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Well, ask again, fool. Tell her you want to go for a serious Nando's, and this time on a day where netball can't cockblock you.

As for you, troySTON...

It sounds like she's already getting hooked on that. If she gets properly hooked on it it's going to take a f**k-ton of willpower to beat it. You need to try and put her off it somehow, but you need to catch her in the right frame of mind, else she'll pay no attention to it.

What happened to the thing that shows you when someone has replied whilst you're typing?

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If your "ex" is taking coke let her knock herself out. One of you has already broken your bond of responsibility and if she wants to go out and eat her own face let her.

And Sav work mates are work mates until there out of work mates. HUGE DIFFERENCE. If you think that your gonna pull each other to one side and go slam it out in the first team changing rooms then there is only a very slight chance. If you invite her out to something which is undoubtedly a date, i.e. film and and nice meal then your pretty guaranteed to get of least a kiss if you pay :P

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I'm gonna leave this girl alone, found out today she's been sleeping around during christmas in peoples cars in empty car parks. Girls who sleep around in such a short space of time is not really my kind of thing.

No thank you.

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I'm gonna leave this girl alone, found out today she's been sleeping around during christmas in peoples cars in empty car parks. Girls who sleep around in such a short space of time is not really my kind of thing.

No thank you.

Doesn't mean she won't be faithful if you get together, but does mean she's experienced and more likely to be good at the sexy sex. Gotta be worth a tap, at least once? :P

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...Do you have a car? Do you have a dick? Do you know any car parks? You could be next!

I do not own a car.

Doesn't mean she won't be faithful if you get together, but does mean she's experienced and more likely to be good at the sexy sex. Gotta be worth a tap, at least once? :P

From having conversations with her before about how many people we've had sex with, she said 6. Though now it's probably 8. And if I remember right 6 of those were one off, one night stand types. I doubt she's good at the sexy sex, for a quicky perhaps haha. Thing is, she told me once that one of her ex boyfriends wanted to cheat on her. Like them in bed together and he's texting another girl as to when to meet up for sex. Either he was a real douche or she's not good at the sexy sex stuff so he was looking for something better.

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Age old predicament: How do you actually get over an ex?

My girlfriend and I (of 3+ years) broke up last October (2011) and since we have both gone our separate ways. She was seeing some guy, and I had a few flings with various girls, but still never got over it. Before christmas I took a girl I met, out on a few dates. It was looking good and I felt really positive about moving forward with my life.

Problem is now, that looks like that route has gone pretty cold, my ex is in a proper relationship with said guy, and I keep finding myself looking on her facebook just being all soppy really. On a selfish note it makes me sick to think about her and someone else still, and the pictures dont help. We're not actually friends on facebook any more, as I thought it would stop me thinking about her if I didnt keep seeing her pop up. Yet I still cant stop myself from looking, then just generally feeling shit after.

At the end of the day, Im pleased that she is happy. Im just a cock and think about all this shit. Really just cant stop thinking about where we could have been now, or just missing her in general. Its getting a piss take well over a year after breaking up!

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Sounds like you're similar to me. It took me over 2 years to finally get to a position of not romanticising a certain ex-girlfriend despite her treating me extremely badly at the break up.

Fundamentally it's a case of being patient. That being said, continually allowing yourself to give validity to romantic thoughts about her (by virtue of repeatedly visiting them), checking up on her on facebook, etc. will blatantly slow the process because you're feeding the part of you that is still attached to the idea of her. Every time a desire to do those sort of things arises just remind yourself you would prefer to move on and distract yourself with something else. This takes a bit of exertion but only initially.

There's nothing wrong with taking time to get over someone you loved. This can relate to the depth of feeling and commitment you had for and toward them. In other words, it may just be the unfortunate consequences of qualities that, within a relationship, are very virtuous.

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Remove all possibles ways of contact. I was very attached to my ex, I would sit in the house all day crying and feeling like shit. Removed all contact with her, and things slowly got better. I talk to her once in a while on facebook now, and I feel perfectly fine now. She is pregnant with her new boyfriend and I have no problem with that, actually pretty happy for her since I know how bad she wanted to have children. Anyway, cut all the contact/references to her for at least 6 months.

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I like this and I quote it just cos.

They are all horrible in some way, some guys are too but girls like to mind f**k. Pretty damn well too.

Bollocks, only the shit girls do that, and you only ever see the shit ones because the good ones get snapped up by decent lads and they live happily ever after.

I'd say about half the girls I know have some undesirable traits to their personality. The other half are decent human beings.

One of the key things to look for IMO is that the lady in question has a hobby. All (without exception) the serious climber girls I know are level headed and wouldn't hurt a fly, yet most of the girls I know without a hobby, who spend all their free time and money on going out on the lash, are skets with no goals for the future or morals or any idea of what to do with themselves. I dunno whether that's because having a hobby takes conviction (you have to lay out a load of money and organise things), or whether it's because they have something to do, but it's just something I observed.

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Start a proper sport like climbing then, instead of this trials shite! :P

I think the important thing is just to do something. If you do something, and make new friends through it, then those friends are likely to go to a pub, and their single friends may also be at that pub. I introduced one of my climbing partners to a girl my girlfriend works with at my girlfriend's 21st, they're still together nearly 10 months later. Obviously that's just one scenario, but I'm just saying that if you do some kind of hobby where you meet new people a lot, you're more likely to find a ladyfriend. If she has similar interests then that's just a bonus.

I had the same kinda bipolar switching over my last breakup. Admittedly most of the time I hated her guts because she turned out to be a cheating, stealing, manipulative so-and-so, but it was a good 6 months I reckon before I never felt anything more. It's natural really, you'll keep pining over her until you find something better. It's human nature really. It's likely that it's the same reason I still miss all my trials bikes from time to time, even though I never rode them then and couldn't ride them now. They all had something a bit different or special that you can never replicate again.

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Makes perfect sense to me. And it's what I have done partly. I ride and race XC and road bikes, and really got into it last year due to this breakup. It's sadistic but with a fitness related sport I could really let my frustration out through it. It works to an extent. I do climb occasionally to in fact! Which I enjoy, but I can't afford to keep doing it too often. But that's irrelevant anyway.. I guess I just need to get out more, meet my friends and there friends and so in... Cheers chaps.

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