Matthew62 Posted October 30, 2014 Report Share Posted October 30, 2014 First time caller... She's upstairs packing her bags and heading home to Australia. For whatever stupid f**king reasons that I can't even think of I don't want to live in Australia. She wants to live there with her family and friends. She's not happy in Scotland, weather is shite, it's dark, she doesn't have many friends here and my family hasn't been good to her. I want her to be happy, I have no idea what do to. Are you not tempted to go and try it? I know you're not overly keen on your job so could a change of scenery help things? Life is meant to be good in Australia by all accounts so is it not worth a shot? If you don't want to go and she doesn't want to stay then you might have had your hand forced, it depends on how solid your relationship is I suppose? How have your family not been good to her? It's certainly not an easy situation and not a small distance by any means so it's only going to work with a huge compromise from one of the parties... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndrewEH1 Posted October 30, 2014 Report Share Posted October 30, 2014 We went last year for a month. After a week she was having panic attacks caused by her family. She never has them here. I've never shouted or been angry at her since I've known her. She has done both, lots and it's too much. The whole UK/Aus thing was going to come to a head soon anyway. Her visa is up in May and despite saying that she wanted to renew it. Recently she's been more angry and depressed that usual. A couple of weeks ago she said that she wanted to fly home for a month in November. She decided not to but she got very excited about it and made me realise more than even that she wasn't really that happy here being so far away from home. The whole family thing...I only have my dad and my sister. She has always thought that they didn't like her. I don't think that is the case. My dad also has issues, especially around woman due to my mother so doesn't always say nice things when he is stressed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ross McArthur Posted October 30, 2014 Report Share Posted October 30, 2014 Sounds f**ked up dude. Changed your mind about that stem at all? Wrong time to ask? Ok, sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew62 Posted October 30, 2014 Report Share Posted October 30, 2014 We went last year for a month. After a week she was having panic attacks caused by her family. She never has them here. I've never shouted or been angry at her since I've known her. She has done both, lots and it's too much. The whole UK/Aus thing was going to come to a head soon anyway. Her visa is up in May and despite saying that she wanted to renew it. Recently she's been more angry and depressed that usual. A couple of weeks ago she said that she wanted to fly home for a month in November. She decided not to but she got very excited about it and made me realise more than even that she wasn't really that happy here being so far away from home. The whole family thing...I only have my dad and my sister. She has always thought that they didn't like her. I don't think that is the case. My dad also has issues, especially around woman due to my mother so doesn't always say nice things when he is stressed. The first sentence is a bit worrying,…why does her family cause her to panic? It's not good if she's constantly having a go at you, it is probably her just taking her worries out at the person she's closest to, but that doesn't make it right. I see, I didn't imagine they'd done anything specifically to her, if she feels that they don't like her there's not much you can do to change that opinion. You did tell her that's just Scottish people right? It sounds like there's more issues than just the continental divide to be honest, I take it in no way you're inclined to give Aus a go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 so, thought id join tinder & meet up with a few girls... I've never met anyone over the internet, its going to be a new experience, anyone got any advice? i figure ill be abit nervous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 Don't use your best photos - use normal ones. Better to end up with fewer dates that'll each have a higher chance of success. Beware of girls who just want to chat sh'te and not meet up, or who want you to just follow them on Instagram and let them send you boring selfies. Might just be an Asian thing. If you're going to do it, do it properly. If there's potential, meet someone, don't be scared. I think a fair few people who use online dating sites didn't think it through, and then they bottle it when it comes to meeting up. If you're going to meet someone, do it sooner rather than later. You don't want to go falling for someone hard only to meet her and find her annoying as f'ck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 Don't use your best photos - use normal ones. Better to end up with fewer dates that'll each have a higher chance of success. Beware of girls who just want to chat sh'te and not meet up, or who want you to just follow them on Instagram and let them send you boring selfies. Might just be an Asian thing. If you're going to do it, do it properly. If there's potential, meet someone, don't be scared. I think a fair few people who use online dating sites didn't think it through, and then they bottle it when it comes to meeting up. If you're going to meet someone, do it sooner rather than later. You don't want to go falling for someone hard only to meet her and find her annoying as f'ck. Good advice, cheers man yes, im serious of meeting up, im fed up of being single now whilst my friends all have partners and such i guess once i get over my confidence issues, ill be well away i have had a couple of matches, but none of them have replied, i guess this is fairly typical? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 I never quite understand that - same happened to me. I've not met anyone off Tinder, but have off other sites. Maybe some people use it just for fun, to see who matches them. But then that's the thing with online dating in general, there will be tons of time wasters. Also it's amazing how different someone can look to their profile picture. Some people choose the most crafty angles, but it only sets them up for disappointment when they meet you and you barely recognise them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 yes, alot of time wasters indeed ill be honest, part of the reason i feel id be nervous is im pretty self conscious about wearing my hearing aids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bing Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 Dan cox is the tinder maestro on here, he'll give you all the tips you need haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 oh yes, ive seen ha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted November 6, 2014 Report Share Posted November 6, 2014 (edited) Good advice, cheers man yes, im serious of meeting up, im fed up of being single now whilst my friends all have partners and such i guess once i get over my confidence issues, ill be well away i have had a couple of matches, but none of them have replied, i guess this is fairly typical? How are you greeting them? Out of the 5 I was successful and met up with, I started off with by just being nice typically along the lines of "Hey (whatever her name is), hope you're having a great (whatever day it is), what are you studying at Uni?" You can then gauge what they're like with their reply. I find it hot when girls actually have shit to say and make conversation so if they actually took the time to reply more than a line or two then i'd carry on. Rather than "ye gr8 thx" And 4 of them told me how nice I seemed when we met up, they'll just be used to the boring "hey you okay?" so something that shows you're not a bit of a dick and actually took time to post more than 3 words will most likely go in your favour. My girlfriend showed me some of the opening lines she got on Tinder and I was just astounded. Literally "down to f**k?" as the opener. She told me how relieved she was that I didn't post pictures of my dick as moments, I was taken back like wtf do people actually do that?? haha And yeah, be prepared for them to instantly stop talking to you - it's nothing personal, they've just found someone better to talk to / someone they fancy more. It's happened tons of times to me and admittedly i've done it to a few and it's only normal. Just don't send them another message asking them if they got your message or something lol Oh and before meeting up with them, get their snapchat first and see what they look like at the time. Made that mistake with one. Edited November 6, 2014 by dann2707 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trials owns Posted November 6, 2014 Report Share Posted November 6, 2014 cheers for the reply dan For the few times ive sent message its been along the lines of "hey (said name) how are you today? you look beautiful" - so ill guess ill put more effort in that & try make it unique! but yeah, if they don't reply there's no point in trying & if they make conversation, i to find it pretty hot, rather than them just answering questions etc which just sucks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete.M Posted November 6, 2014 Report Share Posted November 6, 2014 rather than them just answering questions etc which just sucks! It makes me mad as well, but I guess they just aren't all that interested so the solution is to move on. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndrewEH1 Posted November 12, 2014 Report Share Posted November 12, 2014 (edited) Well it seems I'm single again after 18 months... Bittersweet really. Despite how much I care for her I couldn't really see a future with her we had lots of issues between us and lots of external pressures. Edited November 12, 2014 by AndrewEH1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted November 12, 2014 Report Share Posted November 12, 2014 (edited) I really f**king miss Wonder Woman. She's in Australia now, hardly ever has Wifi and every time I speak to her she is drunk, or I'm with people and it isn't an appropriate time to talk. She was on the Greyhound bus yesterday for 5 hours, I stayed up until 4 in the morning talking to her because it is the first time in months she has had wifi and I haven't felt like I am taking time away from her travels. By the end of a thirty minute FaceTime we were both almost in tears at how much we miss each other. I went off to bed and she said she was going to move to another part of the bus to watch a film with her new found friends. I went to sleep and about twenty minutes later she text me saying she just wanted to chat. I thought something might be up, or like she had something she felt like she needed to tell me. Which is probably just my own insecurity and nervousness about her being so far away. Turns out she literally just missed me and wanted to know everything about what's been going on in my life over the past couple of months and she wanted to tell me everything she had been doing. It was just so nice to talk to her and not feel any pressure, and when I woke up the next morning I had totally forgotten she wasn't here and for the first time since she left when I woke up I put my hands out to grab her and she wasn't there. I instantly felt like a total fanny, had a wank and went to the gym to try and man myself up. I'm feeling confident that all this time apart is really going to keep us strong when she gets back, and I've really learned a lot about myself in the last few months. Huge learning curve. I just wanted to splurge about it, pointless post really. Sorry for taking some of your time up to read it. Edited November 12, 2014 by Pashley26 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted November 12, 2014 Report Share Posted November 12, 2014 Thought that was headed to a shitty ending, nice to see something positive in here On a semi related matter, the mrs and I are moving to Oz in March Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 Little story here i was at this competition and there was this girl who won previously, and we talked she laughed at my silly jokes, but sometimes she just left.... as it turned out i can get her position in the competition if i get good scores, and everyone told me that i should win her last text was about the medal, no answer since what the actual fcuk? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 Little story here i was at this competition and there was this girl who won previously, and we talked she laughed at my silly jokes, but sometimes she just left.... as it turned out i can get her position in the competition if i get good scores, and everyone told me that i should win her last text was about the medal, no answer since what the actual fcuk? Kind of wondering if I'm the only one who doesn't get what's actually happened here Are you saying she's a sore loser? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) Kind of wondering if I'm the only one who doesn't get what's actually happened here Are you saying she's a sore loser?no she is extremely cute, but she showed signs about liking me, like trying to be close around me, talking to me, laughing at my jokes. . Ut might be something completely else like? and no worries,im wondering about that as well Edited November 16, 2014 by HippY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 Maybe she's trying to use her vaginal powers to make you quit the comp as you're the main challenge?Or, maybe she wants to talk to you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 Maybe she's trying to use her vaginal powers to make you quit the comp as you're the main challenge? Or, maybe she wants to talk to you? she already quited maybe she is angry? im not sure, she does not really responds to my texts even if i ask her just like"yeah" and im not a ladies man, noone wants to talk to me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted November 16, 2014 Report Share Posted November 16, 2014 Get tinder to build your confidence and practise! I know you need Facebook etc but surely you can make an account, add pics to it you don't have to add any friends mate! Just purely for pic purposes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted November 17, 2014 Report Share Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) Get tinder to build your confidence and practise! I know you need Facebook etc but surely you can make an account, add pics to it you don't have to add any friends mate! Just purely for pic purposes actually I am thinking setting up a professional account, like 2 pictures of me, no shared posts, not friending back everyone... you get my point like It might be an OPTION AFTER ALL eDIT:i MIGHT NEED to learn to turn the caps lock off, lol Edited November 17, 2014 by HippY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted November 17, 2014 Report Share Posted November 17, 2014 Sounds like she was just talking to you dude... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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