dann2707 Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 (edited) I'd wait it out mate, you never know she might come around after the wait (in terms of relationship)? Maybe she just needs some space atm? p.s you're excused. Edited March 11, 2014 by dann2707 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 I'd wait it out mate, you never know she might come around after the wait? Maybe she just needs some space atm? p.s you're excused. I think you're right. As heart wrenching as it is I think that's the mature decision. Normally I'd remove an ex from my life straight away (phone number, all social media etc) in order to get over things asap, but I can't this time. P.S I'm typing this and my housemate is blasting vengaboys. Spirits are lifting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilf Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 What comes with a hot girl is usually a triple dose of headf**k, mentalness and "it's all about me". Fitties always have a downside I know what you mean but she wasn't bad at all! Genuinely one of the most sane girls I've met except the fear of relationships but then she has fair explanation for that haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsMatt Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Moral of this thread is don't fall in love 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Seems really weird to me the way you did that all by text, it's not like you actually talked about it. The little man pictures on the side don't give it much of a personal touch I suppose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 I've said to her several times that I hate doing shit over text. It's not a good way to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsMatt Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 try and wrap the conversation up for now and carry it on in person Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Nothing more has been said. I'm going to let her have her space, and try and sort my own shit out for the time being. When/if we meet up in person I'll do my very best to resolve things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Sounds so shit dude, did not expect this at all. All I can suggest is just give her a bit of space and try resolve it in person. Just give me a shout if you ever wanna do something to take your mind off things, I'm just round the corner. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsMatt Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Just give me a shout if you ever wanna do something to take your mind off things, I'm just round the corner. Might have to be a loud shout (its ok im getting sick of the deaf jokes as well x) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Might have to be a loud shout (its ok im getting sick of the deaf jokes as well x) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsMatt Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Tip to any other lost souls: Anchorman 2. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King C Posted March 11, 2014 Report Share Posted March 11, 2014 Girls are just trying to avoid steak and blowjob day 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bing Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 Girls are just trying to avoid steak and blowjob day Oh yeah. Forgot about that. Best get some ribeye in 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FamilyBiker Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) ^^ba dum tsss! Edited March 12, 2014 by FamilyBiker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) f**k yeah bro's!!!!! Had a bit of a chat last night over a few bottles of wine, I told her that I did want it and she knows I do. She also knows that I have always compared all women to her, and that it's something I had wanted for a LONG time. But it wasn't her show, because quite frankly I am really happy with my life at the moment, so if she wanted to move things forward she had to be the one to convince me. Sounds like a whole load of pressure to put on someone, but after what has happened over the years with us I wasn't letting my guard down when it came to moving things forward. And to be honest I don't want to be her bitch, I just want what we have now exclusively because it is good and very stress free. The whole "friends with benefits" stalemate only leads one of two ways, either a relationship or the end of a friendship. She was the one to make the move, so I guess I just had to tell her the terms. Woke up this morning, she rolled over and gave me a cuddle and said "Basically I have slept on it, and I want to be with you still. But I don't want a big fuss over it and I don't want anything to change from how it is now. You going away for a couple of years has let us both grow up a bit and I think we are finally on the same level. So I guess I agree to your terms, where is my contract?" I said "sounds good to me, I'll draft up an agreement, do you want tea or juice with your breakfast?" Boom. Well happy about it all, feels like I have achieved something I have wanted for a very very long time. Edited March 12, 2014 by Pashley26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 So I text her about an hour ago. Turns out there really is no hope whatsoever. And it's all my doing. Devastated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 So I text her about an hour ago. Turns out there really is no hope whatsoever. And it's all my doing. Devastated. What did you / she say mate? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 What did you / she say mate? I don't really know what good posting about it in here will do. It's pretty clear how things are. And the advice I'd offer myself is to just get with another girl asap, as I have done in the past. This time it's very different though, properly heart broken. Can't even think about getting with another girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 I don't get what you're sorry for though dude, what promises? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) Basically being selfish. Too much going out, and telling her I'll stop it all. Lied a couple of times too, nothing huge but still. We had a serious talk last week about it all because I realised what an idiot I had become. She said that she wanted to stay together but it was time to sort my shit out, which I knew. Edited March 12, 2014 by harmertrials Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 mate. Try not to beat yourself up about it though, you'll just know for next time I suppose. I remember we had a chat aggggges ago in leeds about relationshippy stuff and I think you mentioned that sort of stuff? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harmertrials Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 mate. Try not to beat yourself up about it though, you'll just know for next time I suppose. I remember we had a chat aggggges ago in leeds about relationshippy stuff and I think you mentioned that sort of stuff? I don't really remember to be honest. I've avoided a proper relationship for about 4 years due to fear of getting seriously hurt. Hope it's not another 4 years of running away from decent girls again now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted March 12, 2014 Report Share Posted March 12, 2014 I don't really remember to be honest. I've avoided a proper relationship for about 4 years due to fear of getting seriously hurt. Hope it's not another 4 years of running away from decent girls again now. Remember that time you told me about that time you stayed over that girls whose Mum invited you for lunch? I say go find her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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