hill_393 Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 Hi - Just been thinking a lot about this recently, so I'd thought i'd get other people's views on this situation. My girlfriend Sue has literally helped turn my life around. She was my best riend for a couple of years, and before we became partners, she was always there to support and help me through the crap times, split up's etc - She would never judge me - Just help. Just before we got together, i saw her with another bloke in a club and got insanely jealous. Took me a while to figure out why - it turns out she had the same feelings. We've been together over a year now, and she helped me turn my life around. She has managed to help me get myself out of debt, and within 6 months of entering the retail enviroment as a carer, I was appointed Shop Manager. It was her belief in me, and her pushing me to be the best thats got me to where I am today. She really did help me turn my life around. Also, she tells me to go out and ride, so can't complain at all!Just wanted to post a topic to see if anyone else has been helped in this way, and who's helped them?Darren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
downhill_rob2@hotmail.com Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 sounds like you have got a Gud'un there mate.I havnt really had anyone like that yet but hopefully my GF will soon P.S, been with her 1 year 1 week now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1a2bcio8 Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 That's a good thing to hear Darren. And this is a good oppertunity for me to express a recent difference in my life that relates to certain influences.I share a similar story in regards to my girlfriend having influenced my being in a positive direction. My life has been pretty messy for the most part, especially in the last few years. I met my girlfriend about a year ago now though and since then everything has been improving. She's motivated me a great deal in to change and that's just from being who she is and that she wants to be with me. She's away travelling though at the moment which kinda sucks for me in a selfish way but I'm off to see her for nine weeks this summer in Australia. I can't wait.Other positive influences in my life have come from the intellectuals, Robert Anton Wilson and Noam Chomsky. The first for having somebody that has enforced and progressed my ideas of subjective perception and how they relate to understanding towards not only others but also towards the self. The latter for encouraging and potentially enlightening me towards dissent against the forces in this world that I consider to be negative. From these two individuals I have discovered the academic route to which I wish to follow in relation to how I might contribute to a happier society. And slightly different but also I think a very important influence to my life at present is the practise of zen buddhism. So I guess thta kind of means buddha as a source of influence although zen is a differing school of his teachings. Meditation tends to arise in you postive feeling towards your surroundings and encourages understanding to those surroundings and the events that arise from them. The practise relates to training the mind to understand itself and thus it's understanding of that which it experiences through the senses. What's the point in trying to understand the world when you don't understand the tool (yourself) that registers the world? I think the practise of meditation, not neccesarily buddhist meditation has the potential to make everyone enjoy their lives in more depth. I'm highly confident it will improve your riding if that a motivating factor to any of you That's a few influences but they are all valid to me and I think it's the contribution of all of them that act as an overal "best" influence. One is not neccesarily better that the other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Cable Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 I dont have a influencial person in my life. I believe that I influence myself. Any actions that I do, i want to take the glory for, not someone else(im selfish like that ). Back on the serious side...was joking just there...Probably the person like that for me at the moment, is my friend Adele. She is a legend. When Im on a downer, she always cheers me up.. , she helps to cheer me on, and allows me to reach my goals. Like a 4ft drop gap, couldnt do it, untill she was there, cheering my on, done it third attempt!From Lee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
downhill_rob2@hotmail.com Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 I have inspired myself actually in life.When i was in year 8, man i was a tool, thinking i was cool going round smashing stuff up, but after like 1 year of doing that, i said to myself, this seams really childish and silly. so i stopped, and i have actually become a better person.But im still really selfish theres this under 18's thingy on at a night club in town, and my GF has went with her mate, im really pissed off cause i keep thinking about what she might be gettin upto n stuff, but i havnt stopped for from going (which i have done before) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 Very similar to what my girlfriend did with me. Not to the extent of helping me out at work or getting out of debts because there was no need, but she did sometimes offer her help in these matters, never would I accept it though. Been together over two years (and two years of friendship before), but the feeling between us has somewhat deteriorated. Yet as she's been so influential, if we split, we will probably be friends for life. We both helped each other too much to forget about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoyoyo Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 The person who influenced me the most in my life is my brother. Because i've looked up to him all my life, especially when i was younger. He started trials, i started trials. He wore skate stuff and then i wore skate stuff, etc...But now i'm older, i have different views to him. Especially as he lives with his partner now so i don't see him as much. Plus now i'd say i'm far more intelligent than he is , plus i can learn from the mistakes he's made, so we're completly different. Which sorts of makes me lost as to who i look to.My friends influence me with the things I say. Not the way I speak but just words or phrases that come out.People on here influence me a lot, obviously in the way i ride and stuff i buy/like. And also how I speak to others aswell. Trialsforum is probably were a get most inluenced from because theres all types of people so you get lots of angles on stuff.And i don't have a girlfriend to get help from either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaRtZ Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 My mother. She was quite strict on my upbringing but doesn't care as much nowI have to say im proud my mum brought me up this way, because I could have ended up like a chav without herThanks mum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicH_87 Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 don't have anyone like that really, but probably through choice.i rely on myself only, i've found that I can't trust people nearly as much as i can trust myself.some people would call me antisocial or something, but meh, whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Has anyone seen my shoe? Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 A family friend who I now consider a Grandad. Hes given me so much advice about the army (hes a careers officer) and just everything in general. If theres ever been a time where I felt I couldnt talk to my mum and dad about things hes been there. Hes also been there for the rest of my family as well, hes just an awesome guy. Were going on our first family holiday in july and hes coming with his wife. I just think it symbolises how much he means to us. His wife has also been a great help to my family but personally he has been a big influence on me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted April 20, 2006 Report Share Posted April 20, 2006 don't have anyone like that really, but probably through choice.i rely on myself only, i've found that I can't trust people nearly as much as i can trust myself.some people would call me antisocial or something, but meh, whatever.Agreed. I like to think I don't rely on people too much. But if I had to pick anyone it'd either be my parents or my neighbour (liam). Hes a year older then me and we've hung about together since I can ever remember.We've never gone our different ways or anything like that and now were both 18 we go out a lot 'on the pull' so to speak, its always a laugh. Been on holiday with him a few times, which was amazing and I hope to go again very soon. He always makes me laugh no matter what mood I'm in...usually a bad one.He always helps out when I've had trouble with girlfriends and stuff...I'm sure everyone knows someone like it, but its like you know each other amazingly well, and you have known each other so long you can look back on things you did 10 years ago and laugh about it still, which I think is great.We always have a moan about when we were young and how people are young now and that they do NOTHING we did...eg. when was the last time you saw some little kids having a waterfight? Never...they're all out smoking and getting laid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted April 20, 2006 Report Share Posted April 20, 2006 Loads of people have influenced me - Some good some bad.My best mate influences me to spend money and get drunk, while my g/f does the opposite Nice post Darren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_soon_to_be Posted April 20, 2006 Report Share Posted April 20, 2006 in my life i have not had much in the way of really special people in my life, i don't get on with all my family, but some of them i really do..but as with everyone there is certain people you cannot tell everything..although i do have a best mate, who i may not have know for years, (about 3-4 years) but he has been single handly the most influencial person i have ever know.. even when times have been bad and other against me in silly mistakes i have made, he has never judged me..through the thick and thin, ups and downs... in my relationships when they go tits up which they inevatably do i always seems to put a smile on my face and pick me up out the dumps. dunno what it is but i have told him things that only he knows, not another person does (unless that wankers been talking) but as i have said in the "what does sex mean" thread, i have explain what a massive influence he and his gf have had on view and values of the opposite sex.. and i do appriaciate that greatly and consider it one of the biggest gifts they could have given me, cheers...cheers for helping me out dudeand to clarify i am not gay, much prefer the split pea'sand where did all these meanful topics come from ???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CurtisRider Posted April 21, 2006 Report Share Posted April 21, 2006 The person who influenced me the most in my life is my brother. Because i've looked up to him all my life, especially when i was younger. He started trials, i started trials. He wore skate stuff and then i wore skate same, kinda-cept mine doesnt ride trialsalways looked up to my older brother, never quite been so close to my other brother and sister. we always talk about things, trust each other, have a laugh. he has supported me all the way through everything ive done, helped me whenever he could, missed him to hell when he went to uni- he is also a complete fanny sometimes and and is very opinionative-which strangely i find is a good thing as he doesnt give me any bullshit, just says what he thinksthen again, i owe my parents a great deal, they have helped me along the way as much as possible(without spoiling me), and i know im uber lucky to have the freedom of having a farm compared to a majority of people i know who live in poky little housesmy friends dont really influence me in a huge way, and ive never found a girl thats made an impact on my life as such, well at least not a hugely positive one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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