RobinJI Posted March 29, 2011 Report Share Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Oh for f**ks sake, things have been going really well with the girl I was talking about for the past couple of days, met up yesterday and had a really good time, texting/talking on-line loads, mostly with her starting the conversation. Finally felt like I was getting somewhere then tonight she just had a massive rant about her ex again. It just feels like I'm beating my head against a brick wall, she needs to quit spending hours reminiscing over the bell end if she ever actually wants to get over him. Grrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never know, tomorrow she might be back to how she was, but I'm now going to have a shit night worrying about what's happening with us. To add insult to injury she even had a rant about how she always used to make things for him when she couldn't afford to get him anything nice, and how she wished someone would do things like that for her. A couple of weeks ago it was her birthday, I couldn't see her because she had college, so I drove to the beach and took a bunch of really nice photos of "happy birthday" written in the sand in both English and Russian (she speaks Russian by the way). I thought that would have counted as doing something really nice for her, but apparently it seems to have gone pretty much un-noticed. It's like I could be the most perfect guy for her possible, and wave the fact I was in-front of her face and she'd just ignore it because of some dick head who never even came close to treating her right in the first place. I know I probably just need to be more patient, but I just feel like I'm being pushed to one side, and I don't want to miss my chance because of shitty circumstances. Life's not perfect, you can't always pick when you meet someone, and I wish she'd just realise that just because we've met at a shit time, it's still worth a try, hell, she might even end up happy, but at the moment it's as if she's perfectly content wallowing in self pity. The trouble is, at the moment I'm getting to the point where I'm either just going to make a move in the hope that once she's with someone else (me) she'll realise how much happier she can be without her ex, or I'm just going to end up explaining that this is how I feel to her, which will probably piss her off to start with, but it may also knock some sense into her, and she might even feel bad about pissing me off, and it could make her notice all the effort I've been putting in, and how it's exactly what she seems to go on about wanting all the time, making it work in my favour. Why does this have to be so cocking complicated. Edit, the stupid thing is, if I'd posted something 3 hours ago, it would have been about how amazingly things are now going, and how I was pretty sure it was a definite thing that we'd be together sometime soon, but now I'm back to square one not having a clue where I stand. Girls really don't have a clue about how they effect guys do they. PS, rant over now, I'm sure I'll be back with a clearer mind tomorrow, I'm just pissed off because I thought I was so close and now it's like I've just been knocked back a whole bunch of steps. Edited March 29, 2011 by RobinJI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Topsy Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Yep, the feeling you get when something nearly ist right and gets messed up out of nothing is sh-t. Got that about 3 times this month (various reasons, not only girls, don't worry lol) Do you actually happen to know what her other friends are saying about her drowning in self pity? I mean to know, that would [perhaps] not be a bad idea. Because, if, let's say, her best friend thinks it's a good idea to whine around (who knows? we don't really understand girls, do we? ^^), then you perhaps would have a different approach. On the other hand if her friends also think it's stupid, you could sort of work together? Hope you roughly understand what i mean. Having problems putting my thoughts into good words and making the sentece look like it might make sence, sorry. :/ Well, by me it also isn't working as planned. Funnily enough, we only have contact once a week now. (came to that from every day..) Guess one reason is her mobile not working. but if we have contact, se seems to enjoy it. Confuses the f*ck out of me. Things like that ofcourse come at the wrong time when you actually would have enough other problems. My life's kinda screwed atm (not because of her, but haveing a gf would help.. ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Robin i think you have two main options... Leave it for a bit and see if she forgets about him eventually and realise you are the better man. Which could be a longggggg time depending on how much he actually meant to her. Or mention something to her up front. Tell her how much of a turn off it is for you (not sexually obvs) that shes mentioning her ex at every possible moment. Potential new girl texted me as she couldnt sleep. Nice to know im thought about i guess. And she said "im surprised you even want to talk to me". Which to me means she doesnt think shes higher up and better than everyone else. Its weird falling for someone who you dont know... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Robin i think you have two main options... Leave it for a bit and see if she forgets about him eventually and realise you are the better man. Which could be a longggggg time depending on how much he actually meant to her. Or mention something to her up front. Tell her how much of a turn off it is for you (not sexually obvs) that shes mentioning her ex at every possible moment. Potential new girl texted me as she couldnt sleep. Nice to know im thought about i guess. And she said "im surprised you even want to talk to me". Which to me means she doesnt think shes higher up and better than everyone else. Its weird falling for someone who you dont know... Cheers, yeah, I'm thinking that too, and I'm favouring the second option at the moment. I want her to think she can talk to me about anything, but at the same time, this much talking about her ex isn't helping either of us. She's not going to get over him by constantly talking about him. I guess it is understandable, and I probably over-reacted a bit last night, especially saying she's wallowing in self pity, that's probably a bit of an exaggeration, it's just not that easy from my end to sit there listening to it all. Especially when she's going on about how she want's all this stuff in her life, which I can give her, but she's not letting me at the moment. I'm feeling a bit better now, been texting a bit this morning before she started college and she seems to be being cheery again and stuff, which is cool. It's just knocked me off the high I was on yesterday. Only being able to see each other once a week at the moment is making things take so long, and it sucks having to wait a week before I can see her again and make any progress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Can imagine the frustration. I think katie sees me as a gay best mate now, she's in Bristol and just keeps telling me about this one guy she really likes but he treats her like shit. I'm always saying why is she constantly thinking about this one guy when he seems like a right cock! Think she knows where she stands with me now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 There's a pattern in this thread from page 1 right through to now. 'Nice' guys wondering why the girl they are interested in is going for the 'right knob'. It's a pattern because it's what girls go for. Be a 'right knob' for a bit, get her interested, but couple that with being the nice guys you all no doubt are. Nice guys finish last. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 To some extent, yep. I wouldn't go down actually being a 'right knob' though as much as just providing some contrast. People take part in extreme sports because they're a bit different and there's some skill involved which is what makes them interesting. I doubt there are many people who instead of thinking "I'm going to ride today" think "I'm going to walk around in circles", as there's nothing too it. Same rules apply here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 There's a pattern in this thread from page 1 right through to now. 'Nice' guys wondering why the girl they are interested in is going for the 'right knob'. It's a pattern because it's what girls go for. Be a 'right knob' for a bit, get her interested, but couple that with being the nice guys you all no doubt are. Nice guys finish last. Think it depends who you're actually talking to, on which social level. How can you be a "right knob" though? In what qay, I have a general gist but don't just push em aaway completely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 I think the main thing is to just be someone that they talk to their mates about - if they're talking about you then they're thinking about you, and if they're thinking about you then they aren't thinking about anyone else. Contrary to popular belief, girls don't actually talk about the nice stuff a guy does to their mates, not much at least. Give them something to semi complain about but then do the normal 'nice' stuff too to balance it out and give them a reason to actually like you rather than think you're a knob. I suppose a previous experience would sum it up better. When me and Leanne were just starting to get together I'd have no problem with cancelling our plans last night because 'something had come up', then letting her know later that night that actually I was just sitting around playing Fifa or whatever. That'd piss her off so much that there was no way I was leaving her head, so when I'd do something nice the next day she'd be thinking of me, but the anger would have died down. I dunno why it works, but it does. I suppose it's something to do with making yourself somehow unobtainable - we all know we get more female interest when we're in a relationship, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 Yeah, I know what you mean about being someone they talk to their mates about. The trouble with this girl is that I don't know any of her friends, and I mean none! I only know her through one of my friends, who she's since fallen out with, so I have no idea where I stand. However I know she talks to her parents about me, and I'm pretty certain she's interested, if she can just get over her ex. The other day we were talking about stuff, and she slipped up saying 'If we get together.... I mean, erm.. if I get a boyfriend..." so the idea of a relationship's obviously on her mind. And after-all, we were introduced with the idea being romantic, not just mates, it's just kinda got complicated since. When we saw each other on Monday it was great, and it felt like we were right on the edge of something happening, but I didn't try anything because I didn't want to rush things. To be honest, my post last night was a pretty epic over-reaction, I'm feeling a lot more positive about things again now, I can see how she's still upset about her ex, I just wish things would hurry up, or we could see each other more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 You don't need to know her mates, they'll know all about you way before you even meet them - if you're doing it right. If you're not a conversation point then you're not being talked about... Then again, I'm glad not everyone is a conversation point - I wouldn't be talked about so much otherwise *gets out of own arse* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 I think the main thing is to just be someone that they talk to their mates about - if they're talking about you then they're thinking about you, and if they're thinking about you then they aren't thinking about anyone else. Contrary to popular belief, girls don't actually talk about the nice stuff a guy does to their mates, not much at least. Give them something to semi complain about but then do the normal 'nice' stuff too to balance it out and give them a reason to actually like you rather than think you're a knob. I suppose a previous experience would sum it up better. When me and Leanne were just starting to get together I'd have no problem with cancelling our plans last night because 'something had come up', then letting her know later that night that actually I was just sitting around playing Fifa or whatever. That'd piss her off so much that there was no way I was leaving her head, so when I'd do something nice the next day she'd be thinking of me, but the anger would have died down. I dunno why it works, but it does. I suppose it's something to do with making yourself somehow unobtainable - we all know we get more female interest when we're in a relationship, right? I understand. Wooo I just got called a twat by her! Think it's working. Gonna aim to be called a cunt next 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 I understand. Wooo I just got called a twat by her! Think it's working. Gonna aim to be called a cunt next You go girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 You don't need to know her mates, they'll know all about you way before you even meet them - if you're doing it right. If you're not a conversation point then you're not being talked about... Then again, I'm glad not everyone is a conversation point - I wouldn't be talked about so much otherwise *gets out of own arse* Haha, yeah, I got what you meant, I was pointing out that I didn't know her friends because it means I don't have a clue weather or not she's talking about me, because I don't know them to ask them. I'm certainly not perfect, so she's got plenty to talk to them about, haha. In fact when we met on Monday I managed to be 45 minutes late because I messed up what time we were meeting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 30, 2011 Report Share Posted March 30, 2011 I'm sure it'll work out, and if it doesn't you'll have both learned something for next time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Dunstan Posted March 31, 2011 Report Share Posted March 31, 2011 I heard my girlfriend poo last night, I don't think I can get over it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted March 31, 2011 Report Share Posted March 31, 2011 Girls don't poo. It's a man! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Dave Anscombe Posted April 1, 2011 Report Share Posted April 1, 2011 had a quick shag down an alley way with some bird ive known for about 30 mins LOL good times Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted April 1, 2011 Report Share Posted April 1, 2011 had a quick shag down an alley way with some bird ive known for about 30 mins LOL good times Looooll You'll be wanting one of these then I guess? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted April 1, 2011 Report Share Posted April 1, 2011 Shes asked if she can come on a road trip with me in a few weeks niceeee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaun H Posted April 2, 2011 Report Share Posted April 2, 2011 I heard my girlfriend poo last night, I don't think I can get over it. I've been with my missus for 5 and half years and I still haven't heard her fart. True lady status: confirmed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted April 2, 2011 Report Share Posted April 2, 2011 I heard one of my ex's straining and then the plop once. Was quite a terrible moment in my life. Then I found out there's a distinct possibility she was semi-man, a really rank piece of work - nice one God. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted April 2, 2011 Report Share Posted April 2, 2011 I had to look at my wife's poo the other day to decide if it was dark brown or black. Ahhh married life. There's a pattern in this thread from page 1 right through to now. 'Nice' guys wondering why the girl they are interested in is going for the 'right knob'. I disagree with that. Girls don't like the 'right knobs' as you put it. They like guy's who're confident. The problem is the knobs usually more confident, and the nice guys are usually shy. The trick is to be a nice guy with confidence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted April 2, 2011 Report Share Posted April 2, 2011 I disagree with that. Girls don't like the 'right knobs' as you put it. They like guy's who're confident. The problem is the knobs usually more confident, and the nice guys are usually shy. Where did I say they like them? I said they were interested in them. Interest != like. Nice is boring. It's the same reason why the most 'interesting' good guys in movies are the ones who do it the 'wrong' way, like John McClane or whoever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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