Blake Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Two days in and I feel f**king horrendous haha. Feels like I'm putting a front on to everyone, texting people etc. I think I'm more scared at if she's happier when we speak on Sunday. That shitd tear me apart I think. Anyway I don't want to be that guy who posts shit about how he's feeling all the time as I always looked down at people who do that so I'm just going to try and do things that take my mind off of it. Don't be afraid to post your feelings on here because you think you'll look like a tool. A problem shared is a problem halved, and venting is a good way to relieve stress. Even if you do clog the forum up with shit posts it doesn't matter because it could make you feel better, at the end of the day it's only trials forum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Agree with DrStix, TF not Facebook though My friend still hasn't lived down the 'I want to curl in a ball and die' status thing still, and that was two years ago now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Agree with DrStix, TF not Facebook though My friend still hasn't lived down the 'I want to curl in a ball and die' status thing still, and that was two years ago now. I hate facebook for this reason, it's so shitty, MSN and trials forum is all there needs to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 MSN still exists? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Yeah, in the form of skype Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 MSN still exists? They closed the servers didn't they? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Two days in and I feel f**king horrendous haha. Feels like I'm putting a front on to everyone, texting people etc. I think I'm more scared at if she's happier when we speak on Sunday. That shitd tear me apart I think. Anyway I don't want to be that guy who posts shit about how he's feeling all the time as I always looked down at people who do that so I'm just going to try and do things that take my mind off of it. Know exactly how you feel. It really sucks, every day feels like a week or even a month. As hard as it may seem, keeping your mind occupied with other things is the best you can do. I'd suggest sports - not bike trials but team sports with your best mates. Chose a sport which women don't participate in. Football / rugby / kicking yourself in the nuts... plenty of manly activities out there. Plan each day as if it was to be your last and if you feel like sulking and getting down, plan for that too - set yourself a time during the day when you're allowed to think about your relationship. Once the time is up, man up and carry on with your day. Sounds silly but it works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*gentlydoesit Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Two days in and I feel f**king horrendous haha. Feels like I'm putting a front on to everyone, texting people etc. I think I'm more scared at if she's happier when we speak on Sunday. That shitd tear me apart I think. Anyway I don't want to be that guy who posts shit about how he's feeling all the time as I always looked down at people who do that so I'm just going to try and do things that take my mind off of it. I doubt anyone is looking down on you bud, we've all been there at some point. Bottling it up can lead to bigger problems. If it all goes tits up sunday, post some nude pics of her on some random forum ( ) it'll make you feel better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Only got a moment and haven't read the last page or so. f**k it. To all having non-repairable issues that are getting you down; The best way to get over one girl is to get under another. If you still need help get to Plymouth for easter/buy my ticket to you and we'll sort you out once and for all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Just whatsapped me now saying she misses me. Shall Ijust ignore or what?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Ignore it, then in a couple of days be blunt with her, something like: So do you want to be in a relationship or should I stop wasting my time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Just whatsapped me now saying she misses me. Shall Ijust ignore or what?! From my limited experience I'm not someone who should be giving girl advice, but to me it sounds like you should take a break from her. Seems like she's just messing you around now and whatever it does it won't do you any good. I'd be inclined to ignore her at least for a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Ignore it, then in a couple of days be blunt with her, something like: So do you want to be in a relationship or should I stop wasting my time? This, the whatsapp is her saying "jump" a reply would be "how high"... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 No need to be a dick about any of it, just work out exactly what it is you want before sending anything. Once you know that all you have to do is be brutally honest, even if you know it's not what she wants to hear, and you're sorted. If you know that now, reply later tonight. If you don't, don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Seriously dude, I speak from experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 (edited) No need to be a dick about any of it, just work out exactly what it is you want before sending anything. Once you know that all you have to do is be brutally honest, even if you know it's not what she wants to hear, and you're sorted. If you know that now, reply later tonight. Not this. She wants a break, have a break. She can't change her mind just like that and have it her way again. Regain some control, ignore. Edited February 25, 2014 by Jolfa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake. Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 She started the break, you finish it. A break is about zero contact for a week or however long you agree on right? Maybe she's realised quicker than she thought how much she needs and wants you. Dear god imagine she's been reading all this haha with everyone saying "Take the power back" she'd definitely not be happy. Reply if you feel like it's right, but it does kinda defeat the purpose of a break. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Yeah she did say to me before the break like, "even if I call you if I go out please don't answer because I want to know what it would feel like not to have you in my life". So regardless of how much it's going to hurt to ignore the message, I'm going to. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 Yeah she did say to me before the break like, "even if I call you if I go out please don't answer because I want to know what it would feel like not to have you in my life". So regardless of how much it's going to hurt to ignore the message, I'm going to. She's even instructed you to that degree? Christ I'd make it a week and a day so she really knows, don't be replying at the stroke of midnight on the 7th day for gods sake 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HippY Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 . Dear god imagine she's been reading all this haha That would be interesting, just seeing at the reading part of the page "Dan2707XGF" When I made breaks like that I always made the the choice to going back, as the distance just torn me apart Its your call. But honestly, I would make her fight for me back after this happened. Let her show that she still loves you and need you, I mean she MUST prove it IMO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 (edited) Dan, she's being a f**king drama queen. It happens, we've all been there. When you're in a relationship, you seem to hit 18 months/ 2 years and start to come out of the whole honeymoon period, it's just what you do at that point that counts - a great man (paging Luke Rainbird) once spent hours chatting to me about the exact same shit with my ex. The whole thing with her mate's boyfriend's brother's aunt's nephew's dog's previous owner or whatever it was just screamed that something fundamental was wrong - why would she feel the need to kick someone out of her house? In short, just seems like a really complicated way of doing the whole 'it's not you, it's me' routine. Edited February 25, 2014 by Skoze 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted February 25, 2014 Report Share Posted February 25, 2014 You've learned well, young grasshopper. People try to play too many games and end up doing themselves out of all kinds of good situations. Don't be another person on that list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*gentlydoesit Posted February 26, 2014 Report Share Posted February 26, 2014 Does that need a responce? It is only a statment not a question afterall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted February 26, 2014 Report Share Posted February 26, 2014 No response required. Just play it cool Dan. Playyy it cool. Who knows, not saying this is what you want now of cause however you might spend a week apart and think "you know what? I'm better than this." And decide actually, you don't want to continue this relationship. And if you do that, it's only fair on yourself and her that no contact is made. Regardless of if you or her thinks she is making a mistake, because she is on the back foot now is the golden ticket to leave her if you want without feeling guilty or regretful. However, this opportunity also allows you to use it as a tool to make your relationship stronger if you decide this is what you want. I have stayed in a horrible relationship (Rainbird will vouch for that!) with somebody who made me miserable, who controlled me and made me an utter twat. And I can honestly say I made that person feel exactly the same way. Splitting after four years, living together for that long and building a life with them was really hard. But in truth, it's the best thing I have ever done. Anyway, I'm rambling. Basically, I am sure you will be ok as long as you just sit back and accept that this is a good thing for you and will allow you to do what YOU want. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted February 26, 2014 Report Share Posted February 26, 2014 Ignore it, then in a couple of days be blunt with her, something like: So do you want to be in a relationship or should I stop wasting my time? Too harsh in my opinion. Don't want to put her off. No response is needed, or if you really feel the urge, just respond with We can see each other on Monday (or whenever your break is up). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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