raoulduke Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Tell how you feel, do what your well trained gut feels is right, and all will be cool... At least if you go cinema you can go out after for a beverage and you have something to talk about... No excuses for awkward silences!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Remember, 19 months is still short enough to be classed as somewhat of a "honeymoon period". The thought of "shit, this is real" can subconsciously creep up on both of you and freak you out a bit, whether you realise it or not. If that's the case then as JD said, you've gotta think about whether or not you want to make a proper go of things and be together. Speaking as someone who's been there and took the blue pill (or "Operation GTFO", as it was known at the time), bailing helped me realise I should have ended things about a year before, but that's totally irrelevant as it only applies to my situation and between myself and Lou. If you can see yourselves together in the future, work at it. You reap what you sow blah blah blah. "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got" - If things are stale, something needs freshening up At least if you go cinema you can go out after for a beverage and you have something to talk about... No excuses for awkward silences!! There's never an excuse for awkward silences, unless you just don't work together! If you've run out of things to say before even talking to a person it's not looking good for you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronz Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) <snip> Edited July 26, 2010 by Bronz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Yeah. I got a lot of thinking to do; do I patch it and fix my short term, or end it and secure my long term? A part of me thinks the following may be partly to blame… I'm 20, as mentioned… she's 30. The age thing has never, not even once (even with our parents, friends etc) ever posed a problem, but maybe things are just different…? The fact you've brought it up in your reasoning means it's a reason. As much as I'm sure you'd hope it wouldn't make a difference... to me it clearly is. You can work round it if you really want to thought, it's all about that want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronz Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) <snip> Edited July 26, 2010 by Bronz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Edit: 30 but hot, amirite?! WHOA. It's you that need the work Nah, give a f**k about hotness. When you wake up, what do you think? When you go to sleep, what do you think? If it's her then you need to save your relationship. If not then you need to think of other factors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Are we at the "put it in her bum" stage of giving advice yet? Seriously. Up the wrong'un, if she comes back for more she's a keeper Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Are we at the "put it in her bum" stage of giving advice yet? Seriously. Up the wrong'un, if she comes back for more she's a keeper *clap clap* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronz Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) <snip> Edited July 26, 2010 by Bronz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 That's a lot of beers so far Glad I've helped mate. Give it time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronz Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Are we at the "put it in her bum" stage of giving advice yet? Seriously. Up the wrong'un, if she comes back for more she's a keeper Looks like she's a keeper then… Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Good man. Remember, that patchy roof can be fixed with duck tape. Perhaps your relationship can too?* *Note: May or may not be the case, unless you are a Mr. N Manning in which case it's a dead cert... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) Oh Rainbird, you f**king legend. EDIT: Unrelated to your situation Harry, hope you get it sorted pal, either way. Edited July 23, 2010 by Muel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davey1991 Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Good man. Remember, that patchy roof can be fixed with duck tape. Perhaps your relationship can too?* *Note: May or may not be the case, unless you are a Mr. N Manning in which case it's a dead cert... Zing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 You're spot on right dude. I feel I don't do enough of that stuff y'know, that really could be part of the problem. But it's more low-level than that too. I shit you not, she got in a massive (I mean iceberg-that-sank-the-titanic kind of massive) mood a fortnight ago because I ordered a sandwich without mayo on that we were supposed to share. It's to the point that shit like that becomes a point of venomous argument. She ruined my birthday night out three weeks ago purely by getting in a mood over nothing (I am not exaggerating! She still, to this day, does not know what I did wrong). It's honestly like there's more hate right now than potential love. Been in the same situation, and ruining my 21st was the deal breaker! Though I did continue twatting around with her for the following 3 years on and off Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modifiedridah2k9 Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 She split up with me But she's still doing the whole i love you routine, seriously dont have a clue what to do now. doesnt help cos im suffering from depression atm and shes just got her best mate to start bitching at me. WHAT THE f**k OUCH! I wish i could give some advice but i don't know anything to say that can help, hope you get it sorted out Jake Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 I wish i could give some advice but i don't know anything It's alright bro, one day... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 OUCH! I wish i could give some advice but i don't know anything to say that can help, hope you get it sorted out Jake now shes saying she wants to get back with me personally i want something with bigger tits now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 now shes saying she wants to get back with me personally i want something with bigger tits now I can see it was really serious.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 They were going to get married AND EVERYTHING. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 I can see it was really serious.. T'was a joke dude, im not actually sure what i want now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 T'was a joke dude, im not actually sure what i want now Yep, arse or tits is always a conundrum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 Yep, arse or tits is always a conundrum. I meant what i should do, she wants to get back with me but im not sure :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 If you're not sure, you were clearly never that into her in the first place, surely? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirt jumper jake Posted July 24, 2010 Report Share Posted July 24, 2010 If you're not sure, you were clearly never that into her in the first place, surely? I was but that changed abit after the way she treated me these past few days :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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