JD™ Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 I should probably have pointed out that the whole nice guy thing I'm doing with her isn't an act, without bigging my self up too much, when it comes to girls I really am the nice guy. I'm aware this doesn't work amazingly, hence why I've been single for waaayy too long. I'm really not about to cut her off completely, so I'm favouring omgnoseat/rhythm_101's plan more at the moment, I don't want to play games with her, and I don't want to do anything that will risk loosing her trust. As you can see, I'm not great at this stuff. I do think/hope things will work out eventually, I'm just getting kind of impatient. The trouble is I know you guys are probably right, and that going away for a bit will probably help things by making her miss me, I just wish there was a way I could do it without hurting her in the process. You won't hurt her, she gets the prize of you at the end Seriously though, you're not going for being hurtful, but for not being needy. What we as guys think is needy is not what girls seem to think of a needy - they pretty much see any out of the blue phone call as needy, whereas you might just see it as having a chat. Not saying that it's a hard and fast rule for everyone and every situation, and you're more than welcome to think your situation is one of the ones I've never ever come across, but being overtly aware of a womans sensitivity during the 'dating' (and pre-dating) phase pays off dividends in my experience. Especially when you then choose to ignore it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Topsy Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 You won't hurt her, she gets the prize of you at the end Seriously though, you're not going for being hurtful, but for not being needy. What we as guys think is needy is not what girls seem to think of a needy - they pretty much see any out of the blue phone call as needy, whereas you might just see it as having a chat. Not saying that it's a hard and fast rule for everyone and every situation, and you're more than welcome to think your situation is one of the ones I've never ever come across, but being overtly aware of a womans sensitivity during the 'dating' (and pre-dating) phase pays off dividends in my experience. Especially when you then choose to ignore it. Is it terrible if I quickly ask what is meant with "needy"? Because the rest of that post seems to be very useful knowledge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) This, completely! I'm not saying for a moment you're putting on a nice guy act (I'm a nice guy too for reference! ), you just need to realise when you're being too nice and it's of detriment to your situation! It sounds like you know this already... Is it terrible if I quickly ask what is meant with "needy"? Because the rest of that post seems to be very useful knowledge. Needy, clingy, won't leave the f*ck alone-y, more like a whiny kid than a prospective partner, requires attention one is not willing to give... To whatever degree Edited March 25, 2011 by Jolfa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Cheers guys, I am always pretty concious of trying not to be clingy, although I've just realised we haven't actually gone a day without contacting each other since we first met, but it's been pretty 50/50 as to who's contacted who first. Even if it sounds like I know what you're saying already, it never hurts to hear it from more people, as I'm more likely to pay attention to it, I'm the kind of person who always realises what they should have done after they've already done the wrong thing, haha. So far I've basically been trying to let her know that I care about her, without being clingy, or coming on too strong. I'm feeling a little more positive about things today after having a think about everything, and I do think I'm on the right track, I just wish things would hurry up. I'm partly being so paranoid/impatient because she's way better looking than me, and she'd have no trouble at all getting with pretty much anyone else she wanted, so it's sort of a case of wanting to get to a position of security asap so I don't miss my chance with her. I'm not saying it's just her looks that interests me at all, it's really not, but it does make it harder to feel confident that things are going to go to plan when you know you're the one reaching higher than usual. Although that said, she has told me she thinks I'm much better looking than her ex, and she fell for him pretty hard. She seemed genuinely shocked when I said I didn't think I was any better than average looking, which is a good sign I guess, lol. (I really am average at best, lol, but if she want's to think otherwise I'm not about to correct her, haha) I'm also feeling a bit better about things because I woke up to a text simply saying 'morning xx', which always makes me feel a bit better, knowing she's actually thinking of me before I've even done anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 I'm also feeling a bit better about things because I woke up to a text simply saying 'morning xx', which always makes me feel a bit better, knowing she's actually thinking of me before I've even done anything. Is that because you didn't text her last night on Trials-forum's advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Anscombe Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Another relationship fail here! she said im just to much of a mad head ! i tried to calm down But i just ended up not feeling like my self so she had to go shame really as she was ded nice ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Of all the guys in the world, she called YOU a mad head? Sounds like she's the mad one, amirite? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Anscombe Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 you dont know half of what goes on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Because he's a sheep, rite? He's blind to the truth! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinJI Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) Is that because you didn't text her last night on Trials-forum's advice? Actually I was talking to her on Facebook last night for a quite a while during and after I wrote my first question. haha. I'm not sure it's the right time to go away for a bit at the moment. I'd rather not at all, but even if I do decide it needs to be done, I don't want to do it just yet. Things seem like they've started to be going somewhere in the last few days, so I'll see if things work out without me deploying any sort of schemeing plans before I do anything like that. Edited March 25, 2011 by RobinJI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 In such a depressing mood and just seen a pic of my ex thats just been uploaded on FaceyB and danggggg she looks hot f**k her though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 just seen a pic of my ex thats just been uploaded on FaceyB and danggggg she looks hot f**k her though Exactly same thing happened to me the other day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 In such a depressing mood and just seen a pic of my ex thats just been uploaded on FaceyB and danggggg she looks hot f**k her though Link? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 no? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Well I don't know whether to f**k her, as you instructed, without a pic. I mean, I probably would because my standards are very low, but it would be handy to know what I was letting myself in for. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) Bit like this but her boobs are smaller. Edited March 25, 2011 by dann2707 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Well I don't know whether to f**k her, as you instructed, without a pic. I mean, I probably would because my standards are very low, but it would be handy to know what I was letting myself in for. Haha, champion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Bit like this but her boobs are smaller. Consider it done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dwarf Shortage Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Just seen a pic of my ex's sister that's just been uploaded on FaceyBook and danggggg she looks hot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Link? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 Y U NO REPLY TO PM?!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dwarf Shortage Posted March 26, 2011 Report Share Posted March 26, 2011 Sorry ha, I always have a notification from a pm that I've read but it won't disappear, PM'd both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 29, 2011 Report Share Posted March 29, 2011 I'm still talking to that girl like 6 times a week since Xmas, the girl who i've never met and only know 2 pics of! She's always the first to say hi on Fbook chat n that. Other day when discussing a party that was coming up near my end, i dont even know the girl whos party it was to be honest (only know of her from school) she went "You should come on friday if you want" Don't know whether to take that as a hint or if she's just being friendly. She seems nice though, she's petite as well (my fav...yum) as she was telling me she fit into a 9-10 year fancy dress outfit the other day. lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted March 29, 2011 Report Share Posted March 29, 2011 Just go with it man, she sounds a bit stalkerish, and 2 pics on Facebook suggests she either never goes out of the house, avoids the camera or has some serious self image issues, but you might get your end away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted March 29, 2011 Report Share Posted March 29, 2011 Stalkerish?! hahaha with regards to what? She likes drinking at the pub a lot :/ which made me think she'd be fairly chunky but apparently not. My mate said she's probably horribly disfigured on one side or something. If her head fell into a deep fryer I get best of both worlds, vagina intact and her face is tasty to lick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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