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Or talk about your knowledge of Fifty Shades of Grey, bitches seem to love that. JD hit on something perfect, if her mum seems to be interested in something, ask about it, people love thinking they're interesting, and if you can fake interest or if you know something and can have a conversation, that shit always goes down smooth.

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just don't come up as a f**k up who they wouldn't want their daughter to be with, even i've been thoroughly approved by girls parents and shit, you know what i can be like :P having a job, working towards a degree, not having a drug problem, all good things that make you seem like less of a douchebag, wear some shoes that make you look taller so they don't have to worry about tiny grandchildren and you're laughing.

suckit coxy i went there

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Honesty is very very important. Mother's especially look for someone kind and thoughtful, but ultimately someone who isn't afraid to be brutally honest when needed.

So just go to her Mum and say "Look bitch, I'm gonna ruin your daughter's with my penis unless you do something drastic to make her hate me, so bend over and take it up the pooper like a trooper".

You get your milf card and your anal card in one sitting, plus a guilt free parting from the girl when she's going off to uni soon anyway. Job done.

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I'll keep my eye on this thread for the rise and fall of dann2707...

Joke joke. Also, this 50 shades of grey business, she probably loves that shit and just won't admit it. The girls at my work say it's "okay" but they read it in their lunch time and probably getting wet over it.

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dan my son, have you thought about the possibility that said gf's mum is considerably fitter than her? If that turns out to be the case, jobsaguddun. get both of them stemmed :)

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Joke joke. Also, this 50 shades of grey business, she probably loves that shit and just won't admit it. The girls at my work say it's "okay" but they read it in their lunch time and probably getting wet over it.

Sorry for going off topic, but all the girls I've spoke to about it have said they skip the porno bits and just read the story. So I doubt they're getting too wet. Mainly because they're not even interested.

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Sorry for going off topic, but all the girls I've spoke to about it have said they skip the porno bits and just read the story. So I doubt they're getting too wet. Mainly because they're not even interested.

All the girls you've spoken to, are liars.

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Usually some sound advice can be found in this thread so I'll ask.

Got a peculiar problem with my gf, she seems really stressed out recently. Probably been like this for 6 weeks now. She's under a lot of pressure at work, uni (taking up a 2nd masters' course) and she can't find the time to attend all of the various events she really wants to see. Additionally, she seems to want to please everybody around her which is kind of difficult and she's really self concious because of that. I'm seeing a lot of mood swings, she's really stressed out all the time. I feel like I'm not getting enough attention (although I know she is doing everything she can) and as a result I'm becoming an additional stress factor because she is trying really hard to please me, rather than someone who could help . I really want to help but I don't know how.

She's going to a psychologist next week but I don't think this is a good idea because he'll probably just prescribe some drugs and I don't want her behaviour to be dictated by some pills. But then I can't tell her that because I know she won't take them if I disapprove and that might just make things worse... I'm trying to support her, I try talking to her but she doesn't like to talk about her problems. Anyway, she just texted me that she's in a bad way and wants to see me so I'm off.

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She's going to a psychologist next week but I don't think this is a good idea because he'll probably just prescribe some drugs and I don't want her behaviour to be dictated by some pills. But then I can't tell her that because I know she won't take them if I disapprove and that might just make things worse... I'm trying to support her, I try talking to her but she doesn't like to talk about her problems. Anyway, she just texted me that she's in a bad way and wants to see me so I'm off.

The not liking to talk about things problem eh? I had that with my ex (damn I miss her), she would text me but wouldn't talk face to face. Anyway, I would disapprove if my girlfriend (if I had one) wanted to take some prescribed drugs, which actually doesn't solve her problems if you think about it. Taking some drugs doesn't suddenly give her extra hours in a day to do more stuff.

Have you tried telling her to just do the important things when they need to be done (including you) and line up the less important things such as the various events, if she can make it for whatever dates they are, when she has the time?

Also, when she comes see you, take her to one of these events as a surprise? She gets to see you and she gets to go to these events. Win win.

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She seems really nice though, intellectual. Apparently if she turns out to love me, next month when my Parents go on holiday for a week she will let said girl to stop at mine which can only result in f**king awesomeness. Bet I screw it up hahah

Jesus, how old is your girlfriend, 12?

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An ex I dated for like 15 months was a work whore, I tried to work around it and be sensitive and understanding like "oh don't worry baby, its fine you can't see me this week I'll just jack myself off and go out riding". But in the end it got too much and I pretty much said either you cut your hours or we break up, I loved her and all that shit but it ended up feeling like a fake relationship because we didn't actually see each other any of the time. Nothing you can do man, just don't be as much as a pussy as I was because if shes anything like my wench will only waste your time and she won't change because in her head she feels like shes working towards doing something fantastic with her life, which is more important that you.

*wow that was kinda a vent about my ex*

She has a bf now but I don't think he actually sees much of her.

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An ex I dated for like 15 months was a work whore, I tried to work around it and be sensitive and understanding like "oh don't worry baby, its fine you can't see me this week I'll just jack myself off and go out riding". But in the end it got too much and I pretty much said either you cut your hours or we break up, I loved her and all that shit but it ended up feeling like a fake relationship because we didn't actually see each other any of the time. Nothing you can do man, just don't be as much as a pussy as I was because if shes anything like my wench will only waste your time and she won't change because in her head she feels like shes working towards doing something fantastic with her life, which is more important that you.

I totally understand how you must have felt but in our case matters aren't that serious. I was in the same situation as you in my last relationship and it ended badly because I just got really frustrated. My current gf isn't a work whore, she's got a 7 to 4 job, the rest of her time she spends going to concerts, theatres, art galleries etc. It's just that she wants to do too many things at once, too many people want to spend time with her and as a result she gets worked up about the lack of time or not being able to satisfy everyone around her. Things actually got a lot worse yesterday and today because on my way to her yesterday evening I binned my car because a woman didn't give way to me on a roundabout and now my gf thinks it's her fault for asking me to come over.

The not liking to talk about things problem eh? I had that with my ex (damn I miss her), she would text me but wouldn't talk face to face. Anyway, I would disapprove if my girlfriend (if I had one) wanted to take some prescribed drugs, which actually doesn't solve her problems if you think about it. Taking some drugs doesn't suddenly give her extra hours in a day to do more stuff.

Have you tried telling her to just do the important things when they need to be done (including you) and line up the less important things such as the various events, if she can make it for whatever dates they are, when she has the time?

Also, when she comes see you, take her to one of these events as a surprise? She gets to see you and she gets to go to these events. Win win.

That's a good point, told her that today and asked that she doesn't take any medication because it won't solve her problems.

We often go to these events together, I actually enjoy them although they are slightly boring from a trials rider / petrol head point of view. Art isn't my thing but after an evening like that I feel content to watch something really retarded on the telly so that it balances out. Kind of when you return from a proper exercise and just pig out in the kitchen. However, there's just so much going on now - film and art festivals - that it's impossible to attend everything she wants to see. And I think that's working her up slightly as well. I'll talk to her about prioritizing tasks, good point as well.

By the way, try not to think about how much you miss your ex. Just think about something else if you get hit by that feeling. It's little steps like this that will help you get over her. From what I recall you were together for quite a while so it's going to take some doing.

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I wasn't going to say anything on the medication front, but I feel I must now. Depression is a chemical imbalance that a person cannot control, in the olden days this was dealt with by a drug called Lithium, with completely removed emotion from a person (This is where a lot of the "Don't use drugs to help balance it out" comes from) nowadays there are tailored anti-depressants to help combat individual people's problems. I don't see why this is such a bad thing? If she's depressed due to external reasons it's a different matter, but from what you're saying she's a people pleaser, which comes across as someone who an internal problem as opposed to someone who's just lost a relative or who is struggling with problems. Self-medicating problems you have to work around is bad, but when it's something that regardless of how much self-reflection etc you do it won't go away, what else can she do?

As someone with 2 mental "disabilities" that you can't do anything about, I do get rather annoyed when people say "Don't take medicine" because if you can, and it's valid for your situation, why wouldn't you?

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Got to agree with Monkey here - my girlfriend's had/got/whatever depression and i'd definitely not stop her taking something that might help to sort it out if it all came back again. It's worth a go, if it makes it worse surely you can just stop it?

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By the way, try not to think about how much you miss your ex. Just think about something else if you get hit by that feeling. It's little steps like this that will help you get over her. From what I recall you were together for quite a while so it's going to take some doing.

When I'm at work I don't really think about her, but little things like even a mention of boyfriends and girlfriends remind me. I've gotten rid of everything she gave to me, as much as I hated it, it felt horrible seeing them around my room. I don't purposely think of her, she just pops into my head now and then. I'd do anything to get this girl back, call me an idiot but she is just too damn good to let go.

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Got to agree with Monkey here - my girlfriend's had/got/whatever depression and i'd definitely not stop her taking something that might help to sort it out if it all came back again. It's worth a go, if it makes it worse surely you can just stop it?

dunno man, I saw one of my best mate try and kill himself after a shite talking physcologist prescribed him anti depressants, they aren't a good thing. at the time my old man went to the unit where he was a 'resident' and asked him if he really wanted to end it all. my mate said no, my old man made him throw all the pills away and go cold turkey. 2 days later they let him out and he credits my old man to this this day for saving him. proof in my mind that tablets solved f**k all, when all he needed was a good old talking to and telling it like it is. by the way my mate is father to 3 young boys, and came to this situation by way of a failed marriage. it was probably the most disturbing thing I've ever come across

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Jumping on the whole tablets debate. I totally depends on exactly what they are and what they are treating but I don't approve of the ones my sister has took for her depression. They seem to make her go through strong ups or really bad downs and without it's a sort of happier medium. Top and bottom of it all, it is not pleasant at all to see the down side and i don't particularly approve of her particular type.

On a more on topic discussion, this lass i've been talking to i can't quite make out if she's giving me any of the right signals or not.

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After saying some real nasty things to one of my ex's to her face, i actually apologised for it tonight. But I'm not sure if she'll see it as if im trying to get back with her, hopefully not.

Generally the first time i have felt that bad about anything.

Just getting on one of her mates instead now.

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