ben_travis Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 What the f**k do I do? Stay on the new bird (just a f**k) or go back to my ex (f**k and maybe get back together) behind her boyfriends back? I've been racking my brains for a few days and keep coming to the conclusion that getting back with my ex just won't work because of trust issues, yet she's the one I'd rather be with and try to make it work. I think I'm going insane. relationships are much better than just a f*ck....get yourself back with the ex who you - by the way you speak in your email - still love to bits...although dont go behind her BF's back...tell her she needs to dump him before anything can work with you Just explain everything to her, I have OCD and tried to keep it from my ex for ages. Did you have to clean her and organise all her bits to be straight and aligned before you pumped her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronz Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 …But, I've never felt this way with a girl before, I've taken her to the cinema… Wow, I hear wedding bells! …Over the weekend someone/thing has happened… Isn't she like 13* or something? F*ck, the idea that a 13 year old is in a relationship with someone who says he loves her is scary! My little sister is 13. She's probably just p*ssed cos her dad wouldn't buy her a My Little Pony or something. Dude, you are only 15. You're not in love, you just like her a lot. Plus she's 13 so it's probably just a tantrum or summink. *Apologies if this is way off. I just seem to remember that number. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Dude, you are only 15. You're not in love, you just like her a lot. I didn't know there was an age limit on emotions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arw_86 Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 my mum met my dad when she was 11, married at 18, still together 32 years later. its a rare thing, but not impossible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Shucksmith Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Dude, you are only 15. You're not in love, you just like her a lot. Age doesn't mean a thing really! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Age doesn't mean a thing really! BUT, it is unlikely that you're going to be with her forever so chill about it Enjoy your youth. I was with a girl at your age for about a year and it all changed when we went to different colleges - up till then it was all good so I'm sure it does happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borat Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Thanks everyone! No slating for once, does make the situation alot happier/better for me. *Awaits slating to commence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash-Kennard Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Thanks everyone! No slating for once, does make the situation alot happier/better for me. *Awaits slating to commence. you do need to man up abit though. its just a girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borat Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 you do need to man up abit though. its just a girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeanuckleJive Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 (edited) Slightly messy: The last girl I was fully in love with (blah blah all that soppy crap) Was over a year and a half ago now, we broke up on REALLY shitty terms and we haven't spoken ever since. It was all drug related stuff that I'm not a fan of going into unless it's really needed. Tried to put up with it for a while and helped her, but in the end I just lost it and had to get out of there and leave her to it, wether I loved her or not. She apologised to me a few months ago though for it all which was nice, and then the past month or so we've been talking again. Just over the internet. She wanted to be friends again and you can tell she's clean now and her life is on track, so figured I may aswell just give up the bullshit grudge and be civilised. Went to see her on sunday and ended up being there til 3am. Nothing happened, we just chilled and watched movies and stuff. Had a catch up and we were talking about the past a bit too, with no difficulty at all. I had work at 5am on monday and usually I'd go home and get some sleep, No matter what I'm doing, so I really dunno why I didn't leave til 3am... She's getting a bit flirty already and stuff and I'm pretty sure she wants things to go further. She's mentioned a few times about how all her friends and her family preferred me to ALL her other boyfriends (Which is understandable, most of her boyfriends have been absolute dickheads and let's be honest, I'm just awesome.) But there's a MASSIVE obstacle of MY friends and my family. They all knew exactly what went on when we broke up and how badly it f**ked me up, so I have no idea how to tell them if I started seeing her again. Especially my mum because she knows how it all was far better than I cared to tell all but one of my best mates. I feel like I would get back with her. But maybe that's just because it's been so long and I miss the company and all that crap? I've done the whole casual sex lark and it's never really as good as it was with her. SO to sum it up. What do? standard procedure of not wanting the "man up" etc comments. It's a weird situation and I've got no clue wether it'd be at all acceptable to go back there. Something tells me that I kinda prevented it happening all that time ago by having so much pain associated with her that most people know of. So they probably wouldn't accept it a second time around? Edited May 11, 2010 by PeanuckleJive Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Whoa whoa whoa. Why not just take it a little slower and don't assume that there's even the possibility of a relationship there yet? You've obviously been hurt, you need to see whether she's worthy of your trust and emotions before you start giving them to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeanuckleJive Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Whoa whoa whoa. Why not just take it a little slower and don't assume that there's even the possibility of a relationship there yet? You've obviously been hurt, you need to see whether she's worthy of your trust and emotions before you start giving them to her. Major schoolboy mistake by me right there. although I must say that the week or so when she's wanted me to go round that I told myself that I'm gonna be in control and take it easy if anything starts happening, and not let it go speeding off out of control. Anyway, I think the new dilemma is that nobody knows yet that we're hanging out again (I say "hanging out again" because I know I'll be going round again soon because it was a laugh and it's better than sitting at home doing sod all) but these things get about quick, especially when you have some friends that spend 25 hours a day on facebook, and we all know facebook reveals all in some way or another. I guess if I explained that times have changed, she's changed and stuff, that people should understand and be willing to not hold it against her? But then again, some people are dicks and don't seem to understand anything slightly sensitive at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Just go for it, what have you got to lose?! Would your friends actually f*ck you off if you were seeing the wrong girl? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JD™ Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 If you explain everything to them the same way you did to us then I can't see why they'd have a problem with anything? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt123 Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 relationships are much better than just a f*ck....get yourself back with the ex who you - by the way you speak in your email - still love to bits...although dont go behind her BF's back...tell her she needs to dump him before anything can work with you Thats kind of what I was thinking, except I didn't think about the last point admittedly (spelling?). Yeah I did realise as soon as I saw her again that I still love her, but me being me, I f**ked it all up first time round & now I don't think she'll ever trust me again, and if I do get back with her I've got to tell her everything so we can start working up trust again. Yet if I do tell her about the other few times it's probably going to f**k it up even worse. Did you have to clean her and organise all her bits to be straight and aligned before you pumped her? Nahh haha, it's more organising things and keeping things tidy, yet not the human body. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeanuckleJive Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Just go for it, what have you got to lose?! Would your friends actually f*ck you off if you were seeing the wrong girl? If you explain everything to them the same way you did to us then I can't see why they'd have a problem with anything? I have some very opinionated mates, I guess they'll probably be petty and bitch about it and try to relate it to when we broke up, which is a totally different situation anyway. I know I shouldn't care what they say, but sometimes you just can't ignore things after they've been said a million times Take it slow, see if anyone catches on and deal with what they say when it happens. If anybody wants to complain that bad and not be happy for me then I guess they're not that worthy of being called a friend anyway... Cheers lads, Just needed some opinions really because I'm known to take the entirely wrong direction with things at times Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Quinn Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 I have some very opinionated mates, I guess they'll probably be petty and bitch about it and try to relate it to when we broke up, which is a totally different situation anyway. I know I shouldn't care what they say, but sometimes you just can't ignore things after they've been said a million times Take it slow, see if anyone catches on and deal with what they say when it happens. If anybody wants to complain that bad and not be happy for me then I guess they're not that worthy of being called a friend anyway... Cheers lads, Just needed some opinions really because I'm known to take the entirely wrong direction with things at times Why not just jam with her for a bit, make sure she's on the straight and narrow an then see where it goes from there? Then If it does come to it, tell her what you (and all your mates and family) are worried about and explain that on the first sign of drugs, you're out of there. If she's worth all the commitment then she'll sort it all out. If not at least you can say you tried and just cut all ties for good if it happens again. Mind me asking what type/quantities of drugs it was? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeanuckleJive Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Why not just jam with her for a bit, make sure she's on the straight and narrow an then see where it goes from there? Then If it does come to it, tell her what you (and all your mates and family) are worried about and explain that on the first sign of drugs, you're out of there. If she's worth all the commitment then she'll sort it all out. If not at least you can say you tried and just cut all ties for good if it happens again. Mind me asking what type/quantities of drugs it was? We did talk a bit about it the other night and she seems to realise what a dick she was back then and is adamant she isn't going back there. I can tell she's away from it now just by intuition really, I still remember her habits and stuff, which fit right again, and she just looks a whole lot healthier than she did before. I didn't think of that really, I shouldn't be worrying about what people think UNLESS it comes to that, and then there should be no problem talking it over in theory. That was my plan though, if it came to it and there was any sign of it swinging that way I'd be out the door and not coming back at all. Last time around it was because she started hanging around with the wrong crowd again, I know exactly who they are so obviously the second she starts going near them again I'd be on it like a shot. They're all absolute dicks. It was cocaine, I don't really know a whole lot about it quantity wise, like I dunno what is considered a massive binge and what might be considered a casual amount. But one weekend she spent about £200, No idea how much that gets you though I helped her through the comedown which was f**king horrible. I've always been fine with weed, it grows in the ground and I've never known anybody to really screw themself on it But pills and powders, I can't say I'm keen on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 I've always been fine with weed, it grows in the ground and I've never known anybody to really screw themself on it But pills and powders, I can't say I'm keen on Where do you think cocaine comes from..? Not that I condone it, I can't stand coke heads, they break me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeanuckleJive Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Where do you think cocaine comes from..? Not that I condone it, I can't stand coke heads, they break me! Yeah I know it's slightly hypocritical of me to think one thing is fine and another not. I dunno what it is. I've known so many people who smoke weed and done it myself that it just became something I saw everyday, but I've not known many people to do much stronger drugs and always found it to be nothing but trouble Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fishy Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Can we make a rule so that you have to put shit into bullet points rather than writing essays? Please. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ross McArthur Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 I love bum love only with guys... what should I do... I think I love borat on the forum..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Yoshi Posted May 12, 2010 Report Share Posted May 12, 2010 I love bum love only with guys... what should I do... I think I love borat on the forum..... Thank f*ck thought i was the only one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted May 20, 2010 Report Share Posted May 20, 2010 Started speaking to Kelly again today... shes beautifull, cute... everything I could want! We went out for 10 months but broke up because of her work... shes left that job and I'm just about to be back for summer, we've been saying how much we miss each other and how we still think of each other.... MAN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skoze Posted May 20, 2010 Report Share Posted May 20, 2010 Do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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