's all good now though, i bought myself an RC Helicopter to make me feel better!Without the paedophile comments, what are peoples views on an 18 year old (just turned 18) going out with a 14 year old?Yes its me lolJust ive had mixed views, her 'rents are fine are about it, seems mine are too, except my mum coming out with the initial 'you're a paedophile' and a mate's mum calling me a cradlesnatcher! Ive had different responses from my mates and hers, some being good, others bad.I'm not really faced by these but just wanted a wider view?i did the same sort of thing when i was 17 and the girl was 14, and noone seemed to have a major problem, its just that it couldnt work out because she was in school, i was in college and there was just too much of a maturity gap which you dont see in the beginning.J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caleb Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 id wait till she was 16 at least mate, you're life, views and everything changes around then, she might not sound immature etc but she will most probably be very ignorant and naive to so many things, i know i was at that age Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munkee Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 Long distance, how the f**k do i do it?Do what im trying to do.. dont think about the bad things that could happen.. and just have a bit of faith. Last week ive been f**kin paranoid but meh had a good talk about it to some friends and its just all in my head really.. she says the same.. so f**k it.. live with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 Long distance, how the f**k do i do it?im just about to go through the same dilemma, with my girlfriend moving away to uni. got to have faith that over a years worth of relationship wont be thrown away just because of a couple of hundred miles or whatever. it's bound to be hard but if you trust the girl you're with and even more importantly you trust yourself, you will be fine.J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extreme_biker0 Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 (edited) im just about to go through the same dilemma, with my girlfriend moving away to uni. got to have faith that over a years worth of relationship wont be thrown away just because of a couple of hundred miles or whatever. it's bound to be hard but if you trust the girl you're with and even more importantly you trust yourself, you will be fine.JI thought trust would be the hardest thing. But it's not, it's plain and simply that you see them so infrequently it makes it painful. And arguments. Arguemnts happen, fact, but it's hard to get close again at a distance.Saying that me and my gf manage fine! Edited September 13, 2007 by Extreme_biker0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdamR28 Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 I thought trust would be the hardest thing. But it's not, it's plain and simply that you see them so infrequently it makes it painful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted September 13, 2007 Report Share Posted September 13, 2007 I thought trust would be the hardest thing. But it's not, it's plain and simply that you see them so infrequently it makes it painful. And arguments. Arguemnts happen, fact, but it's hard to get close again at a distance.Saying that me and my gf manage fine!i guess ill find out that bit when it comes! cheers for the heads up, hopefully it helped the other guy too.J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munkee Posted September 14, 2007 Report Share Posted September 14, 2007 Im a paranoid f**k that cant handle a long distance relationship...txt gf 3 times today no reply.. called her to see if everything was ok.. and after a while just went to answer phone...Whats running through my head?Shes getting rammed by another bloke. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monty boi Posted September 14, 2007 Report Share Posted September 14, 2007 I feel really bad my girlfriends friend just made a pass on me and i kissed her it just happened, i feel so guilty now, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted September 14, 2007 Report Share Posted September 14, 2007 I feel really bad my girlfriends friend just made a pass on me and i kissed her it just happened, i feel so guilty now,Best of telling your gf asap... usually better to involve alcahol... or mind deranging drugs... cos girls... who say they wont tell anyone will tell there bestaest mate who never tells anyone anything... who tells someone else who never tells anyone anything e.t.c. your gf may not find out cos none of em will have the bottle to tell her but still.... her mates will go cold on you and thats no basis for a real relationship... be upfront and honest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Without the paedophile comments, what are peoples views on an 18 year old (just turned 18) going out with a 14 year old?Yes its me lolJust ive had mixed views, her 'rents are fine are about it, seems mine are too, except my mum coming out with the initial 'you're a paedophile' and a mate's mum calling me a cradlesnatcher! Ive had different responses from my mates and hers, some being good, others bad.I'm not really faced by these but just wanted a wider view?Nah it's not as bad as people make it out to be. If you get on fine, nothing to worry about, just don't rush/urge her into things she not ready to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si-man Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 oh my god im such a shit bag. Talking to this girl I like now, she knows i like her as my mate decided to tell her last night, but for some reason I just can't tell her!! Never usually this bad, but for this one I am FFS, its like theres someone there an whenever I go to tell her I get twatted. I'm such a tit lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Has anyone seen my shoe? Posted September 15, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Just tell her, I dont get whats so hard about it.Most girls are cool with it, you'll be the same if they dont like you back.If not then you dont want to be with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe Sheehan! Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 oh my god im such a shit bag. Talking to this girl I like now, she knows i like her as my mate decided to tell her last night, but for some reason I just can't tell her!! Never usually this bad, but for this one I am FFS, its like theres someone there an whenever I go to tell her I get twatted. I'm such a tit loldo you think she likes you back? if yes, just tell her, she would obviously want/like to hear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kells Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Me and my gf are about to go back to uni so it will be a long distance relationship again. Last year i got really paranoid but now i know i was just being silly. If you trust each other then it's fine. We should still get to see each other most weekends so it's all good.2 years at Christmas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basher Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Without the paedophile comments, what are peoples views on an 18 year old (just turned 18) going out with a 14 year old?Yes its me lolJust ive had mixed views, her 'rents are fine are about it, seems mine are too, except my mum coming out with the initial 'you're a paedophile' and a mate's mum calling me a cradlesnatcher! Ive had different responses from my mates and hers, some being good, others bad.I'm not really faced by these but just wanted a wider view?Well like people said there will be a maturity gap, and when you was 14 how many relationships you knew of lasted long. Usually with a age gap like that both people want different things from the relationship and also theres the fact you dont want to feel you ever pushing her into things. I think in ways you would proberly be better off leaving it because the chances of it lasting arnt great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Quinn Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 oh my god im such a shit bag. Talking to this girl I like now, she knows i like her as my mate decided to tell her last night, but for some reason I just can't tell her!! Never usually this bad, but for this one I am FFS, its like theres someone there an whenever I go to tell her I get twatted. I'm such a tit lolShe initiate conversation? Cos if she just found out she liked you last night and she didn't like you back she would probably avoice talking to you so as to avoid the awkward situation. If not, tell her what she wants to hear Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Well like people said there will be a maturity gap, and when you was 14 how many relationships you knew of lasted long. Usually with a age gap like that both people want different things from the relationship and also theres the fact you dont want to feel you ever pushing her into things. I think in ways you would proberly be better off leaving it because the chances of it lasting arnt great.I'd leave it.Completely not worth the hassle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dai the Socket Posted September 21, 2007 Report Share Posted September 21, 2007 For f**ks sake.Situation is, got with my gf about 4 months ago, but told her I'm going to uni and explained that I don't think a relationship at uni would work (she's year below so is staying in halifax and im off to sheffield about an hour drive / ride away).Thing is.I'm really really really really really REALLY f**ked off about it and I don't want to split up with her. I didn't think that I'd get like this but I honestly couldn't bear to know she was with another guy because we get on so well.I dunno what to do. I don't know whether I should just go to Uni and see how stuff is, never know I might just meet a girl as nice bla bla bla but I mean after 4 months and we still really like each other, so stuff's going amazing. My parents love her and I really like all her family.Shall I do that or commute at weekends and see how that goes? It's not that I wouldn't trust her I think I'd just miss her loads. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Nick Riviera Posted September 21, 2007 Report Share Posted September 21, 2007 grow some bollocks and stick with her, if it doesn't work, then it doesn't work. rather than not giving it a chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munkee Posted September 21, 2007 Report Share Posted September 21, 2007 For f**ks sake.Situation is, got with my gf about 4 months ago, but told her I'm going to uni and explained that I don't think a relationship at uni would work (she's year below so is staying in halifax and im off to sheffield about an hour drive / ride away).Thing is.I'm really really really really really REALLY f**ked off about it and I don't want to split up with her. I didn't think that I'd get like this but I honestly couldn't bear to know she was with another guy because we get on so well.I dunno what to do. I don't know whether I should just go to Uni and see how stuff is, never know I might just meet a girl as nice bla bla bla but I mean after 4 months and we still really like each other, so stuff's going amazing. My parents love her and I really like all her family.Shall I do that or commute at weekends and see how that goes? It's not that I wouldn't trust her I think I'd just miss her loads. Your complaing about an HOUR drive........ its 1.5 hours for me from home to my gf's house and 4 hour drive from uni to her place and ive done those journeys multiple times. Seeing them at the weekend isnt as hard as you think it is. Atleast give it a chance for a while i miss my gf f**king shit loads especially since im still not back at uni at the mo and she is at college so i see her like once a week or once every 2 weeks at best. It drives me insane but in the end its going to be worth it . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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