Teenage Angst Communal Agony Aunt Thread

[Fish-Finger-er]

Not knowing what was going on text her asking she said she just wants to be friends, so then i asked about what happened last night and if it was a one off and she said maybe. Asked her what she meant and she replied with who knows whats going to happen

So now i have no idea what to do, go after her again or leave it?

A confused Alexxx

dont do it, never text a girl saying where do we stand, its just not a wise move, the way to do it, is just text her occasionally ask how she is, one of the main things ive found in my 19 years of life, never try, or if you do try, make it look like your not, you act eager, your too much of an easy catch to be worthy, certainly unless im very drunk, if a girl starts throwing herself at me, im well not interested, its just too easy.

just ride it out and see what happens, dont expect too much, and ask for even less, if somethings going to happen, itll happen.

Girls prefer the layed back approach, guys who are just generally nice and chuck compliments around and do stuff for people, rather than those that are just doing it cos they want to get in her pants, have a lot higher mission success rate.

[James Quigley]

Sounds like she just wants some 'no-comitment' sex.

Lucky git.

[Alexxx]

But said girl is my Ex we were together for a year before then we broke up and through the time have always admitted missing each other and got really close any times we've met

I'll try take it slow and easy with her

And been in her pants way too much fun to be had there

Alexxx

[Dr Dig]

Shot down ! :( i meen shot down. I hate msn its now aparent that when you cant see someone when you talk to them u cant be fully sure of how its being said. She did say maybe in a bit though cos ... ... but i didnt listen i wos devastated.

Edited April 2, 2007 by cal d

[Simon]

You asked her over MSN?

What the hell did you expect, marriage proposal?

So am i the only one that thinks MSN/Texting, hell, even ringing, is a really f**king wank way of asking a girl out, or talking about proper relationship issues, unless its of course the only means.

[Fish-Finger-er]

You asked her over MSN?

What the hell did you expect, marriage proposal?

So am i the only one that thinks MSN/Texting, hell, even ringing, is a really f**king wank way of asking a girl out, or talking about proper relationship issues, unless its of course the only means.

yea pretty much, i mean i could see why people used to write in the old days, when it would take 2 weeks to walk to the next town and back. or when your in the army/the nick etc.

but in everyday life, in this day and age. its kinda pathetic. i could drive to london in 3 hours, glasgow in 4.5. if a girls worth a serious relationship, shes more than worth the drive, or maybe im idiotic. (however at our age, a girls never worth a serious relationship, i know people that have been together since they wer like 15 and are 20 now, its kinda sweet in a way, but i also think its kinda sad, they sit in together watching mind numbing game shows, and largely ive found, when they break up, there both lost, as they dont know how to function without a life partner/ cant understand this going out partying evry week attitude, be young, have some fun, theres plenty of time for commitment once the liver packs in)

[Dr Dig]

No, i never asked her over msn but as shes away visiting family and wed been sorta seeing each other for ages we got talking about the weekend when shes back then she said "thing is i sorta see you as a really good friend now" i had no reply. I thought it was going well so you know was planing to move things up a notch i guess not.

[Token]

Was in a Jacuzzi with a rather attractive girl.

She let me in on apparent secret, which I think is where I'm going wrong most of the time, it's that girls apparently go absolutely crazy if you ignore them for a little while. I always think that girls flirt with you to see how much THEY are worth. If you play it well to eager then they think 'oh this guy is too easy, I'll go try on something harder'. Whereas if you play it, hard to get, then they get more in to you and try harder to get you to like them if you see where I'm coming from?

Anyone else shed some light on whether this theory works? Someone with past experience perhaps?

[Joe_Elding]

It works. Its always pretty hard to judge how long to leave it though so be careful or she might just give up?

[Token]

Ok so there's this party tomorrow night, just got a text from girl that I think's really attractive, but I try my best not to get hung up on her because she's now (coincidently) best friends with my ex. God hates me.

Anyway she just text me and asked If I was still going to this Invite Only party, where I have an invite and she doesn't. She wanted to know if I'd mind if she came along. So I replied saying 'yeah I'm still going to the party, why would I mind if you went? Its your choice'

Now if the theory is correct, instead of me being to eager and saying 'yeh come along it'd be wicked if you could make it, I'll buy you drinks'. She should take the bait.

Do I eventually let her come to the party? I have a feeling she'll only use me to get in and then probably go an get with someone else. Either that or I've hit the jackpot.

Edited April 2, 2007 by Scopse

[Fish-Finger-er]

Was in a Jacuzzi with a rather attractive girl.

She let me in on apparent secret, which I think is where I'm going wrong most of the time, it's that girls apparently go absolutely crazy if you ignore them for a little while. I always think that girls flirt with you to see how much THEY are worth. If you play it well to eager then they think 'oh this guy is too easy, I'll go try on something harder'. Whereas if you play it, hard to get, then they get more in to you and try harder to get you to like them if you see where I'm coming from?

Anyone else shed some light on whether this theory works? Someone with past experience perhaps?

yes it works, well in my eyes it does at least,if i go for a night out and i go out looking to pull, guaranteed, ill pull, but it normally means dropping standards to below an acceptable level. but theres been a few times where ive gone out, just looking for a night out with my mates, and almost always, you get a pretty fit bird chatting to you, wether it be, because your being natural. or be it because every other lad in there, just seems to be in there to score. i can honestly say when ive gone out lookin to pull a fit bird i never manage. but the times ive gone out with my mates lookin to have a laugh, or the last few times ive been out, while im still on bail,and wont pull while till its sorted out, cos its just wrong at the moment.(i.e if its just for casual sex, casual sex is what got me into this mess, if its for a serious relationship, the fact you could be going to prison, is a pretty big thing to keep secret) ive either pulled real fit birds(when i dont consider myself to be remotely good looking), or in the last few weeks when ive been out, ive turned down several uber fit birds, just cos it seems wrong at the moment. also explains why when you havent got a bird, its hard to get one, because your trying, but when youve got a bird, you always get offers and girls flirting, cos your not trying

Ok so there's this party tomorrow night, just got a text from girl that I think's really attractive, but I try my best not to get hung up on her because she's now (coincidently) best friends with my ex. God hates me.

Anyway she just text me and asked If I was still going to this Invite Only party, where I have an invite and she doesn't. She wanted to know if I'd mind if she came along. So I replied saying 'yeah I'm still going to the party, why would I mind if you went? Its your choice'

Now if the theory is correct, instead of me being to eager and saying 'yeh come along it'd be wicked if you could make it, I'll buy you drinks'. She should take the bait.

Do I eventually let her come to the party? I have a feeling she'll only use me to get in and then probably go an get with someone else. Either that or I've hit the jackpot.

let her come with you, so what if she uses you to get with someone else, youve learnt she aint worth it. if your in, your in, and also you can always play the pity card, as youve brought a girl with you, and shes stood you up, pity sex is still sex. and not only that, shell have mates there, if they ask her how she got in, suddenly mr scopse, is an all round nice guy, getting her into the party, and her mates then have a positive view of you.

[b'mouth trials]

Ive just broken up with my girlfriend after over a year of being together which i was ok with and thought was the right thing to do until now im having 2nd thoughts..

One of my mates has really moved in on her and theyve been seeing alot of eachother recently and hes always asking her out. Im really annoyed at this and cant stop thinking about it. I dont know if im angry, jealous, wanting her back or what, im so confused.

Im kind of annoyed as he hasnt spoken to me about this atall and has not asked my permission, not that he needs to but if i was in this position id feel like it was the right thing to do..

They havnt had sex or anything like that, theyve just kissed and i got the impression that she doesnt want to go out with him but its really annoying that i dont know if ive made a mistake or i dont know how or if i could deal with it if i saw them together as a couple.

Does this mean i still have feelings for her or is it normal for me to feel this way?

Someone must have been in this position before and if they could lend some help it would be great.

please help, Aaron.

[poopipe]

set fire to his house, he's a cheeky b*****d.

there's not a lot you can do about it - throwing a strop will just make you look like an arse

[b'mouth trials]

exactly

[Token]

I've been in that situation, it's so confusing. You have to be certain that you don't want her back, then after a while you really wont care that she's doing anything. Your probably having second thoughts because you were close to her for such a long time and now your friend's taken your position and theres no closeness like before, its like you've been replaced.

I reckon the best thing to do is get another girl just for abit of fun. Rebounds always work wonders!

[B.E.A.U]

my gf wont get out my bed:(

i wanna watch madigasca

[Mark W]

A nice, clean, subtle, simple solution would be to write "Bro's before ho's" on his car bonnet with toothpaste. Alternatively, spraypaint it on him/his house/his parents.

[Caleb]

hahahahaha at marks post, seriously though doesnt sound like a good mate, any chance you could get it on with his mum and purposely make him catch you?

[b'mouth trials]

Ha ha, no thanks, his mum is nasty!

I think im beginning to care less now, i think it might have been the initial shock of it all..

Im still not happy with it all though, and im a bit pissed off with my "mate" that he hasnt spoken to me about it, hes just acting like nothings wrong, im guessing he doesnt know i know..

owell, ill see what happens in the next couple of days..

Thanks for the advice guys..

[JT!]

It's normal to feel that way, even if you don't want to be with her. It'll pass.

[Davetrials]

my gf wont get out my bed:(

i wanna watch madigasca

bragging about anything remotly to do with sex with a GF makes u a class A twat

sorry but thats the way it is.

[Has anyone seen my shoe?]

Oh the irony...

[JT!]

Oh the irony...

[Matthew_Gibson]

HAPPY NOW YEY!

Edited April 9, 2007 by Matt Gibson

[Bucky]

long story

shona(the ex) ive been not quite 'seeing' her but basically meeting everyday and staying at each others house, but she is seeing another guy.

but last week i told her i dont want to share time with her and said she needs to make her mind up, me or him.

i havnt seen her since monday night now.

on monday a lass(charl) thats just started coming to our local cruise added me on msn and we weem to be getting on really well. met up on tuesday night at cruise and again got on really well.

now ive been txting her all week and were going to cinema today to see TNMT lol

how do i let shona know without pissing her off and getttig a brick through my van window from her fella???

shona rang me 5 mins ago and said would i be able to see her? i told her im stripping my van all day and wouldnt be able to. so she said she finished work at 7 and would liek to see me.

if all goes well with charl today it probably go further, which i think would be nice.

also totally off topic, gettign van resprayed when new engien is done, what colour pearl over my red????

cheers guys.