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Can somebody give me a safe well thought out answer to this?

I'm seeing this girl, I haven't seen her for about 1 1/2 weeks. I was meant to see her saturday as previously agreed but she was busy because she was off to a BBQ at her best friends boyfriends house. I asked if I could see her today instead, but she had to revise for 2 exams coming up this week. She text me earlier saying she's spent the day shopping an swimming with her mum. So we agreed to meet up next weekend, because she's got these exams but now she's going to go out saturday with her girly mates an I asked if I could meet her out or something, but she didn't want me to because apparently they're celebrating something (although she didn't say what) an that maybe we could meet up sometime after next weekend. So I said 'dont worry about it' to which she replied 'dont get stretty at me' an I just said 'I just feel abit let down thats all'. She said Sorry an that she's feeling stressed an she's sorry if she's seeming like a dick. So I just ended it with 'Im going to bed, night'.

Have I done the right thing? I didn't wana be all pussy footing around her saying 'Its okay, I dont mind' because really I do give a shit. I don't like being fobbed off all the time an then when I say something she just says 'Sorry' an it's meant to be all okay.

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Pretty much the whole reason why i've broke off all contact with my ex, she told me all this shit about never being without me and wanting to spend the rest of her life with me, and the direct week after saying that she is "busy" but spends every night with her mates, making no effort to arrange anything with me even though i asked her repeatedly.

You did the right thing, a relationship is about compromise, ie, not seeing mates or something for one night a week isn't really too much to ask for. If they can find the time to organise other stuff then they can find the time to organise stuff with you. Like i said to my ex, she assumed i'd just be there at the end of the night after all her mates had gone and she had nothing else to do like, like i was an afterthought, like i required no maintenance.

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Pretty much the whole reason why i've broke off all contact with my ex, she told me all this shit about never being without me and wanting to spend the rest of her life with me, and the direct week after saying that she is "busy" but spends every night with her mates, making no effort to arrange anything with me even though i asked her repeatedly.

You did the right thing, a relationship is about compromise, ie, not seeing mates or something for one night a week isn't really too much to ask for. If they can find the time to organise other stuff then they can find the time to organise stuff with you. Like i said to my ex, she assumed i'd just be there at the end of the night after all her mates had gone and she had nothing else to do like, like i was an afterthought, like i required no maintenance.

Hey man, cut her some slack - I wouldn't want to spend time with you the amount you complain about stuff.

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Can somebody give me a safe well thought out answer to this?

I'm seeing this girl, I haven't seen her for about 1 1/2 weeks. I was meant to see her saturday as previously agreed but she was busy because she was off to a BBQ at her best friends boyfriends house. I asked if I could see her today instead, but she had to revise for 2 exams coming up this week. She text me earlier saying she's spent the day shopping an swimming with her mum. So we agreed to meet up next weekend, because she's got these exams but now she's going to go out saturday with her girly mates an I asked if I could meet her out or something, but she didn't want me to because apparently they're celebrating something (although she didn't say what) an that maybe we could meet up sometime after next weekend. So I said 'dont worry about it' to which she replied 'dont get stretty at me' an I just said 'I just feel abit let down thats all'. She said Sorry an that she's feeling stressed an she's sorry if she's seeming like a dick. So I just ended it with 'Im going to bed, night'.

Have I done the right thing? I didn't wana be all pussy footing around her saying 'Its okay, I dont mind' because really I do give a shit. I don't like being fobbed off all the time an then when I say something she just says 'Sorry' an it's meant to be all okay.

Its a bit weird that she doesnt seem to want to spend time with you like.

proper let rhii down today and went out with mates :( pretty shit of me tbf gunna have to make it up to her somehow.

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Can somebody give me a safe well thought out answer to this?

There are two things you can do, either insist on meeting her which is highly destructive in such a relationship, or ignore her. Girls love getting attention and take that attention for granted. If you start ignoring her in a "pleasant" manner, chances are that she will realize what's missing and she'll actually want you back. Wait for her to do the next move and if she doesn't, just give her a miss :)

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There are two things you can do, either insist on meeting her which is highly destructive in such a relationship, or ignore her. Girls love getting attention and take that attention for granted. If you start ignoring her in a "pleasant" manner, chances are that she will realize what's missing and she'll actually want you back. Wait for her to do the next move and if she doesn't, just give her a miss :)

Your a legend!

She just text me 'im sorry matt x'. Still gona give it atleast 24hours of ignoring because everyone know's the only she'll be interested if I sack her off for abit. I hate being on a leash with girls when they expect you come running whenever they want, it's such a bollox situation that you have to do in every relationship.

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Your a legend!

She just text me 'im sorry matt x'. Still gona give it atleast 24hours of ignoring because everyone know's the only she'll be interested if I sack her off for abit. I hate being on a leash with girls when they expect you come running whenever they want, it's such a bollox situation that you have to do in every relationship.

Tell me about it! Last lass I was with (was with her for on and off for at least 2 year) wore the pants, shirt and tie! I didnt have a say in the matter.

Be with lasses just dont get too attached. love sucks!!!

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Your a legend!

She just text me 'im sorry matt x'. Still gona give it atleast 24hours of ignoring because everyone know's the only she'll be interested if I sack her off for abit. I hate being on a leash with girls when they expect you come running whenever they want, it's such a bollox situation that you have to do in every relationship.

If you really want to be with her, don't rush things. My last relationship fell apart because we didn't know each other well enough and it all happened too quickly. Cost me one of the most amazing girls I ever met.

Ignore her for a day or two, if she wants to see you, tell her you'd like to but don't have time now. Maybe next time when you want to go out with her, she'll appreciate it instead of making up lame excuses.

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Can somebody give me a safe well thought out answer to this?

I quoted this before Inur went and posted what would have been the post I was going to make.

Hey man, cut her some slack - I wouldn't want to spend time with you the amount you complain about stuff.

QFMFT

Sometimes Simon, you do sound a little high maintaince

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So whos got their wing commander then?!

I'll explain.

We all know brown wings, but did you know theres wings for ever colour ball on the snooker table.

Brown wings - Do a bird up the shi*ter.

Blue wings - Doing it underwater/ bath/ shower.

Red/pink wings - Doing a bird whilst on the blob.

Green wings- Experiencing the world of out doors sex.

Yellow wings- Haveing your way with a person of Asian ecthnisity.

Black wings- Finding yourself a choclate moma.

Once you have achived all these, you are a Wing Commander, and ain't you proud. You badge should be sent out in the post for you to wear with pride. Alternativly go get a tattoo for that ever lasting reminder!

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Can somebody give me a safe well thought out answer to this?

I'm seeing this girl, I haven't seen her for about 1 1/2 weeks. I was meant to see her saturday as previously agreed but she was busy because she was off to a BBQ at her best friends boyfriends house. I asked if I could see her today instead, but she had to revise for 2 exams coming up this week. She text me earlier saying she's spent the day shopping an swimming with her mum. So we agreed to meet up next weekend, because she's got these exams but now she's going to go out saturday with her girly mates an I asked if I could meet her out or something, but she didn't want me to because apparently they're celebrating something (although she didn't say what) an that maybe we could meet up sometime after next weekend. So I said 'dont worry about it' to which she replied 'dont get stretty at me' an I just said 'I just feel abit let down thats all'. She said Sorry an that she's feeling stressed an she's sorry if she's seeming like a dick. So I just ended it with 'Im going to bed, night'.

Have I done the right thing? I didn't wana be all pussy footing around her saying 'Its okay, I dont mind' because really I do give a shit. I don't like being fobbed off all the time an then when I say something she just says 'Sorry' an it's meant to be all okay.

Same thing happened to my mate and it ended up him getting pissed off because he really liked her and he broke it off and they kept getting back together and same thing happening again her not trying to see him. After they finished for good she changed and became all missing him and shit. It never worked out in end and he wasted about 8months with her being messed around.

So my advice is one of to things, give her a going over tell her you arnt going to be taken for a ride and if she actually wants to be with you and stay with you not to mess you around making and changeing plans and taking the piss.

Or tell her that you respect that exams are stressfull and hard and that things are going to be messed up with you to lately because of it so, call things off between you and pick it back up after the exams.

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