TrialsIsHard Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Thoughts on abusing an ex's little sister? When you say little... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 The zoo thing is win, trust me. When I met Sheryl we went for awkward meal / coffee scenarios, then our third date was at Port Lympne zoo - was so much better and relaxed. I say meet for a coffee in the morning, get chatting and then head to the zoo, it'll loosen you both up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg1040 Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 She's 18 so it's all good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Yoshi Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 She's 18 so it's all good. How old are you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greg1040 Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Not long turned 22. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Yoshi Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Give her a good rattle then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Give her a good rattle backhand then. Fixed. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Jones Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 That sounds pretty much how i'd like it to play out if i'm honest. When I think back, asking my gf to the cinema on a first date was a shocking idea haha. I picked her up (was the first time i'd even MET her), we talked loads in the car. Saw the film then took her home haha. How bleak! I was pretty damn nervous too. I miss her. dang, she was hot and came onto me - that never happens haha. Think i'll organise it with her tonight, I do like this whole no pressure thing though. Good call girl. I have been with my girlfriend now for 3 and a half years, our first time out together was actually a trip to Belgium in 6th form. so that was brilliant as we were walking around everywhere talking about everything that was there. when we came back from belgium (we were not going out yet) i asked her if she wanted to come round and chill, that she did, we played on the playstation, had a casual drink then watched a film together. It was brilliant, so relaxing, calm, peaceful and not to mention fun and a major laugh. Best thing that you can do is just have fun man. dont go all out and break the bank, just have some fun, do things that interest the both of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 Cinema is full of win for a first date. You don't have to talk to the wench but can still touch her up in the darkness and get lucky later after a breif pre-agreed chat about the film. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haydon_peter Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 Cinema is full of win for a first date. You don't have to talk to the wench but can still touch her up in the darkness and get lucky later after a breif pre-agreed chat about the film.When in Essex... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 When in Essex... Yea once on a first date with this girl we went to see some shit film like Step Up 2 or something, but I was running late so we drove all the way there but just missed the film, so instead we got a Mac Donalds and had a quickie in the back of my car in the car park outside haha good times! 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan6061 Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 Simpson's my hero. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 28, 2012 Report Share Posted March 28, 2012 Women can totally help you drink too much. Leanne is deciding that twisting the knife is a cool and fun thing to do. I'm getting a bit bored of pretending I'm getting over this situation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Women can totally help you drink too much. Leanne is deciding that twisting the knife is a cool and fun thing to do. I'm getting a bit bored of pretending I'm getting over this situation So stop pretending, cut all contact and get the f*ck on with your life instead of kidding yourself that someday everything will work out rosey and you can be together in some kind of fantasy world at the end of the rainbow. As long as you know what's going on in her life, and she has the means to contact you and hurt you (which she will, regardless of any prior arangement) and you can contact her and pour your heart out whenever you're feeling low, then you'll never get over her and drive yourself nuts. There's no polite way of saying it, you're being a twat about it fooling yourself and you're just hurting yourself letting her play any sort of role in your life whatsoever. It's not easy cutting all ties and burning all bridges, but it's literally the only thing you can do if you want to keep your mind and get on with life. And I'm also sick of reading about it because it's just like reading about myself a few years ago, and how much of a mug I was at the time, truely cringeworthy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Well it's been a couple of hours since I said goodbye to her. The issue is she's now best mates with my sister, so cutting all ties isn't possible, without cutting my sister out too. Totally get that it's boring and cringeworthy, so I shall leave my mugginess for elsewhere Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Well it's been a couple of hours since I said goodbye to her. The issue is she's now best mates with my sister, so cutting all ties isn't possible, without cutting my sister out too. Doesn't mean you have to have any involvement with her at all, stop making excuses, stop talking, stop hurting yourself. Explain this to her in your own little desperate way if you must, but leave it at that and stick to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 (edited) Doesn't mean you have to have any involvement with her at all, stop making excuses, stop talking, stop hurting yourself. Explain this to her in your own little desperate way if you must, but leave it at that and stick to it. That's pretty ridiculous. If she's in my sisters life shes in mine - if your family isn't that close then cool, but mine is. I'm not desperate for her, I'm not trying to win her back. I don't want her back, but does that mean I'm not allowed to be a little bit pissed off when she digs into me with no provocation? Sorry, forgot a man is meant to not give a toss when they're accused of ruining someone's life, when what they meant to do was the opposite... Shit, isn't this what this thread is for? I'm just venting, not after ego stroking but also not after being told I'm desperate or wrong for having residual feelings for the woman I've known I'd marry for like 7 years. Edit: sorry, I know you're just trying to help, and I'm not ungrateful. Hopefully you'll remember a few years ago when people 'didn't understand' even though they probably did. Edited March 29, 2012 by JD™ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Derulo, it's totally natural to be cut up about it all mate, it's just about trying to work out a way to get things moving in the right direction again (which other than when there's been some kind of contact you've been doing pretty much perfectly it would seem). You were with Leanne for bloody ages, that doesn't disappear which goes without saying. Completely cutting contact is one of, er, more than one ways of helping to move on. Works for some (like Rich) and not for others. If you're still after some form of closure then it's unlikely that it'll come along now if it hasn't already, other than when one of you gets into a new relationship of some form. If Leanne's being a douche deliberately then it's going to be damage control. Cutting her out totally isn't an option, so don't, but make it clear to her that if she wants to be a prick then you don't wont to be a part of it. If those situations come along, distance yourself from them as best you can 'til they've blown over. Again, easier said than done. Have a chat to your sister about things - from what I can remember you guys got on pretty well though I don't know exactly how close you guys are, so I'd imagine she's probably got her head screwed on enough to help you work out where you stand and what you need to do. Worst comes to the worst, Bristol next weekend will sort you out short-term Edit; I know you weren't really looking for 'advice' or whatever so feel free to ignore that lot, turned out rather more of an essay than I'd planned (though it provided a nice distraction to the financial management report I'm writing up at the mo so thanks!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 That's pretty ridiculous. If she's in my sisters life shes in mine - if your family isn't that close then cool, but mine is. I'm not desperate for her, I'm not trying to win her back. I don't want her back, but does that mean I'm not allowed to be a little bit pissed off when she digs into me with no provocation? Sorry, forgot a man is meant to not give a toss when they're accused of ruining someone's life, when what they meant to do was the opposite... Shit, isn't this what this thread is for? I'm just venting, not after ego stroking but also not after being told I'm desperate or wrong for having residual feelings for the woman I've known I'd marry for like 7 years. Edit: sorry, I know you're just trying to help, and I'm not ungrateful. Hopefully you'll remember a few years ago when people 'didn't understand' even though they probably did. I get it what you're saying, but it sounds like your sister will be the excuse to continue contact. In the same way as people who try to quit smoking in stages where they're only allowed a fag under certain circumstances (with a drink for example), they start engineering those cirumstances (drinking more often) so that they can have a fag... As Luke said, the only times you seem to come on here to discuss the matter is when you've been talking her, so it obviously causes you pain to do so, even if it wasn't intended to do so by either party. If you just didn't talk to her (or kept it to a bare minimum - for example when she's with your sister and you happen to be there at the same time) then the pain would be somewhat reduced. The way you still talk about her would suggest you do want her back, even if that's some way off in the future, you don't want to stop talking to her, and you don't want to stop loving her, and all despite the obvious associated heartache. As a result it sounds as though she's resorting to hurt tactics to create some distance between you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 (edited) It's all good Luke, advice is always welcome from all. I guess it's like most things - we as humans generally know the 'right' thing to do, but circumstance stop us. I've given 'right' advice too many times to not know it, but we all know it's inherently harder in situ. It's all good though, I'm definitely getting some closure through all this. My theory with ex's has always been that if someone is accusing you of moving on, it probably means that they are and they want you to be so they can feel less like a dirty whore. I've been right every time so far! Good on her if she's moving on, just wish she could just say that rather than pussy foot around it and say shit which just isn't true. Figured I probably deserved a bit more but breakups bring out the worst in people. Clearly Bristol next weekend is high on my list of awesome distractions, so up for that! Edit: Rich, you talk sense, cheers. Edited March 29, 2012 by JD™ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 If it helps you can have Nichols for the weekend. Special rate just for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 Yay! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krazykid009 Posted March 31, 2012 Report Share Posted March 31, 2012 Clearly Bristol next weekend is high on my list of awesome distractions, so up for that! Suddenly my weekend has become free of all non bike related activities if you guys are here riding? James Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted April 1, 2012 Report Share Posted April 1, 2012 Not really in keeping with the thread but it's an update! Finally got with Faye after the gig last night - i am one very happy chappy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted April 1, 2012 Report Share Posted April 1, 2012 If my stalking proved successful, well played sir, she looks pretty tasty! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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