Spikenipple Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Haha great advice guys.And nah i can't imagine her lying about it - i'm actually quite pleased she told me instead of not. She said she'd rather start things off honestly instead of on a lie cause i would've only found out at a later point anyway.Every girl i've ever been with has almost always started off with something sexual so i'd rather fancy a change of plan this time round - she'll get a good nailing at some point though but she'll have to work for it i reckon!I know i sound barely sane by saying that - especially when a girl as fit as her is actually telling me to f**k her brains out - but i'd like to see how things turn out without sex!From my experience, sex just leads both members of the party into a false sense of proximity, and then you both realise you're not actually as close as you think... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reece B Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Just kill the Ex Bf, then you have her all to yourself.HAHAHAHAHAHAHA ive wanted to do that many times before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Has anyone seen my shoe? Posted January 16, 2007 Author Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Haha great advice guys.And nah i can't imagine her lying about it - i'm actually quite pleased she told me instead of not. She said she'd rather start things off honestly instead of on a lie cause i would've only found out at a later point anyway.Every girl i've ever been with has almost always started off with something sexual so i'd rather fancy a change of plan this time round - she'll get a good nailing at some point though but she'll have to work for it i reckon!I know i sound barely sane by saying that - especially when a girl as fit as her is actually telling me to f**k her brains out - but i'd like to see how things turn out without sex!From my experience, sex just leads both members of the party into a false sense of proximity, and then you both realise you're not actually as close as you think...Like I said boyo, just keep doing what your doing. Sounds likes its all gravy to me..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sorry to be the negitive, but to me it sounds like shes keeping you close, but keeping her ex closer. Personally I think you're a plan B for if she can't get back with her ex. If she shagged him on Sunday then its seriously not over with.Pull your head out the clouds, if she seriously wanted to be with you she'd not be f**king about like that, the fact she told you doesn't matter....would she have told you if you didn't ask? Of course she wouldn't.Meh, I may be wrong, but tread carefully Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikenipple Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Meh I can see your point dude but i'm not quite that pessimistic. I'm aware she has ex problems and I think i'd like a challenge so i'll help her out with them. I've not really got much else going for me at the moment anyway so i wanna build on what we have and ultimately reap the rewards at the end Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munkee Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 LMFAO.. i cant beleive you still give a shit about her after she f**ked her ex on sunday. It makes you look so f**king desperate its unreal.. you are being led on like a retard being pushed down a hill in a wheelchair. Go find a proper woman and not some slut who loves to get pounded by her ex's massive cock every weekend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikenipple Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Well you're a real sensitive one aren't you mate? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Token Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sounds like your in a hard position man. Reminds me of being a rebound. If I was in your situation, I'd be there for her no doubt because if shes perfect for you then you'd be a fool to give it up, but I'd also try not to attach myself to her too much because it could just be possible that you are a rebound (or shes trying to make her ex jealous). Don't expect it all to end with you an her lovingly together <--- most important bit. All I can say is make the safe bet and expect the worse case scenario, then you won't feel to bad if it does go tits up. As for you not giving in to her wanting sex, probally a good idea, but maybe she'll see it as you distancing yourself from her an it'll look like your not as interested. Good luck though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
munkee Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 Well you're a real sensitive one aren't you mate? why be sensitive.. stop following your cock and open your eyes and maybe you'll see how retarded and clinically f**ked the so called "relationship" already is Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocktrials Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 Ye but weren't you two together before Sunday?If you want fun, shag her, if you want a relationship, forget her, if i was close with a girl who slept with someone else, id say f**k off or suck it off Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davetrials Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 Right basically i met this girl a few weeks back, and with no exaggeration, she is the NICEST girl I've ever met. She's funny, confident, intelligent (this is a big f**king sigh of relief, seriously), playful but relatively sensible and really bloody hot too.We first met up a while back and we hit it off straight away - she's actually really amazing. As I got to know her better I found out that she relatively recently broke up with an ex-boyfriend of hers, who she still sees a lot because they're best friends or whatever, so that's fair enough. Having been through the arse end of a few relationships myself, i felt like i could help her so we had a talk about how she feels about her ex and shit like that, and she says that she doesn't really want to see him anymore, and that she has the determination to make that happen.So. She came to my house today, and we were chatting and flirting and shit and she started bugging me about sex etc so i asked her when was the last time she got laid - she tells me SUNDAY. Yesterday she told me the only person she's ever slept with was her ex-boyfriend, so to put two and two together....I feel really f**king dejected at the moment - i'm not a jealous type of guy but christ i had a long long conversation with her about it; she even claims that she likes me so so much and wants me to be all hers etc and i can't help but feel like she's really f**king pretentious now....I'm not gonna run a mile from her though, i'm gonna stick with her cause she needs it - helping her is something i'm willing to do for her if she'll let me...Another annoying thing about her is that she's bluntly told me to rail her on a few occasions but at other times has called me a man-whore cause she thinks that i'm easy; so just to piss her off i'm not gonna give her anything she wants until she stops offending me...she sounds like dirt, and a f**k head, jibb her off shes not worth it she sounds like a waste of time who will ALWAYS go back to her ex.and LMFAO its annoying that she wants you to pork heroh poor didums. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 f**k her, then f**k her off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 why be sensitive.. stop following your cock and open your eyes and maybe you'll see how retarded and clinically f**ked the so called "relationship" already isHmm, this is a tricky one so bear with me!On the one hand I agree with Spacemunkee, if I were in your shoes Spikenipple I'd be replaying the whole thing in my head, wondering what happened, did she go round there for sex or did she just go to see him and one thing led to another, who started it, did they kiss too or just f**k, was there any emotional connection, did he make her cum, was she screaming with pleasure or was it just a semi-drunken fumble kinda thing? On this level it's going to be something that will stay with you into the relationship, especially if her and him are "friends" so she'll likely go and see him from time to time, are you going to be able to trust her?On the other hand, I am in a very similar boat to you, the girl I am with at the moment has ex issues, he is a willy and was abusive, but he is still in love with her, calls her up all the time and he makes her feel like shit some days then other days she'll be chatting away on the phone to him and it's real confusing for me, I sometimes get paranoid that there is something going on. But I need to trust her or this relationship wont work. In many ways I think the same applies to you, epsecially as you are not technically with her yet, I have great respect for you keeping your cool and being rational and I think you are right to do so, she's technically single so you dont have the right to be angry with her.I totally see Spacemunkee's point and yeah it is a bit like she's leading you on. My advice, just cool it down, I'm guessing from what you've said that this is your plan anyway, to just take it easy and let it grow, so that's good. No matter what she says she's obviously not serious about you at this point so don't get serious about her or you'll end up being the mug that gets hurt. Just tread careful is what I'm saying, dont' think running a mile is the answer (sorry Spacemunkee) but definitely proceed with caution!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 did she go round there for sex or did she just go to see him and one thing led to another, who started it, did they kiss too or just f**k, was there any emotional connection, did he make her cum, was she screaming with pleasureI can imagine all the 13 year old members jacking off to that quote...do you write those gay romance novels in WHSmiths? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davetrials Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 they dont use words like that it would be more likedid her love milk squirt all over hes bulging orangatang while she was grumbling in ecstasy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 I can imagine all the 13 year old members jacking off to that quote...do you write those gay romance novels in WHSmiths?Haha, Mills & Boon, guilty as charged Daveythey dont use words like that it would be more likedid her love milk squirt all over hes bulging orangatang while she was grumbling in ecstasyHaha, you've obviously never had a flick through, those books are written for chicks man, they don't "squirt" or "grumble", they "errupt with wave after wave of ecstacy" and "breathe heavilly through full and silky lips"!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikenipple Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 Cheers all for your input, but the thing is that she doesn't actually appear to be fake at all - we're both aware she has ex problems so its' not just her trying to hide things from me. She's told me that she wants to get over him, and I've said to her that i'm there if she needs me but ultimately it's up to her to sort it out.Maybe i'm being naive but i reckon she is genuine, which is why i'm sticking with her. She rang me last night saying she's really worried she's gonna lose me, and that she just had a brainless moment when she nailed her ex. I've basically said to her 'dont take the piss and i wont run a mile' so if she for example sleeps with her ex again or whatever, that's it. Then of course there's the question of whether i'd know if she had or not; well i'm just gonna follow my senses when it comes to believing her or not.If needs be, i'm always willing to cut my losses and f**k off but in this case i don't feel it's necessary; not cause i'm desperate (thanks spacemunkee) but rather cause i'm interested and I wanna see how things go for my curiosity if nothing else! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 Cheers all for your input, but the thing is that she doesn't actually appear to be fake at all - we're both aware she has ex problems so its' not just her trying to hide things from me. She's told me that she wants to get over him, and I've said to her that i'm there if she needs me but ultimately it's up to her to sort it out.Maybe i'm being naive but i reckon she is genuine, which is why i'm sticking with her. She rang me last night saying she's really worried she's gonna lose me, and that she just had a brainless moment when she nailed her ex. I've basically said to her 'dont take the piss and i wont run a mile' so if she for example sleeps with her ex again or whatever, that's it. Then of course there's the question of whether i'd know if she had or not; well i'm just gonna follow my senses when it comes to believing her or not.If needs be, i'm always willing to cut my losses and f**k off but in this case i don't feel it's necessary; not cause i'm desperate (thanks spacemunkee) but rather cause i'm interested and I wanna see how things go for my curiosity if nothing else!This is so similar to how it is with me and this girl, seriously man, only I've got a few months down the line and things are amazing, but the ex issue does keep popping up, so be warned! But yeah, this girl is the most affectionate girl I know, I mean she has her moments like any girl but when it's good it's better than anything I've felt before. And she's the same, she says she's worried about losing me and she's always apologising for being a twat even if she hasn't been, and she texts me all the time saying she misses me and wants cuddles and stuff, and I just think would she really bother with all that if she wasn't really into me?So yeah, stick with it man, and keep in touch with me because I think we are in the same boat and if one of us notices it's sinking we should let the other one know about it!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beigemaster Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 Cheers all for your input, but the thing is that she doesn't actually appear to be fake at all - we're both aware she has ex problems so its' not just her trying to hide things from me. She's told me that she wants to get over him, and I've said to her that i'm there if she needs me but ultimately it's up to her to sort it out.Maybe i'm being naive but i reckon she is genuine, which is why i'm sticking with her. She rang me last night saying she's really worried she's gonna lose me, and that she just had a brainless moment when she nailed her ex. I've basically said to her 'dont take the piss and i wont run a mile' so if she for example sleeps with her ex again or whatever, that's it. Then of course there's the question of whether i'd know if she had or not; well i'm just gonna follow my senses when it comes to believing her or not.If needs be, i'm always willing to cut my losses and f**k off but in this case i don't feel it's necessary; not cause i'm desperate (thanks spacemunkee) but rather cause i'm interested and I wanna see how things go for my curiosity if nothing else!If she REALLY wants to get over him then ask her to cut off all ties completely (especially if you want a relationship with her). I don't know where this whole "oh my ex is like my best friend" made up fabrication came from but in short (IMO) it's a load of crap. IF 2 people has been sexually intimate then you can't just go back to being friends and all la de da without either party wanting to start something up again. The fact is sex is a clinical addiction (from various hormones relased for both male and female) and so if she still see's the other guy then that element will always be there. If she's REALLY genuine and you REALLY want a relationship then just lay your cards on the table and tell her that other man has to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spikenipple Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 (edited) That's actually really similar now you've described it better, although i'm not as far down the line that's pretty much exactly how she is - when she doesn't have credit whoever she is with she will blag there phone just to text me...so come to think of it i don't think she'd waste all this effort just for shits and giggles P.S. Fair point beigemaster Edited January 17, 2007 by Spikenipple Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davey Posted January 17, 2007 Report Share Posted January 17, 2007 If she REALLY wants to get over him then ask her to cut off all ties completely (especially if you want a relationship with her). I don't know where this whole "oh my ex is like my best friend" made up fabrication came from but in short (IMO) it's a load of crap. IF 2 people has been sexually intimate then you can't just go back to being friends and all la de da without either party wanting to start something up again. The fact is sex is a clinical addiction (from various hormones relased for both male and female) and so if she still see's the other guy then that element will always be there. If she's REALLY genuine and you REALLY want a relationship then just lay your cards on the table and tell her that other man has to go.In many ways I agree, and have been tempted to say this exact thing to my girl about her ex. BUT doing this is a good as saying "Basically I just dont trust you and think you are gonna cheat on me" and accusing her of that will just drive her away and make her resent or even worse actually hate you. Girls are sensitive, they dont like being made out to look like whores!Also doing this in no way proves that she is over him, she'll be doing it because you told her to not because she wants to. Getting over him is something she has to do herself in her own mind, if you take away her perception of him as her lover and dont replace it with anything (ie expect her to suddenly feel NOTHING at all for him) then she will long for him (we all want what we cant have etc) but if you let her replace it with a perception of him as a friend she will become comfortable with this and be able to move on..... with you!Davey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smo™ Posted January 18, 2007 Report Share Posted January 18, 2007 Could be breaking up. Long story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ogre Posted January 18, 2007 Report Share Posted January 18, 2007 I don't know where this whole "oh my ex is like my best friend" made up fabrication came from but in short (IMO) it's a load of crap.Disagree there, made up with two of my exs (ended up back out with one of them recently but we broke up +i doubt i will make up with her for a while ) but i'm really open+such with the other one was like 6 months before we started talking to eachother though. meh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted January 18, 2007 Report Share Posted January 18, 2007 In many ways I agree, and have been tempted to say this exact thing to my girl about her ex. BUT doing this is a good as saying "Basically I just dont trust you and think you are gonna cheat on me" and accusing her of that will just drive her away and make her resent or even worse actually hate you.OR, you could treat them nicely, give them all the trust in the world...and then they'll take advantage of it....face it, all girls are c**ts, just like lads. We all do things to benefit ourselves. Put it this way, if any of my ex's came round to my house and tried it on, I'd shag em, regardless if they had boyfriends or not. Simple reason is, I got cheated on once, and since then I've realised that obviously not all people were like me, who 'respected peoples boyfriends'.People who say they're not selfish are either having language difficulties or liars, lol. So, if no other lads give a shit, why should I/we? Meh, I'd say do whatever makes you happy, if you want a relationship, you go for it. People change all the time, you can't say this girl is a slag for shagging an ex whilst ever someone else...we've all done it, possibly on several occasions. But once you're actually WITH her, she'll change and leave him because she has no choice...but whatever you do, DON'T change for her!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robwalker Posted January 18, 2007 Report Share Posted January 18, 2007 Hmm, seems like the most appropriate place to be asking about this kind of stuff. As some as you may know i had a bit of trouble with that bit between my foreskin and japeye bleeding and nerli splitting. But now thats all fine and i seem to have sex just as normal as it used to be, but now im having more problems. I go for about 20 or so minutes, and then it just seems to go all floppy and we have to stop having sex. Now aswell as being terribly embarasing its also f**king annoying as im missing out on sex. Ive decided it may be down to too much masturbating, so im giving that a break. But if that fails where do i go next, Viagra?Anyone been in a similar situation, what did u do. I havnt had a bash for 3 days now and i jus dont know what to do with myself . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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