What Does Sex Mean Today?

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Orite Chaps

As above what do you think sex means to people today?

I dont think it is valued as much as it was years ago and it seems that with the amount of porn around us today the age is getting younger. So many children are getting pregnant and wrecking their life. But why?

Could it be becase of our increasing chav population?

Just something I half read in the Guardian the other day and was intrested on other people's views.

Cheers,

Calum

[Simpson]

well i lost my virginity a couple of years ago and i think thats bad seeing as im only 16 now. i mean now looking back on it i regret it - not because of the girl i lost it to we were going out for 9 months before we took the step so it wasnt that - just she asked me to an so i felt like i shoud out of love - but i blamed it slightly on the mags she read the magasines which are targeted young teenagers were too exposive and made it too acceptable. i mean i think im older beyond my years and its taught me alot about relationships and how to handle them

ive got a new gf who has done nothing and im not going to ask anything of her at all - its the smaller things that make the difference the smiles the good times. in the future a cold shower an porns where its at.

i dont think loosing my virginity was too terrible - i respect it but means i can take care of future gf's without pressure or stress just when they ready. i dont see it as a loss but i wish i hadnt done it... if that makes sence

[Dr. Nick Riviera]

good topic.

i guess its become more socially accepted and there aren't as many taboo's now.

however in my opinion i feel that there is far too much influence towards the younger girls that is ok for them to go out and get dicked up a treat.

and with the influx of lads mags it now seems younger fellows see the main goal in life is to go out and put it in a load of "fit bitches"

which isn't very good , but there isnt much that can be done about it.

but the media coverage aside, it has become more acceptable within society, you wouldnt dream of having a one night stand if it was the 50's , because people just didn't do that. times have changed

casual sex ahoy!

[RicH_87]

i think it's becasue girls give it away a lot easier than they used to. mostly related to binge drinking like somone above said.

its a majority of girls that go out and binge drink nowadays (or so i read). Boys haven't changed, they will always wants it and take what they can get pretty much, and it's stereotypically up to the girls wether or not they have sex, nowadays they are a lot more like lads especially when they've been drinking and they have alot less hang ups about it.

Girls used to be called sluts etc for getting laid, and in a lot of cases still are but it's generally more accepted as girls are acting more and more like lads.

Infact a lot of seem a lot more 'laddish' than a lot of lads i know.

A laid back attitude gets you laid pretty much.

[Extreme_biker0]

I don't think there si a problem currently with peoples views on sex. As at any point in time, there are different classes/groups (not necessarily of class) and in these different groups different views are held.

For example, I think there is a problem with teenage pregnancy among the chavs. However, there are a lot of none chav girls, also having a good time, sensibly, in the none chav group. And it isn't hurting anyone among those people generally.

The problem nowadays as highlighted recently by adverts and the like, is that drink and casual sex can be a bad mix.

It's almost at the point where you need to get a signature before you can shag! Even your own girlfriend of 2 years! What really needs to happen is pricks need to stop taking advantage of girls who are clearly drunk.

My view: I think sex is something far more enjoyable in a relationship anyway

[rickycoleman]

Good question, The culture i've been brought up in has made me think several times about this. I feel that Some people value sex very highly and see it as a major stage in a relationship, Others see it as leisure, Others use it to get attention, some use it to boast and some people just follow the crowd.

To me i always thought it was the sort of thing you do with some one who you've been seeing for a long time( 3 months upwards), but now i've noticed as i've got older, more and more people are willing to take part in one-night-stands and cheat because they are more confident and experienced through previous experiences.

I would argue that the more 'experienced' you are, the less it means to you, because you don't it with so many people, it has less value. In a way se has no different meaning now compared to what it did 100 years ago, because there were still prostitutes and slags then. I also think alot of it depends on class, I.e. if your brought up in an enviroment where 'getting wasted' and 'getting with people' is the done thing , then sex has little value. whereas if your brought up in a culture of middle class qualities where such things are frowned upon, your more likely to place a higher value on sex and only practice this in a committed relationship.

getting back to m views, I still think its something i would do in a decent long term relationship, but would find it hard to say no to a attractive girl seeking a one-night stand. So i'm a bit stuck in the middle. I don't agree with people sleeping around , but theres nothing wrong with find the less-serious , fun side to sex.

A confused Rick

[Smo™]

I think for a lot of people sex is just a good time. Years ago it was a lot more than that and if ever someone published a magazine like they do today there would be riots, grannies fainting and men setting fire to things. Personally I lost my virginity when I was 14 years old, I'd been with my girlfriend at the time for 7 months and we thought we were in love. She started by flirting outrageously and saying we could have 'hot steamy sex all over the house' and I was like... 'Don't tease me woman.' The sweet sound that filled my ears was as I had hoped - 'Who's teasing?' To cut a long story short, within minutes we were a naked thrasing mess all over the carpet, sofa and closest bed.

Anyway (getting a wee bit carried away), I tend to have sex out of love as I enjoy it more when I think that it's more than just a quick shag, which is somewhat demoralising as having sex is the most personal thing you can ever do with someone. I have only ever had sex with two people I didn't love, one I don't remember her name or too well what she looks like (which I regret tremendously) and the other was a girlfriend who decided to mount me completely starkers and massage the old chap, needless to say I wasn't one to refuse.

Basically I'd much prefer to have sex with someone I felt for, instead of some braud who's hot (lets understand that love or not, I'll stick my willy in nothing less than perfection should I be sober enough to notice the difference between Medusa and Victoria Silvstedt).

I think sex is almost meaningless nowadays, and it's a damn shame because a lot of people don't realise that the casual sex they're having on a regular basis is less than half as good as having sex with someone you love. So in a way, it's them who are missing out.

Edited April 18, 2006 by Smo

[Tom_C]

Smo-that was quite a thoughtful post btw, I agree with your point of view. This topic is almost an exact replica of my media lesson conversations!

Tom

[Synergy]

smos words:

"I think sex is almost meaningless nowadays, and it's a damn shame because a lot of people don't realise that the casual sex they're having on a regular basis is less than half as good as having sex with someone you love. So in a way, it's them who are missing out."

so true thats pretty much what i was gona say.

i presonally havent had sex with some random one night stand and have only done it with one person but with this one person id say imo opinion (hearing from mates who have had one night stands) its much better because you can do more things find different things and its way more personal making it way more enjoyable.

[CalopS]

Theres nothing wrong with having casual sex as long as its safe. Its more accepted these days because ladys dont feel as forced to be as lady like as they used to and they want it as much as us guys.....more in some cases

And agreeing with someones point that casual sex isnt meaningfull but it doesnt mean without meaning that its a bad thing

be the young sex manics you want to be.......just give it some respect (wonders where the safe sex smiley face is)

p.s. the goverment really need to give the chav population free condoms and big posters on how to use them......you never see goths or moshers pushing 3 baby prams round

p.p.s im a little drunk. nighty night all

[Walleee]

In a way se has no different meaning now compared to what it did 100 years ago, because there were still prostitutes and slags then.

Mate, that's a f**kin' classic!

[anzo]

It something I'm pretty neutral about, I'll take it if its there, but I won't break my neck for it. Having been in a relationship with the same girl for about 2 years, she made me feel like a 'bad person' for wanting sex, and that I was only with her for the sex.

This now (thanks!) has left me with a bit of a complex as I shy away from most possible relationships because I don't want to be f**ked about again, even though it probably wouldn't happen.

I'm pretty much one for the 16 sex law, not so much the law side of it, but just the personal side of you'll regret it. I lost mine to my previous girlfriend when I was 15, which I'm glad about really and don't regret at all, but I know if I did it any earlier or with someone else, I probably wouldn't be as happy.

The whole going out getting pissed getting laid I don't really get on with, I value people too much for a one night stand, meaning if I have sex, I want to be with them.

Regarding taking advantage of drunk girls, its just wrong...plus who in their right mind would do it, drunk girls are so annoying.

[Smo™]

Theres nothing wrong with having casual sex as long as its safe. Its more accepted these days because ladys dont feel as forced to be as lady like as they used to and they want it as much as us guys.....more in some cases

And agreeing with someones point that casual sex isnt meaningfull but it doesnt mean without meaning that its a bad thing

be the young sex manics you want to be.......just give it some respect (wonders where the safe sex smiley face is)

p.s. the goverment really need to give the chav population free condoms and big posters on how to use them......you never see goths or moshers pushing 3 baby prams round

p.p.s im a little drunk. nighty night all

Don't get me wrong mate, I have no problem with people having casual sex, I've done it with two people and don't have think about how wrong it was every day. The first time was with a girl I'd never met before and I don't remember her name or too well what she looks like, that's what I regret, not the having sex. It was good, as sex usually is, but I've just realised a noticeable difference in how much I enjoy it when it's with someone I love. And yes, don't be a fool, wrap your tool. Always.

[anzo]

I've done it with two people

Hmm, I've done it with 4. Although 2 of them left when I broke a mirror...not sure why (ba tishhh (on the drums) worst joke ever).

Just a bit of a random post...

On the radio now they have this new campagne, basically its about rape and not getting permission from the girl to have sex with her.

And the advert goes 'theres lots of names for sex...getting laid, getting off, banging her' and they list about 10 and one of them is 'a bit of hows your father'...what the f**k is that?

And then they say 'but theres only one name for sex without permission....'rape''

On the subject, not many rape cases even make court, 70% of the time is the woman getting back at some guy for something...best thing to do is accuse them of rape. Siders, I'll see you in court.

Edited April 19, 2006 by anzo

[PaRtZ]

I have done it with 1 girl. She was really hot imo (blonde from norway) the sex itself was pretty damn good, but afterwards I had to deal with all the "no way you didn't did you?! " blah blah blah

To me it doesn't mean anything unless you're trying for a baby because that is when you know that the result of your actions will result in a greater bonding between you and (hopefully) your girlfriend.

Sorry if my view annoys some people but i don't really see the big thing behind it all Its like giving flowers, that use to be the way to get a girl back in the days but now its just something guys do when they're up sh!t creek lol

[Rich Pearson]

Sex has come very close to ruining my life in many ways over the years. I lost my virginity at 16 to a 23 year old, a factor I havn't really come to appreciate until recently. Before then I looked at sex as something I HAD to do otherwise, 'I wouldn't be cool, because, like, everyone else is doing it, y'know.' Because of that attitude I had I very nearly ended up in court on rape charges (a very long story I am not going to explain except to say I didn't actually rape anyone...)

Since I lost my virginity I fell in and out of a great number of peoples beds, male and female, younger and older, drunk or on drugs. After a while it meant nothing. I had a friend who's since moved away, and I remember how we used to sleep together on a casual basis AND then go and sleep with other people, and I remember one time she asked me over and I just said no. I never realised I'd get tired of sex; which isn't me bragging so much as illustrating a point.

I have got people pregnant, caught my fair share of STI's (clean now I'll have you know...), seen people crying and seen people in pain, and I don't want to relive any of that. I'm with this kick-ass girl now called Rochelle, it's our six month anniversary this weekend and the only thing I want to do is tell her that I love her.

So the answer to the question: Sex is what I had with all those people before I met Rochelle. Making love is what we do now. And you can never really know/appreciate one without experiencing the other.

Sex is like motorways, machine guns or hard drugs; treat them with respect, and everything will go peachy. Don't, and they will eat you alive.

Rich

[John Shrewsbury]

Since I lost my virginity I fell in and out of a great number of peoples beds,( male)? and female

WTF

Edited April 19, 2006 by John Shrewsbury

[Joe Papasnap Maher]

WTF

Yer...her bats for both side's, he told us before

[Dr. Nick Riviera]

whilst that made me lol , is it completley appropriate?

[Has anyone seen my shoe?]

I lost my virginity when I was 15 and to be honest that was mainly because I wanted to be cool. It was at a time in my life where being cool meant everything. I do kind of regret it, I did like the girl dont get me wrong but I dont think I loved her.

I havent had sex with too many different people since then, after I wanted to just go round and have sex with loads of girls. I tried, failed then gave up trying to be cool and just accepting that people are either going to like me or not. Now sex is like an added bonus, yeah I do think about it but when im with a girl I just enjoy being with her. I think im now over concious of a girls feelings and dont want to pressure them into doing anything they dont want to.

I think for everyone other then the obvious, sex still has meaning. Drunk/Drugged Fueled sex has no meaning and you will more then likely end up regretting it.

[fruitbat]

i have never seen a topic make the lads on this forum put as much thought into the posts they make and i havn't yet seen a one word answer (apart from the WTF etc), every post on here is one people have thought about

Sex these days doesnt mean what it did many years ago, yeah most people have it for fun which is how its seen as these days, just a bit of fun and its seen as cool to 'get your end away'

Years ago it was a private thing that no one spoke of but times change, sex will always now be about getting laid and having a good time but when someone mentions 'making love', thats when you know its private between 2 people and its thought of differntly to casual sex. Personally i didnt lose my virginity till i was 17, and i dont regret waiting at all.

Frooty

[Ali C]

17..call that waiting!!!

22 years now never even had a kiss let alone a shag.

sex is for adults, not teeny boppers

[yoyoyo]

Thing is though, when i was a lot younger we would be told to wait and give it to someone meaningful. But whats the point in waiting if most people have already done it. Because when it gets to that night, if you tell them that you'll get laughed at most likely. Meh

[manxrider]

Surely if they laugh there not the "one" then are they.

Edited April 19, 2006 by manxrider

[Has anyone seen my shoe?]

I can kind of see where your coming from yoyoyo but to be honest i'd rather have held out, and lost my virginity to my last girlfriend for instance rather then the one I did lose it to.