JD™ Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Yep. +1 and all that. If imagine the main thing she's feeling is that she didn't ask you to spend anything on a place for you both to live. She's probably feeling pressured into a decision she'd have probably made on her own and now might not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Don't you dare live your life when I've just spent so much on incredibly expensive shackles! You're only young once, Jardo, not everyone wants to just get to mid 20s and decide it's time to have a sensible job, a house, marriage, kids etc. There's a lot of world to see and parts of it literally have a time limit on to see them properly (age restricted visas). We know you don't see the point of travelling when you can get everything you'll ever need in Blighty but quite a lot of people would disagree with you. My best mate lost his mrs of 7 years over basically the same thing, you might want to re evaluate what you want out of a relationship because it doesn't sound like your ideas are going to match for another 10 years or more... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 'kin 'ell Jardo, good luck digging out of that hole! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 You find me one person who would be happy for their girlfriend to spend twelve out of eighteen months traveling around the world, expressly saying that you can't go with them with no consideration for what the boyfriends concerns might be and I'll eat a dog shit. She can f**k right off if she thinks I'm going to be some stay at home door mat whilst she travels the world and has a fantastic time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bing Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 You find me one person who would be happy for their girlfriend to spend twelve out of eighteen months traveling around the world, expressly saying that you can't go with them with no consideration for what the boyfriends concerns might be and I'll eat a dog shit. She can f**k right off if she thinks I'm going to be some stay at home door mat whilst she travels the world and has a fantastic time. I agree completely Mate. It's not all about them, sounds like she needs to grow up a bit and take a reality check Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Nobody disputed that, what they're saying is that the way you spoke to her (if that was what you said) was f**king shocking. If you want to get your way with a woman, don't threaten to leave her and infer she's a twat...Honestly wish you all the best though. Sounds like a very shit situation to be in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 You find me one person who would be happy for their girlfriend to spend twelve out of eighteen months traveling around the world, expressly saying that you can't go with them with no consideration for what the boyfriends concerns might be and I'll eat a dog shit. She can f**k right off if she thinks I'm going to be some stay at home door mat whilst she travels the world and has a fantastic time. Completely agree with that but that wasn't the original question. You simply asked if your reply was unreasonable, which it was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 It's infuriated me that she has had me here, missing her constantly for months on end when she plans on coming back, then going straight back out again. She will probably change her mind, it just annoys me that I haven't even come on the radar in her thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Maybe you actually don't mean that much to her? I know that's hard to believe, what with you being THE Jardo and stuff, but it sounds like she's just not that into you anymore. Maybe because of the neediness? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 I've never been described as needy before, that's a new one. I'm really not needy. But having spent 6 months away from my girlfriend, having constantly been told by her that she misses me and that she's looking forward to coming home again and blah blah blah out of the blue yesterday she just pipes up and says "I'm going traveling again in the summer. Oh and by the way I think I'm going to live with my parents when I get back because it will stop my mum moaning all the time" seems a bit odd really. Only two weeks ago she was telling me what kitchen she would like in the new house and how nice it would be to live on a main London train line so she could go into London to see all her mates again without having to worry about finding somewhere to stay or the hassle of getting back and how great all the schools in the Fleet area are and how it had so many job opportunities for her. Bearing in mind, 8 months ago she just came home from work and dropped into conversation "oh yeah, I quit my job today. I'm going to Australia at the end of term." She is pretty great at just changing her mind about things, I'm sure she will have changed her mind entirely the other way by tomorrow night. I guess this is how it must seem to other people when I talk about buying cars? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 I guess this is how it must seem to other people when I talk about buying cars? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Bearing in mind, 8 months ago she just came home from work and dropped into conversation "oh yeah, I quit my job today. I'm going to Australia at the end of term." She is pretty great at just changing her mind about things, I'm sure she will have changed her mind entirely the other way by tomorrow night. Doesn't sound like she changes her mind, sounds like she makes it up. Ohhh damn that sounds like a movie line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 yes, alot of time wasters indeed ill be honest, part of the reason i feel id be nervous is im pretty self conscious about wearing my hearing aids. Mate my tinder bio is "Anyone got a fetish for deaf guys?" haha.Little awkward being deaf and all but as long as you're not a creep, and genuinely get on with them it shouldn't matter. A girl came down from London and we got on really well, then she stopped talking completely, and it's been about 3 months I look back and actually realise how hot she is I wish I tried harder hahaha. But there's no use getting in a ruse and holding onto anything, expect people to stop talking altogether, that's the beauty of it. I tend to take the piss loads as that's my humour and the occasional one that catches on I tend to have a laugh with. Only met two girls off it though, although I haven't tried that hard really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 Mate my tinder bio is "Anyone got a fetish for deaf guys?" haha. Little awkward being deaf and all but as long as you're not a creep, and genuinely get on with them it shouldn't matter. A girl came down from London and we got on really well, then she stopped talking completely, and it's been about 3 months I look back and actually realise how hot she is I wish I tried harder hahaha. But there's no use getting in a ruse and holding onto anything, expect people to stop talking altogether, that's the beauty of it. I tend to take the piss loads as that's my humour and the occasional one that catches on I tend to have a laugh with. Only met two girls off it though, although I haven't tried that hard really. hey buddy, thanks for your reply wicked bio - i might have to do something similar yeah i've spoke to a fair few girls and they stop talking all of a sudden, which like you said its the beauty of it haha its true with it being a little awkward, id want to meet in a quiet environment rather than somewhere loud & looking like a mug asking them to repeat themselves which has happened many of times ha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 hey buddy, thanks for your reply wicked bio - i might have to do something similar yeah i've spoke to a fair few girls and they stop talking all of a sudden, which like you said its the beauty of it haha its true with it being a little awkward, id want to meet in a quiet environment rather than somewhere loud & looking like a mug asking them to repeat themselves which has happened many of times ha Haha no worries, it's almost an art to master in a weird way and sorta a lil bit harder being deaf as most people can get a number and call it, meet in a pub/restaurant and not worry about mishearing etc etc. Feel free to steal the bio or change it completely, you're from Devon and I'm in the South East so they wouldn't see both of us anyway . Well the current one I've been talking to about pizza for a few days, started off by asking if she liked humous and had ever tried licking it off a cock. She stopped talking then a few days later I said "My cock is covered in humous come help me clean up please", then she goes on to say I have an obsession with humous. At that moment my inner pizza came out and said "Noooo. Honestly Pizza is the obsession. Srs please tell me you like pizza." Now we're kinda talking about meeting up and making a pizza with a humous base. Sounds weird but, think how many guys they're gonna have saying like "Hey pretty, how you doing today?". Literally the worst thing to do, be different. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 Also if you're holding yourself back at all you're doing it wrong, there's tonneessss of them don't be afraid to f**k about and take the piss. I mean we're all different but yeah at the end of the day just don't hold yourself to someone haha, and the more creative you are with the initial few lines is what decides how interested they'll be. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndrewEH1 Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 Well the current one I've been talking to about pizza for a few days, started off by asking if she liked humous and had ever tried licking it off a cock. She stopped talking then a few days later I said "My cock is covered in humous come help me clean up please", then she goes on to say I have an obsession with humous. ...wtf? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dngr2self Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 I've never been described as needy before, that's a new one. I'm really not needy. But having spent 6 months away from my girlfriend, having constantly been told by her that she misses me and that she's looking forward to coming home again and blah blah blah out of the blue yesterday she just pipes up and says "I'm going traveling again in the summer. Oh and by the way I think I'm going to live with my parents when I get back because it will stop my mum moaning all the time" seems a bit odd really. Only two weeks ago she was telling me what kitchen she would like in the new house and how nice it would be to live on a main London train line so she could go into London to see all her mates again without having to worry about finding somewhere to stay or the hassle of getting back and how great all the schools in the Fleet area are and how it had so many job opportunities for her. Bearing in mind, 8 months ago she just came home from work and dropped into conversation "oh yeah, I quit my job today. I'm going to Australia at the end of term." She is pretty great at just changing her mind about things, I'm sure she will have changed her mind entirely the other way by tomorrow night. I guess this is how it must seem to other people when I talk about buying cars?Sounds to me like she's already tried ending it but she hasn't got the bottle to come out say it. The best case scenario is that she's only been fingered. Worst case (and most likely) is that she's getting nailed from coast to coast. Dump her. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 Sounds to me like she's already tried ending it but she hasn't got the bottle to come out say it. The best case scenario is that she's only been fingered. Worst case (and most likely) is that she's getting nailed from coast to coast. Dump her. Highly unlikely and not a thought that has crossed my mind, but somebody had to say it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george_seamons Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 She sounds like a massive hassle. f**k that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 She sounds like a massive hassle. f**k that. Yeah but so am I, so I can't complain. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 Highly unlikely and not a thought that has crossed my mind, but somebody had to say it. Gotta say, I agree with him (and others). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 (edited) Gotta say, I agree with him (and others). Probably says more about you and others than it does about me though. I absolutely know, 100% she hasn't and wouldn't mess about. We're talking about somebody I've known and been friends with for almost half of my life, she's not just some bint I've bumped into and hardly know. It's just a TF thing, somebody says something and the instant reaction is to tell the person they're being cheated on and they should probably kill themselves because it's obviously worst case scenario. It isn't remotely helpful to anybody, but it at least gives you guys something to talk about. Edited January 25, 2015 by Pashley26 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 More the wanting to finish with you part, like when she ruined your track day to talk about corn flakes or whatever the f**k it was, there's no way on earth that was the intended conversation! That and she doesn't seem at all keen for this stable life you've created at home, I think you probably represent stability for her but she can't have it both ways... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted January 25, 2015 Report Share Posted January 25, 2015 More the wanting to finish with you part, like when she ruined your track day to talk about corn flakes or whatever the f**k it was, there's no way on earth that was the intended conversation!That and she doesn't seem at all keen for this stable life you've created at home, I think you probably represent stability for her but she can't have it both ways...Yeh that was something I was trying to word, but gave up. Who gets into a relationship, then f**ks of Australia for 6 months? Then while they're away, has somebody setting up a nice cushy home for them to return to, only to decide that really they want to continue living with their parents before saving some money to go away again? Clearly someone who is not ready to settle down.Personally I think you did the right thing in getting together/staying together for this trip Jardo, but I'd say it's time to break up now unless she's going to come home and have a normal life.How long has she got left until she comes home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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