tomturd Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 1 hour ago, RossBurnside said: What I'm most worried about is getting old I suspect 10 year old you would say that 18 year old you is old. Really old. But you don't feel old. I'm 32 and I'm still waiting to feel old! It never seems to happen. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 Vaguely related: I'm getting out of the forces soon - anyone want to give me an awesome job? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ross McArthur Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 (edited) We seem to employ every ex-Navy punter going so... Edited October 6, 2016 by Ross McArthur 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 Haha! I'm actually quite keen to get away from it if something fun was to pop up. Always nice to have a backup though, so never say never... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forteh Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 7 hours ago, Luke Rainbird said: Vaguely related: I'm getting out of the forces soon - anyone want to give me an awesome job? So they caught up with you after that incident with turning the submarines oxygen off? What sort of awesome job you looking for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted October 6, 2016 Report Share Posted October 6, 2016 If current affairs anything to go by I think it's more likely my reluctance to crash into things that'd be a problem Not too sure yet, need to hunt around a little more and suss things out. I'd love to get into something more automotive, but the industry is all the far side of the country really. I'd be happy to work away from home for the right job, though I'd imagine I'll find something a little less fun but closer to home in all honesty. Exciting times though for sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted October 7, 2016 Report Share Posted October 7, 2016 Not that I'm condoning it, but I spent most of school smoking weed, left with 0 GCSE's (As in A-C, I got a few D's and E's). I went to college and did a foundation course in computer programming. I left college and did various random jobs, Argos, hifi shop, landscaping company and so many different office jobs. I spent most of my 20's drunk. Now I'm in a high paid engineering job, despite clearly not being an engineer and having no degree or anything. I'm 32 and things are starting to take shape, but I still don't know what I really want to do, other than something photography or/and car related... TL;DR: Don't worry about it, just enjoy yourself. Be good at blagging it and you'll go far. (I'm the worst person to take advice from, so probably ignore all that) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Harrison Posted October 8, 2016 Report Share Posted October 8, 2016 On 10/6/2016 at 3:49 PM, RossBurnside said: It hit me the other day I'm leaving college this year with shit grades in 2 A Levels and a BTEC I have no interest in pursuing, no idea what I want to do in life, no plan for after college, all my friends are viewing unis and looking into courses and I don't even know if I want to go or what the f*ck I want to do, am more than broke thanks to car and bike, the nearest people to me I actually want to go see are all a fair bit older than me and are getting on with their lives with full time jobs, girlfriends, uni, no time to ride/see each other, and I feel like I'm being left behind because all I have to do is ride my bike. Everyone around me's stopping riding and I feel like I've barely even started. Help. Drowning. http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2016/10/one-thing-wish-knew-20s/ (PS check out his book Choose Yourself, it's really good) I was only thinking this morning about the things I thought were important in my mid-20s, and how different it all is now. University is ok but it's not the ticket to ride it was 15-20+ years ago. It's all very well going there but ultimately you may just be putting off for 3 years the need to make some serious decisions, whilst at the same time accruing a debt. There are going to be more and more young people coming out of university for less and less jobs, and so they'll sign on or do jobs they could be doing without a degree. I left uni and had no idea what to do next. These days I often work with people 10 years younger than me that skipped university and make as much money as I do despite being much younger. I can't remember the last time anybody cared or checked about whether or not I have a degree. With some confidence and belief and a few ideas you can really carve your own path out. And actually JD is probably a good example - he had some ideas, set up a company and ran with that. I think we're reaching times where just having a degree won't be enough - employers will want to see some ingenuity, something more than a piece of paper. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted October 8, 2016 Report Share Posted October 8, 2016 Bought a brand new radiator for my cheap fixer upper RVR, got it all fitted up, filled up with fresh coolant, switched the car on and the f**king thing has got a bigger crack in it than the one I'm replacing! I'll get it swapped for a good one but it's still f**king annoying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Booth Posted October 11, 2016 Report Share Posted October 11, 2016 A good friends dad suffered a major heart attack which triggered a huge stroke about a week ago, he died yesterday morning after spending a week as essentially a vegetable . Seems odd, used to go to the pub with him, he was the last person you'd expect to die like this, he completed the London Marathon for the passed 3 years and was a regular at tough murder events and stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted October 11, 2016 Report Share Posted October 11, 2016 Life is unfair like that mate, it can happen to any of us, at any time. You get situations like that and you also get the opposite - people that drink and smoke constantly yet live to 95... Condolences anyway dude, that sucks big time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsMatt Posted October 11, 2016 Report Share Posted October 11, 2016 @RossBurnside I'm 20 and I ride a bike (all be it a boring bike) for a living. I'm completely over qualified for this level of work but I love it. As long as you don't let your life get stale, have a passion for something and have a sense of urgency about you. you'll be reet x ps. Portsmouth stunts Sunday. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RossBurnside Posted October 11, 2016 Report Share Posted October 11, 2016 54 minutes ago, ItsMatt said: @RossBurnside I'm 20 and I ride a bike (all be it a boring bike) for a living. I'm completely over qualified for this level of work but I love it. As long as you don't let your life get stale, have a passion for something and have a sense of urgency about you. you'll be reet x ps. Portsmouth stunts Sunday. Marry me? c u there big boy xo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Booth Posted October 12, 2016 Report Share Posted October 12, 2016 Just now, MadManMike said: Life is unfair like that mate, it can happen to any of us, at any time. You get situations like that and you also get the opposite - people that drink and smoke constantly yet live to 95... Condolences anyway dude, that sucks big time Yeah seems incredibly surreal to think it was him, and not the fat b*****d slob that lives next door to him. My dad was diagnosed with cancer last year, bowel and early signs of lung and liver. Never smoked, drunk excessively or eaten bad. He's guilty of carrying a few lb's extra then he should but we're all guilty of that. The guy next door is a chronic alcoholic smoker, yet he's carrying on well into his 60s? Weird isn't it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onzatpro09 Posted October 21, 2016 Report Share Posted October 21, 2016 My bike is now out of commission... just as half term arrives. Plans for cramming riding in are now bust for the week. Boooooooo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted October 23, 2016 Report Share Posted October 23, 2016 It's definitely over with the missus. I wanted to go back and try again but she said no. It lasted 4 years and 7 months. Difficult and dark times lay ahead. Clinical depression and now this. It's so good to have the support of my parents and friends who are doing their best to help and keep me going. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isitafox Posted October 23, 2016 Report Share Posted October 23, 2016 You got all us on here too don't forget! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted October 23, 2016 Report Share Posted October 23, 2016 Thank you but I really shouldn't be mooching off people on here. I've got a therapist who is leading me through this but it's a personal and very lonely journey where all the strength has to come from within. She can only point me in the right direction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted October 23, 2016 Report Share Posted October 23, 2016 Good luck mate. As dave said, we are here for you! And we won't see it as you mooching at all. We're all your friends who will support you as friends should do naturally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamKidney Posted October 23, 2016 Report Share Posted October 23, 2016 I received lots of invaluable advice off people here when I split from my ex. Worked wonders in getting me through it all, even if some had to be a little "cruel to be kind" in their words. You'll be good. Its a shitter, but you'll be good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted October 25, 2016 Report Share Posted October 25, 2016 Just been reading through some advice you guys gave me on the 27th last month when the missus moved out. Back then I wrote that I feel absolutely nothing and most of you said that pretty much sums up what direction the relationship should go in. It's very helpful to look back on those posts and gain a non-emotional perspective which isn't the result of rejection. On the other hand, having since made the effort to socialise more than I ever have in such a short time I noticed how blind I was to her. If I had made the same effort with her that I did with any of the people I met since last Friday, I would have instantly been in awe at how amazing her mind was - open and inquisitive. And this is what I miss most. She was f**king hot, dressed like no girl I've ever met (none even come close) but what always got me was her mind until I stopped paying attention to it probably because my own mind got f**ked. She was very sensitive to arts but at the same time had a huge interest in science and her English was perfect (along with German, Italian, Polish...) so we could always share something which was worth reading - inevitably in English. We could watch Fawlty Towers, Yes Minister, Simpsons, Futurama and all the movies in their original language and understand everything without the need for distracting subtitles or poor dubbing. She earned a lot by Polish standards so we could always afford anything we wanted to do. That is a very rare scenario in this country. Why am I even writing this? Came in here to thank you and got bogged down in destructive thinking. I'm almost 30 now and feel like the opportunity to have a normal life has been taken away from me. This was living completely independently in the heart of a pretty nice city. I've never been good at spending time with myself so I can only move back to my parents which would completely ruin any chance of having a social life. Although I have my own floor, bathroom and entrance, my parents house is 15 miles away from the city. The flat I'm renting now which is costing more than the average wage has been empty for a few days now and it's just a huge waste considering what an epic place it is. A few days ago I went out to a pub with my friend to meet some girls. I did meet a barmaid who's studying chemistry, we're going out tonight. But my mate has been laughing since at the fact that I met one girl and a bunch of guys, having spent much more time talking to an Irish guy, a Turk and a Pole who had such an amazing English accent (Irish, Welsh and Scottish at the same time with none of the awful Polish accent) that I just couldn't get over it. Why is it so easy to meet interesting guys but not girls? Having said all that, perhaps the way to go would be to stay in the flat and do some volunteering work. /rant 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted October 25, 2016 Report Share Posted October 25, 2016 1 hour ago, Greetings said: After almost 5 years is going to take a good while to properly get over, so don't try and rush it. Don't worry about trying to quantify/qualify the people you meet, at the moment it's just important that you do something. That can be whatever needs to happen to get you through the immediate future, whether that's taking some time to yourself or getting out and meeting new folk. For the record, meeting lots of people (eventually) is only going to be a good thing, regardless of age/situation/gender etc. Opening up your circle, even if just fairly short term acquaintances, will help you to keep your mind active/distracted, and also opens you up to each new person's social circle too. Who knows who they might introduce you to down the line. It really does sound like you had a good thing going before, and it's going to be hard not to keep thinking about all the good points and leaning yourself, but at the end of the day there was far more going on than those idyllic moments suggest and things have changed as a result. As is often the case, it's not what has happened that defines you here, it's how you move forward that is important. There are plenty of folk on here who have found themselves coming out of relationships/situations that they thought would last a lifetime, though it's not always easy to consider that when your own situation takes a turn for the worse. Plenty of us are happy to chat/help you through the difficulties that you're facing, hell if it helps you're welcome to come and stay here if a change of scene would help, all you have to do is say the word. Chin up chump, the only way is up 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greetings Posted October 25, 2016 Report Share Posted October 25, 2016 Thank you for the wise words Luke, I appreciate them more than you may think. And thank you for pointing out that there was more to it than those idyllic moments. That's easy to forget but at the same time I feel like I could rectify all that went wrong. We can't undo the past though. I can become a better person thanks to this and perhaps the new path I chose will bring happiness and joy back into my life. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkeyseemonkeydo Posted November 8, 2016 Report Share Posted November 8, 2016 Fuckface Von Clownstick. That is all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted November 8, 2016 Report Share Posted November 8, 2016 2 minutes ago, monkeyseemonkeydo said: Fuckface Von Clownstick. That is all. Listen mate, I've asked you not to call me that yeah? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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