JD™ Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Not cool. We're led to believe that it should be cool, but it's not, and we're really really pissed off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaybs41282 Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 How would she react if it was the other way around....? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Not cool. We're led to believe that it should be cool, but it's not, and we're really really pissed off. I know what you mean. I told her that I'm a bit mad she would even ask or consider it. She just said "Okay I won't go." How would she react if it was the other way around....? I've told her that loads of times before with situation related to her ex. Now I think she's mad at me because it's one of her favourite bands that she can't go see, it's Childish Gambino. I had a listen on youtube quick at a few songs, junk in my opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaybs41282 Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Why is she pally with the ex? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Why is she pally with the ex? I've asked that too. She said they can't be a couple cos all they did was argue but can be friends. I don't get it either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaybs41282 Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Sounds a bit odd dude... Does she still fancy him? Are they flirty... Actually f**k that I'd feel completely undermined by that willy, take him to one side and have a word. You know where nice guys finish...! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Sounds a bit odd dude... Does she still fancy him? Are they flirty... Actually f**k that I'd feel completely undermined by that willy, take him to one side and have a word. You know where nice guys finish...! She says no and I do believe her. They are not flirty, I know they still text but very rarely. I don't know this guy at all, and I don't live close to her (she lives in Clapham and I'm in Southampton). All I know this guy is somewhat crazy cos he see's a psychiatrist as she's told me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaybs41282 Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Judgement call then I guess... You don't have to trust him as long as you trust her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 I don't trust him one bit. I'm still saying no. And I just got one word answers from her after texting her, she's mad, but I'm standing by my no. Siiiigh, women. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Siiiigh, women. Seems more like a siiiigghh men issue. It's win win. If she goes and on the off chance she does something silly with him. You know she can't be trusted and you can be thankful you're out of a relationship which isn't going to go anywhere. If nothing happens, then you get points for letting her go. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weirdoku Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 Seems more like a siiiigghh men issue. It's win win. If she goes and on the off chance she does something silly with him. You know she can't be trusted and you can be thankful you're out of a relationship which isn't going to go anywhere. If nothing happens, then you get points for letting her go. I like your thinking. I would give your some heroes chocolate right now if I could but I can't, so have a rep point I guess haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaybs41282 Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 JT = Hitch Logical advice! Thinking outside of the box....I always just divert to rage and mistrust....followed by regret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 I'm gonna potentially upset you here, but this is the truth: If she doesn't respect the fact that you don't want her to see her Ex (Which IS f**ked up, despite what anyone says), then she's not worth it. Either that or she's very young and seeking attention (Because it's a sure-fire way to get it). She should understand your feelings on the subject and turn it down. Favourite band or not, that's messed up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LukasMcNeal Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 If she really wanted to see the band she would have got tickets herself...no? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 If she goes and on the off chance she does something silly with him, you would probably never find out about it, or at least not for a very long time. Ex's is not at all cool, I did still talk to mine when I got with my current gf and I wasn't really over her (though I never would have acted on it, because she's a willy). Girlfriend found out, I stopped talking to ex, simple as. For her to be mad at you for saying no is a bit sus, I'd either be getting rid or having strong words with either party involved... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 I think this kind of situation depends on the people involved. For example, my last proper relationship, I still kept in touch with an ex. I made it clear to the current girl that she just had to trust me that that was over, and that it was her I was choosing to be with. Similarly, the girl I was seeing before I left the UK was still really good friends with her ex, and sees his family and stuff. I've met him, and it was cool. Sometimes an ex will still be a friend - you realise a relationship won't work out, but don't want to totally cut off. If I'd told this girl in the UK to stop speaking to her ex (and by proxy a significant chunk of her friends), she'd have told me to GFY, simply because 1) it's implying I don't trust her and 2) who the f'ck am I to tell her who she can/cannot see? Rule of thumb: if you can't trust the girl, or get suspicious, or do any of that lame sh't like looking through the messages on her phone, then either she's wrong for you, or you need to learn who you can/can't trust. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 What Tony said, but with a harsher line. If you can't trust her, she isn't worth it. I couldn't trust my last ex, turned out I was right all along and she was never worth it. I completely trust my current girlfriend, mainly because we were good friends/best friends for a year before we got together. We've spent that much time together as friends it still seems wierd to be together now. We actually used to go out on the pull together sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 And it works both ways. How would you like it if a girl started laying down demands? A new girlfriend once came to my place and saw a photo of me that was on my wall of me with another girl (a stunning blonde, who's just a friend, but a good one for about 10 years). Anyway, the new girl ignored every other photo on the wall (mainly of bikes and sh't!) and made a comment like "Oh, who is she then?" sounding all suspicious. So I said, "Just a friend." Anyway, later on I mentioned this girl because her birthday was coming up, and new girl made a sarky comment, again insisting there was some reason for her to feel threatened by the girl in the photo. So I said "Listen, I've known that girl for about a decade, and I've known you for about 5 days, so don't start trying to force me to make choices." If a girl doesn't like it that I'm still friends with an ex (and, actually, I went to a gig with one when I was seeing someone else, and it was cool) then she in turn can go f'ck herself. (Later in life a different girlfriend said she liked that I was uncompromising. Have your principles and stick to 'em!!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 If she doesn't respect the fact that you don't want her to see her Ex (Which IS f**ked up, despite what anyone says), then she's not worth it. Either that or she's very young and seeking attention (Because it's a sure-fire way to get it). How can he expect her to respect that he doesn't want her to go with her ex? There's nothing to respect. I think it's pretty sad, my wife goes to the bar all the time and her ex is often there. Nothing ever crosses my mind at all. Just seems so wrong to demand that she not go. I don't get how people can be in relationships with people they trust so little. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted December 23, 2011 Report Share Posted December 23, 2011 Fully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bing Posted December 23, 2011 Report Share Posted December 23, 2011 So I said "Listen, I've known that girl for about a decade, and I've known you for about 5 days, so don't start trying to force me to make choices." Well said dude. women are getting too big for their boots these days. All full of mistrust for even casting a glance in the direction of a hottie. Usually ends up in "i suppose you want to go shag HER then do you?", To which the reply is a very creeping "i`ve only got eyes for you my darling". Have you lads found its ok for a bird to speak to a bloke anytime, but when you want to speak to a girl you are trying to get in her panties? i could go on forever, but i`m not. rant over Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted December 23, 2011 Report Share Posted December 23, 2011 The best thing to do is lay it down early on. Just make it clear that you're not going to put up with sh't like that. I knew someone who put girl's numbers in his phone with fake blokes names because otherwise his bird would find them and get piss'd off about it. That's a good indicator that it's time to trade her in, if you ask me. F'ck all that shit. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted December 26, 2011 Report Share Posted December 26, 2011 Girls are f**king mental. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted December 27, 2011 Report Share Posted December 27, 2011 Girls are f**king mental. Yup. And mindreaders apparently... How does one even know this after 2 texts? haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted December 27, 2011 Report Share Posted December 27, 2011 I can tell if wife's anything but alright in one text too haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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