Fixed Pants™ Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 I'm not nervous or anything. I'm not after her for a year long relationship, just a bit of a fling if it pans out like that, and as i've just told tom, it's experience isn't it? That was the first time i ever kissed a girl saturday so i think i could do with the exp. She isn't that fit but why would i wanna f**k it up with a fit girl?She just text me saying wadup sorry i didnt add u, my comps buggered n stuff, so i guess she's talking to me and not trying to give me the finger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fishy Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 You actually don't take into account anything anyone ever tells you, do you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 and not trying to give me the finger.Nope, she's saving that for next time...Wouldn't wanna rush now would she? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan6061 Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Nah, I kinda agree with what he's doing.No harm in trying to see how it'll go is there?Easier then finding someone else.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Urban mammoth Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 right....I have been in a relationship for 3 years now, it's been great, but everything is just getting so stale now.she comes round, we sit on opposite sides of the room.we cant seem to have serious converstaions, always seems to be silly, light hearted all the time.she is 3 years younger than me. im 21 she is just turning 18.im moving to durham in september, she is goin to uni in leeds.when i go out with my friends, i just feel bogged down, that i can't fully let go and have fun, that someone, somewhere is always watching me and reporting back.we have separate friends, i know them but never really hang out with any of them.she goes to college all week, works all weekend, i play rugby on weekends, train through the week, travel to uni.we either get friday night, saturday night, or sometimes both together.i have become friends with all her family and they are all really nice, like aunties, uncles, grandma, granddad, cousins etc etc and she has become best mates with my younger sister.i text her quite a lot, but recently she never texts me back. i know she texts her mates back straight away if they ever text her. but she always seems to forget about me.we have had ups and downs in the 3 years, we have even spoke about what we want to do later on in life, like spoke bout houses, babies, marriage etc etc. but i just feel so 'meh' bout the whole thing now.i have never ended a relationship before. i have always been the one who has been dumped. she has just had all her a level exams so is worrying about them.i still really care about her, but i just want to go out and have fun and not have to worry about anything.i just feel like if i ended it, everyone would hate me, all her family would never speak to me agen, friends etc would think i was horrible and stuff.i wud love to just be friends with her, hang out and hav a laugh and stuff.i know the grass is always greener and stuff but i really dont know what to do.we said we going to go to new york to gether this christmas... its nearly valentines day, we we;re going to plan a holiday in cornwall.she has been asked to go on a girls holiday to kavos, if we broke up then it would be great for her to get away with her mates.i have literally started to cry as i have been writing this because i just dont know what to do, or how i really feel.never thought i would be writing in the girl trouble thread.dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hI-OOPS-CAPS Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 doubt theres a way to end this without feeling down, both of you, for a while. unless she feels the same way but i would doubt that. and even then itll still be hard to get over.im interested in what some people will tell you to do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 sympathy for you...maybe there's a way to put the spark back in your relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam F Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 May sound silly, but wait until summer. Winter always gets people down and summer always seems to be the best times and it always makes you happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fixed Pants™ Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Nah, I kinda agree with what he's doing.No harm in trying to see how it'll go is there?Easier then finding someone else..Safe, it's logical though, i might aswell make mistakes while she's not that good looking than manage to find a really fit bird and f**k it up within a week.We've been texting for the last half hour or whatever, she seems pretty friendly towards me n stuff, said she's invite me if anything like a party or similar happens this weekend, said the same back n stuff. Wonder how it will go, I dunno, think she'll want to just be friends or will we end up getting off again towards the end of the night? Cos it'd be a bit weird just ignoring what happened n shit, but wouldn't be very just mates if we did end up going stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Iv pulled my best female friend although it was kinda gay after, but thats just sorta cozza how she is.But yea most girls who I just had a quick one off with at a party are just mates now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basher Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 .........The best thing to do is to talk to her about it, you dont have to tak to her about breaking up but just say how you feel things have gone stale ect and see what she says. She might be thinking the exact same thing as you now for all you know. That way you might both decide that you should move on that things have run there course or you might sort stuff out. It either talk things through and see how the conversation ends or go round and say you want to finish it and why ( as im sure you will, if you do this make sure you actually go round and do it face to face and not over phone ect think after 3years together how ever hard it is you have to do that) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Urban, Sorry to hear that. You'll both be moving away to serperate uni's soon; chances of anything working at such a distance are pretty limited...especially If you're having doubts now.My friend lives in Cardiff and is with a lad from Derby...he visits most weekends but I think he sees it more of a chore for such a long drive every weekend; and whenever he cannot make it or is too tired to drive, she falls out with him for it - personally I'd say in such a situation its not worth the hassle.Your 21, the odds of you saying with this girl long enough to consider marriage, kids, house is pretty slim. Going on the basis you'll be going to uni, as will she, and be meeting new folks. Your best bet, in my opinion, would be to keep it going until you leave for uni. Leaving her now will only f**k her up for her A levels...which isn't really fair.Go to Cornwall, and NY if shes not gone to uni then and make the most of it...you may change your mind, but I think when you have doubts like this, it'll never work.Sorry I couldn't sound more encouraging, but hey, its only my opinion Good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Urban mammoth Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 cheers for all the advice guys......we split up tonight....hmmmm.but we both agreed it was right. and the best thing is we now both have a best friend for life. :king: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 (edited) Havnt been into a girl for a while now, sorta wanting one. Last time I had a GF I lost interest really quickly though but Im pretty sure thats because although we got on it wasnt really right.However although there are like no girls atall that I could even really think of liking, there is a girl Iv been relativly good mates with for a while, recently started chatting to her more and more. Problem is she is REALLY good looking and gets interest from people who are quite frankly better than me, also I dont think shes bothered about relationships at the moment. Now I dont plan on going on at her about how I love her n shite as i really dont. Dont even know if I really like her like that. In this situation though (esspecially considering her personality) I dont know how to try and get an idea as to wether anything could happen without letting on that I like her.On another female related note, met a girl just before xmas at my school ball, got on really well and stuff. didnt get a number or anything. Then I met her again (on like the 23rd Dec) at a party, and we pulled (or if youd rather "kissed") abit and generally got on, although there was another boy trying to get with her aswell. Anyway again no number, so a few days later I realise she commented me on the shite that is bebo. So eventually we get numbers. Text her a little, again meet a couple of times and get on really well have a good laugh etc. Find out then that she has a BF (the boy from the party) she text me and said we needed a chat. So I go see her and she basically said: after the ball, I really liked you and was really into you, then after that party I still really liked you. Aparantly her boyfriend asked her out xmas day and she turned him down as she liked me. But I didnt text her so she said yes to him a few days after. I was a little WTF I didnt text you... I didnt have your number....Meh, not to bothered. She was fun and all but dunno if I really wanted to go out with her. She looked good at a party last friday though. bit of a kick in the balls.Ooooo well. Edited January 31, 2008 by Tom_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Token Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 Meh, not to bothered. She was fun and all but dunno if I really wanted to go out with her. She looked good at a party last friday though. bit of a kick in the balls.Ooooo well.Mate, if she gives a shit excuse like that "you didn't text her" so she went off with someone else, she really isn't worth 2 minutes. Bit of a bitch aswell for blaming you that your not an item now. An she sounds well childish if she thought 'Oh I'll go with this guy instead because the other one hasnt text me'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 Yea Im not bothered, she was fun at a party or two but never really thought of making a relationship out of it, just a shame she isnt single... another one of the list of girls in the "local party crowd" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fixed Pants™ Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 and we pulled abit and stuff, although there was another boy trying to get with her aswell.Btw, pulled is Toms word for kissed/madeout/got off/got with.Tard Can't help you or anyone here though, cos we all know i'm a shitter with girls, sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom_ Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Btw, pulled is Toms word for kissed/madeout/got off/got with.Tard Can't help you or anyone here though, cos we all know i'm a shitter with girls, sorry.If you lived here, itd be your word for it aswell. Kissed sounds gheyyyyyyy. Edit: Its more the top bit thats my problem, just thought Id add the last bit because girls are silly. Edited January 31, 2008 by Tom_ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 cheers for all the advice guys......we split up tonight....*hug smiley here* Best thing to do mate, go out, have fun like you wanted, don't give yourself too much time to sit and think about it, spend as much time as possible with friends Easier said that done, but hey ho you just get on with it, plenty more fish 'n' all that... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poopipe Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) edit: bollocks- diddnt read the whole thread Edited January 31, 2008 by poopipe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walleee Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Edited June 11 by Walleee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.That is all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrayvon Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 Do expand on your 'argh' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 f**k, where to start. Week or two ago i starting meeting up with a girl i've known for a very long time. We go through phases of hardly talking, then always talking and so on. I'm always there for her, offering her advice, helping her through the bad times in her life, and has been like this for a long time now. So anyway, we met up again when my car was in body shop as she offered to give me lifts to and from work, this when i realised she had changed from the completely manic and immature girl that i had knew before. She had matured, into someone i could easily fall for.That weekend we was talking about my mates and how her mates never really want to do anything like what we do, randomly go bowling, pool, go round a mates and chill, play Wii and so on. As it happens, my best mate had just recently split from a girlfriend of 2-3 months, they was looking at moving in together and so on. We was going round a mates and i asked if she wanted to come, and she kept asking about my mate. It was obvious that she had something for him so i suggested she come to get to know him and so on.At my mates i got them talking and so on but quickly realised that i actually had feelings for her, but by this time it was also obvious that she liked my mate, and he liked her.They text there after and we met up the following day as well where they was like, touchy feely, i just dealt (anyone remember my last post in this thread? Pretty much same situation, girl i liked went for my mate so i just let the feelings go and didn't say anything).When they started talking after the initial excitement she started to think that my mate wasn't actually right for her at all, for instance, one of his first questions after knowing her for 2 days was, "are you ok with me being your last boyfriend". Yeh, he likes commitment... At this point she started questioning my feelings towards her, i shrugged it off as not to ruin their chances but in the end i just told her after i asked why she wanted to know and her reply was "wishful thinking i guess".After this, everything was f**ked up, she told me mate she wasn't actually interested and that she was only excited really 'cause of the pro-longed perioid without a relationship and sudden buzz of having a possible there.I should at this point have felt like second best, but i didn't.We met up after that but it seemed that she hadn't actually got the message across to my friend who was still interested so i backed off. I kept asking her to speak to him properly as lets be honest here, it was only her that could fix this. They spoke in the end and my friend was completely fine with her feelings and saying that it was quite obvious who she liked, and my feelings toward her. Maybe he remembered what i did for him and his ex, either way it was all good.At this point we was hugging and it just felt so good, so nice to have someone you care about embrace you and be close with you.Day's drew on and we met up every night, randomly driving and talking, going bowling and so on and then she was basically, "you are so amazing, and i can't stop thinking about you, but i can't see us together". Bam, i was bit like, 'wtf' at this point, but basically said the ball is her court and i'll respect any decision she makes in relation to us.Then last night we went out to pub with some mates and we was all chatting away, she sat their texting my mate of my phone and was clearly somewhere else. Cause of the whole not wanting what she wants i didn't do anything, i just left her too it really, maybe a wrong decision looking back but heh.We got home and was talking and she said "is it not obvious i like you" to which i replied "not always". Oh man, can of worms would be understatement of the year. This went on for hours and basically had the undercurrent of "i don't know why you like me, you can do better" blah blah, the usual.Basically where i'm at now. I've told her i don't want anyone else, i want to be in her life, help her through such bad times but she just wont listen.It's just so f**king complicated, and when i write it out now, i make her sound shit and she really isn't, just think it's a case of mistaken feelings or what ever, and my reluctance to tell her how i felt at the start, and her reluctance to go anywhere with it just yet.Meh, my advice for her in the past has been pretty much spot on so i'm basically just following my little in-experienced insticts which have guided her in the past, and hopefully can guide me.I miss simplicity.PS: just seen the size of my post, not expecting a reply, only really wanted to get it off my chest, plus i've explained events really, really bad haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Booth Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 Oh My God.My best mate, is a lass, We went out for her birthday, and my missus came as she knows her anyway. After several pints/tequillas, I hugged my frined, and my missus is gogin mad over it.Tempted to just chuck her to be honest. It was 2 weeks ago and she's treating it like it was a full on romp in the cupboard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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