Teenage Angst Communal Agony Aunt Thread

[Simpson]

90% of people who have replied about this 'issue' have been WAY over the top about it. I'm half tempted to sound like a cock and say you're all jealous because i have the love of a good girl. Simpson, i know you've slept with more girls than i know, but it still stands. It just sounds like no one wants me to score the nice girl, because i'm always the one people can pick on because i fail at everything apparently.

Fatty........ no.

You posted up on the internet about punching your GIRLFRIEND and you think WERE jelous of YOU.

I've had times when I've typed out really deep shit on here, only to realise I didn't want to post that much of my private life up on an internet forum becuase i have a BRAIN. You don't.

"For the love of f**king christ, i WOULDN'T KILL HER IF SHE LEFT ME, IT WAS A f**kING JOKE, how can so many people dwell on such a f**king thing? Sometimes people just click, we have that."

Then why tell her that... and then post it up on here..... and its a pretty shoddy joke to be honest mate. And we dwell on it because its a bullying tactic to guilt her into staying with you.... trust me an ex used to say it to me.... I'm not being guilted into staying with someone so gave her the olde heave ho.

You "click" you say?

In fact I'm not typing anything on this anymore, your a joke.

[anzo]

I see her all the time because i love being with her, we were mates for about 2 months before we started going out, and before then i saw her loads too.

Gonna put my hands up and say i do, once in a while feel like she could have someone better and it worries me because she makes me happy 97% of the time. Simpson, you were trying to sick burn me and because of the way people see me, it worked. But none of that's true. You were just being a cun.t.

90% of people who have replied about this 'issue' have been WAY over the top about it. I'm half tempted to sound like a cock and say you're all jealous because i have the love of a good girl. Simpson, i know you've slept with more girls than i know, but it still stands. It just sounds like no one wants me to score the nice girl, because i'm always the one people can pick on because i fail at everything apparently.

As regards the time scales of your relationship, I'm in the same boat. I've been with her 2 months, so far we haven't argued, disagreed or anything like that - if you were fighting like that, telling her what she can't do after just 2 months then personally I'd end that relationship because it's just not going to work.

You can always tell when it won't work out, the first saaay, 6 months are the 'getting to know each other' stages. After that you know each other well enough to form a good relationship. However 1/3 of the way and you're physically fighting on the bed - I don't do that with mates, let alone girlfriends.

I've never given you any advice as far as I can remember and to be honest, if someone tried to give me advice on a forum about life situations I'd ignore it - although I've never asked for it in such quantities as you, or on such major issues.

At one point I remember this thread was full of your relationship problems and how do go about doing this, that and the other - many people gave you advice and according to them you ignored it.

I think people just get pissed off because they do have your best intentions at heart when they give you advice, but you don't follow it and 3 days later you're back in here bitching about something else (usually which never would have happened if you'd taken the advice in the first place). I know it's only a forum and all that, but if you don't want to read comments like Simpsons, don't post up your problems.

I'm guessing this girl is your first 'serious' (haha) relationship - and that you were mates 2 months before hand - you must have known that she did drugs; so why did you get with her if its such a major issue?

Do you really love this girl, or are you just telling yourself that because she makes you happy occasionally? If I'm right with that you need to seriously think about ending this, if you carry on it'll end up hurting you a lot more when she does something you don't like.

Edited November 26, 2009 by anzo

[Fixed Pants™]

I'm guessing this girl is your first 'serious' (haha) relationship - and that you were mates 2 months before hand - you must have known that she did drugs; so why did you get with her if its such a major issue?

Do you really love this girl, or are you just telling yourself that because she makes you happy occasionally? If I'm right with that you need to seriously think about ending this, if you carry on it'll end up hurting you a lot more when she does something you don't like.

She didn't do them before the guy who went out with her last, my mate, who really didn't deserve her, he pulled her at a party very drunk and it went on from there, it ended just before a month... The drugs 'controlling' thing was just because i didn't like them. If it's me being 'controlling' because i'm insecure, it's sure as hell, very subconcious.

I love her to bits, we got on so well when we met back in late may, i spent basically 2 full days with her, met her at about 12 midnight in a queue, walked her home at about 9 in the morning, met up with her after both having a few hours sleep, went out to her mates party, spent the night together dancing, having fun. met up with her loads and we just gelled. Months went by just going out at weekends, going to parties, just being very good mates, and then one day we were nice and comfy on a bench in a park (lol) and we kissed, then moved onto another place we hang out, our mates walked off and i was like hello, 'made out' for about 15 mins laying on the grass, etc etc, day after i got back from reading we were like, might aswell make it official...

Seriously guys, ending it is the last thing on my mind, and it's the same thing for her from what i can see. An IRL (lol) friend once told me not so long ago, who had been going out with his bird for 3 years, there will be some tough times, but if you love her, you'll stick it out.

This whole hitting her thing, it really wasn't hitting her, yeah 'never' hit a girl but i didn't do it like i was f**king her up, i can't explain it, all you guys need to know is i didn't abuse her, yeah i might have hurt her but it wasn't like i was going for it, it would be the kinda thing i'd do with 1 hand, grab her arms together so she can't move em and give her a poke in her stomach or whatever, just little tricky holds then slap her arse or whatever.

[MadManMike]

[JD™]

I can see there being newspaper articles about you Mr Robinson in years to come, and they won't be good ones.

[1a2bcio8]

it would be the kinda thing i'd do with 1 hand, grab her arms together so she can't move em and give her a poke in her stomach or whatever, just little tricky holds then slap her arse or whatever.

I also love bullying my bitches. Improves my man-ness.

[Hannah Shucksmith]

I can see there being newspaper articles about you Mr Robinson in years to come, and they won't be good ones.

Glen Robinson - The New Josef Fritzl.

Edited November 26, 2009 by Hannah Shucksmith

[Fish-Finger-er]

She didn't do them before the guy who went out with her last, my mate, who really didn't deserve her,

Pot, Kettle, African american.

I love her to bits, we got on so well when we met back in late may, i spent basically 2 full days with her, met her at about 12 midnight in a queue, walked her home at about 9 in the morning, met up with her after both having a few hours sleep, went out to her mates party, spent the night together dancing, having fun. met up with her loads and we just gelled. Months went by just going out at weekends, going to parties, just being very good mates, and then one day we were nice and comfy on a bench in a park (lol) and we kissed, then moved onto another place we hang out, our mates walked off and i was like hello, 'made out' for about 15 mins laying on the grass, etc etc, day after i got back from reading we were like, might aswell make it official...

I see how you failed to mention the fact that you left hayleys 18th, being took home by her mum, after throwing an eppy, and crying, cos silvia got with another girl.

not trying to embarass you, you do that yourself, just making sure you realise it aint all perfection, rose tinted glasses and all that bullsh*t.

And to be honest, simpson wasnt being a c*nt, he was telling the truth, most people (including me) dont do it to you that much, as we dont like getting banned/warned, but occasionally people get that pissed off at you, that they decide to let it out, hence simps post, and some of my posts to you, which is why when we say it, you say were being harsh, or to close to the bone (its about as close to the bone as you can get, what with being true and all)

I give you this

Maybe if you wernt such an arrogant, big headed, over opiniated loser who didnt spend all his time drinking more than he can handle,bitching about his mum whilst pretending hes some leet rave photographer, and if you didnt spunk all your money you earn in your dead end job on expensive bikes bragging about how much you earn, and went out socialising, chatting to girls without always having to try and get in their pants, without falling in love with every girl you speak to for more than 5 minutes and then being the biggest cry baby whinge bag when they choose somebody else. Well then maybe youd of had a chance with haylee, maybe youd be with silvia now, maybe girls would of been interested in you, and youd of been with something respectable in your 17 years on this planet. As it is youve rattled a 15 year old chubby girl who looks like shes spent most of them 15 years headbutting a spade

granted, you may now of actually realised how much of a twat your were/still are,so I guess maybe it is doing some good as a fair bit of this has changed, but bits of it still ring true.

[Pashley26]

I can see there being newspaper articles about you Mr Robinson in years to come, and they won't be good ones.

With his uncanny "Ian Huntley" looks we sure he's not just part of a relocation program ?

[MadManMike]

Guess who's on the rocks again?

She's still being a moody f**ker, I've had enough of it!

I need to grow a pair and ditch her but I love her kids and don't want to hurt them too...

[Pashley26]

Guess who's on the rocks again?

She's still being a moody f**ker, I've had enough of it!

I need to grow a pair and ditch her but I love her kids and don't want to hurt them too...

Harsh place to be dude, harsh place indeed.

[JD™]

Guess who's on the rocks again?

She's still being a moody f**ker, I've had enough of it!

I need to grow a pair and ditch her but I love her kids and don't want to hurt them too...

f**k em. Not literally though, we don't want you in the papers too.

In me news: I've been bombarded with texts and calls, just ignoring them at the moment because I know she can't do my terms. It's getting increasingly difficult to not just find out though. So pissed off that I love her (in a 'I wouldn't hit her or tell her I'd kill her' kind of way) so much and it could have worked so well if she'd just put up with some admittedly annoying things for just another 6 weeks or so.

[MadManMike]

Just sent this to Hayley on Facebook:

"I don't quite know what the problem is, but just lately you've changed - I'm repeating myself from a couple of weeks ago, remember?

I never know if you're going to be in a good mood or not, 9 out of 10 times you're not. Quite frankly I'm getting sick of it, in fact I AM sick of it.

I guess you are who you are and that won't change, which is a shame - you're not who you were a year or so ago. I'm just gonna take a step back, give you your own space for a while and see what happens.

If you cheer up and go back to how you used to be then great, if you don't then there's no point us even trying is there really - all we do lately is bicker, because we don't see each other very often apparently. It's always been like that and hasn't ever been a problem before but now it suddenly is.

I am me, I am busy, I always have been and always will be - if you were expecting that to change then you chose the wrong person - I made it clear from the start.

So I guess I'll speak to you in a while. I can't deal with the headf**k to be honest."

It's the second time this has happened in so many weeks, can't see it working for much longer really - well, I guess the main point is that it's not working already.

[Pashley26]

MSN'd my approval dude, you don't need a headf**k but you do deserve a good woman.

[MadManMike]

If I talk to her I can't get out what I want to say, it's better to do it over messaging like that as we can both be wide open about everything.

I hope she goes back to how she was, but I don't think it's as easy as that - if you change, you change...

[Fishy]

She isn't stressed from it being the run up to Christmas is it, especially with having kids I can imagine it can be very stressful. Unless it's an ongoing thing.

[MadManMike]

She isn't stressed from it being the run up to Christmas is it, especially with having kids I can imagine it can be very stressful. Unless it's an ongoing thing.

Nope, she's gradually got worse over 6 or so months... Getting a little tired of it now!!

[davey1991]

f**k em. Not literally though, we don't want you in the papers too.

In me news: I've been bombarded with texts and calls, just ignoring them at the moment because I know she can't do my terms. It's getting increasingly difficult to not just find out though. So pissed off that I love her (in a 'I wouldn't hit her or tell her I'd kill her' kind of way) so much and it could have worked so well if she'd just put up with some admittedly annoying things for just another 6 weeks or so.

Thats cheered me up. He he.

And to mike, if she's changed then she's not who you where first with and not who you wanted to be with in the first place. I think you've made the right decission but i'm not going to delve to much.

Edited November 26, 2009 by davey1991

[Greetings]

Things have kinda settled down between me and the ex, haven't seen or contacted each other for almost 2 weeks because I missed all the classes at uni due to tonsillitis.

While it's been smooth sailing from there, I'm kinda starting to think about everything again. On one hand I'd like to forget, on the other I feel like memories are the only thing left and letting them go would be like throwing everything away.

[anzo]

If I talk to her I can't get out what I want to say, it's better to do it over messaging like that as we can both be wide open about everything.

I hope she goes back to how she was, but I don't think it's as easy as that - if you change, you change...

Reading you situation it sounds like she thinks you're the bad guy in this (from not spending enough time with her and being busy). For that relationship to work she needs to realise she's in the wrong and realises you can't be there 24/7.

As for the kids, thats a tough break - but if you're not happy then you can't stick around just for them (which you obviously realise). I hope it all works out for you, but as you say, if you change, you change.

Things have kinda settled down between me and the ex, haven't seen or contacted each other for almost 2 weeks because I missed all the classes at uni due to tonsillitis.

While it's been smooth sailing from there, I'm kinda starting to think about everything again. On one hand I'd like to forget, on the other I feel like memories are the only thing left and letting them go would be like throwing everything away.

Keep the memories mate; if you had fun then just keep it in your head - but don't let it get you down. I'm sure you'll meet someone else soon enough and this chapter will be over and you can start fresh with someone else.

Theres no harm in remembering good times, but got get hung up on it; it's not very healthly or helpful.

Go and have some fun yourself

[MadManMike]

Reading you situation it sounds like she thinks you're the bad guy in this (from not spending enough time with her and being busy). For that relationship to work she needs to realise she's in the wrong and realises you can't be there 24/7.

As for the kids, thats a tough break - but if you're not happy then you can't stick around just for them (which you obviously realise). I hope it all works out for you, but as you say, if you change, you change.

Maybe I am the bad one, because I'm not willing to give everything up and be with her constantly... but then I would be very unhappy, so I'd rather be the bad one if that's the case.

It's really tricky. I hate these situations, I really do.

[Shaun H]

I'm not sure if I'm 100% happy in my relationship anymore.

I just can't even begin to think about it all though. I've been with her 4 years, since I was 16... I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place.

For the past couple of weeks or so I keep swinging between feeling like I really want to be with her to not wanting to even bother talking to her on the phone.

We recently fell out over the phone because she was a bellend with her car's MOT and paid a garage £300 to do corroded brake lines and sort a loose brake pad whereas my Dad who does garage work on Saturdays to fund his race car would have probably done it for less than half that! Anyway I had to go to ride and she got in a big mood, text me after saying "thanks for making me feel even worse!" and since then I've barely text her back. Had to text her earlier to tell her she needs to drop off my parents' SatNav she borrowed urgently as my Dad needed it tomorrow morning. She text me later saying "so not urgent enough to call me for then?" but I was going riding so just ignored it. Had about 30-40 missed calls maybe. I just can't be bothered to go through the massive make up conversation. I don't have the energy for it and most worryingly I don't have the motivation for it...

[Fishy]

Don't then, if you're not happy then is it worth it? I know it's a hell of a lot easier said than done, but in the long run it could be for the best?

But then again you said you were swinging in these different moods. Hmmmmm, it's a hard one, best thing I could suggest is just talk it out with her in a neutral place, if she gets her tits on then walk away.

[Jolfa]

I'm not sure if I'm 100% happy in my relationship anymore.

Sounds like you're being the arse because you're bored...

[munkee]

I rarely post on here but to be fair it seems Shaun is the one with the problem and the gf reaction to it all is perfectly normal. I think you've just started putting other things first, such as riding, which to be honest is fine yea.. but you cant go through life putting the things you want to do first and not expect it to hurt other peoples feelings. I guess that statement also applies to madmanmike. You will be feeling so 50/50 with her shaun because you are likely getting to the age now where the relationship really can take off in to future plans. You are at the age of fully leaving all education and moving towards careers etc.. so as a bloke.. you are going to question everything you have/do in order to set yourself straight for the next step. To me, it seems like she's the right way to go but sadly in your own confusion you are f**king up the possibility of having someone there for you who could infact, help you through things.. kind of like how she wanted to talk to you about the MOT stuff? she wanted to talk it over for reassurance/someone to bitch to because after all you've had a 4 year relationship you aren't just a couple you are best/very good friends.