doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 (edited) Any of the rest of you feel like there's just one thing that you keep telling the missus over and over again, and it's like telling a goldfish? Emily and me have pretty much the same argument, about how I "prove" my love to her, all the time. It all boils down to money, i.e. her mates bfs do random acts of buying their gfs things every now and then. I can see how that would piss Emily off, because it pisses me off too, but we're in completely different circumstances.These other couples are either at the same uni or at least both at uni, and the rest of the time they live at home. With us, we've got Emily in Soton and me up here - working my nuts off and paying for a flat I can't afford. Every month I have about £30 less coming in that going out, and that's with as many cutbacks as I can think of without being a complete recluse. This all means I don't have the money for random acts like other guys, but as far as I'm concerned I've bought her half of a f**king flat so surely that's an investment into our future? We have this over and over, and every time she ends up saying that she understands and she's sorry and blah blah blah. Then a week later (or less sometimes) it's exactly the same story... I'm losing my f**king mind. It wouldn't be so bad if the sex was good frequent... Edited November 4, 2008 by /JD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caleb Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 yeah i was in a similar situation with my old gf. She was used to getting taken out for meals and dates etc, but i was too skint and lazy to bother just going to bars with her and took her for granted.then i got finished.seems like girls hate the steriotypical image of themselves until it suits them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 yeah i was in a similar situation with my old gf. She was used to getting taken out for meals and dates etc, but i was too skint and lazy to bother just going to bars with her and took her for granted.then i got finished.seems like girls hate the steriotypical image of themselves until it suits them.Yea, but it's not like she's ever been used to being treated by a boyfriend - they've all been cunts. But I don't see any of her mates boyfriends buying them a flat on his own... How many nights out does it take to come even on a £160k flat?! This is the bit she doesn't understand, then we argue, then she seems to understand, then forgets again. It's f'in frustrating! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Towler Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Yea, but it's not like she's ever been used to being treated by a boyfriend - they've all been cunts. But I don't see any of her mates boyfriends buying them a flat on his own... How many nights out does it take to come even on a £160k flat?! This is the bit she doesn't understand, then we argue, then she seems to understand, then forgets again. It's f'in frustrating!Hey dude... its about 15 years of drinking, but thats going out every Friday and Saturday every weekend without fail and drinking at least £100 each night (so £50’s worth each)... but to be fair that could lead to some serious liver failure... so really your a hero cause your saving her life... so summing the whole situation up she should be more greatfull towards you! I take no responsibility for the out come of your relationship if you argue the situation using my analysis of the situation.In all seriousness, hope you get it sorted out and she stops being so materialistic! Thus making you feel better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Cheers... It always seems pretty nice to vent in here, but then you come back and realise you just look like a needy twat. I shall stop being such a girl and go smack her about a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Towler Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Cheers... It always seems pretty nice to vent in here, but then you come back and realise you just look like a needy twat. I shall stop being such a girl and go smack her about a bit.Na, wasn’t trying to take the piss buddy just put a wee smile on your face... I failed miserably. Ma bad! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ben_travis Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Towler i think you should let the whole forum know about your wee problems just now! Now they are worthwhile and funny! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Towler Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Towler i think you should let the whole forum know about your wee problems just now! Now they are worthwhile and funny!They are my problems and not the forums... they are also kinda your problems as you are my friend... I'm sorry but it means your forced to help me... P.S. Do you have a baseball bat?lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Na, wasn’t trying to take the piss buddy just put a wee smile on your face... I failed miserably. Ma bad!Nah you did, worked a charm cheers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ben_travis Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Nah you did, worked a charm cheers.its not what he told me on msn....he aims to piss folk off! Its the towler way...little cunt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Towler Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 its not what he told me on msn....he aims to piss folk off! Its the towler way...little cunt Ben you should be banned from this forum always trying to cause trouble.... people only like you cause your Danny B's team mate!im going to start up the "Ben Travis Trouble Thread" soon!Anyways back to the girl troubles...I no longer have any.... (ben thanks for the baseball bat, do you happen to have a spade I can borrow?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balman Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 JD trust me when you get money don't let her get used to spending out lol i was tryin to treat my gf at first and she always got embaresed and rarely accepted my offer to buy her stuff now in a shop she walks up to what she wants picks it up and smiles at me lol and if we argue ill buy her flowers or somthing and now its "you think you can just buy me stuff when you have done somthing rong" haha but thats taking into account i only pay for my car and my food i dont live on my own nor do i pay house keep so thats why im able to treat her from time to time if i was paying for a flat she was also livin in id say "see this flat you can shh an stay or keep moaning about how i do nothing for you and find anougher one" but your idea of "smaking her about" also seem's reasonable haha.On my side of things for the first time in nearly a year everythings goin smoothly she recently came back from New York and its been great its been the perfect break as no contact could be made out there so it gave us both time to miss each other and now theres finnaly peace for how long WHO KNOWS? but im enjoying it at the min haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Any of the rest of you feel like there's just one thing that you keep telling the missus over and over again, and it's like telling a goldfish? Emily and me have pretty much the same argument, about how I "prove" my love to her, all the time. It all boils down to money, i.e. her mates bfs do random acts of buying their gfs things every now and then. I can see how that would piss Emily off, because it pisses me off too, but we're in completely different circumstances.These other couples are either at the same uni or at least both at uni, and the rest of the time they live at home. With us, we've got Emily in Soton and me up here - working my nuts off and paying for a flat I can't afford. Every month I have about £30 less coming in that going out, and that's with as many cutbacks as I can think of without being a complete recluse. This all means I don't have the money for random acts like other guys, but as far as I'm concerned I've bought her half of a f**king flat so surely that's an investment into our future? We have this over and over, and every time she ends up saying that she understands and she's sorry and blah blah blah. Then a week later (or less sometimes) it's exactly the same story... I'm losing my f**king mind. It wouldn't be so bad if the sex was good frequent...Money grabbing fanny. Sorry, but it's true.If someone wants you to buy them stuff all the time that's stupid. Hayley is grateful for any gesture, big or small. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Ward Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 JD trust me when you get money don't let her get used to spending out let her know you've got anyto me it seems she doesnt understand your financial situation. try leaving a bank statment around and small subtle things like that so she can see for herself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Money grabbing fanny. Sorry, but it's true.If someone wants you to buy them stuff all the time that's stupid. Hayley is grateful for any gesture, big or small.I always think you pretty much hit the nail on the head in here, but I think maybe I left it open for someone to take that slightly wrong. You might be right, and maybe it's just hope stopping me from believing you, but I think it's more than she's just seeing everyone else having a different sort of relationship and sort of wanting that. It's like she's blindfolded to the future... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 I know what it's like though, I was in a relationship when I was 17, up to when I was 20 - all 3 years was f**king crap but at the time I was madly in love and did everything for her.Never again, they take advantage of it. I'm not saying be a complete tosser, I'm just saying don't be a servant. They WILL abuse you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 I'll definitely be more careful from here and see whether I can stop her spoilt ways before they finish our relationship... It's been well over 2 years and it seems a waste to lose that when I still love her hugely... Cheers Mike. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 I have sod all experience with this, and generally seem to be bad at arguments with girls. BUT why dont you initiate the argument? Say that you feel like shes taking you for granted etc. when youv paid for a flat etc. for her.. I dunno I guess it could all go horribly wrong.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Yea that's pretty much how the arguements start every time. I don't think she means to start and argument every time, but I take offence to it (fairly, as far as I'm concerned) and thats when it all kicks off. I'll just see how it goes next time, it's finished for tonight at least lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT! Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Any of the rest of you feel like there's just one thing that you keep telling the missus over and over again, and it's like telling a goldfish? Emily and me have pretty much the same argument, about how I "prove" my love to her, all the time. It all boils down to money, i.e. her mates bfs do random acts of buying their gfs things every now and then. I can see how that would piss Emily off, because it pisses me off too, but we're in completely different circumstances.These other couples are either at the same uni or at least both at uni, and the rest of the time they live at home. With us, we've got Emily in Soton and me up here - working my nuts off and paying for a flat I can't afford. Every month I have about £30 less coming in that going out, and that's with as many cutbacks as I can think of without being a complete recluse. This all means I don't have the money for random acts like other guys, but as far as I'm concerned I've bought her half of a f**king flat so surely that's an investment into our future? We have this over and over, and every time she ends up saying that she understands and she's sorry and blah blah blah. Then a week later (or less sometimes) it's exactly the same story... I'm losing my f**king mind. It wouldn't be so bad if the sex was good frequent...Do something big that'll shut her up, but make it free or very inexpensive. The only trouble you're gonna have now is thinking up something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doopdoopbedoop Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 You're so right, why didn't I think of that?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hendrix Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 My GF buys me random things every now or then, but I don't expect her to, nor does she expect me to buy her things. Even if we go out for dinner, we split the bill 50/50. Buy her a piece of the moon? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fixed Pants™ Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 Buy her a piece of the moon?I didn't know you could buy a piece of your gfs bed!!!!!!!!!LMAO!!!1 burn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hendrix Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 I didn't know you could buy a piece of your gfs bed!!!!!!!!!LMAO!!!1 burn.Wow. Fail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted November 4, 2008 Report Share Posted November 4, 2008 (edited) I didn't know you could buy a piece of your gfs bed!!!!!!!!!LMAO!!!1 burn. Fail.Edit: Balls, beaten to it. Edited November 4, 2008 by Tom_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.