bikeperson45 Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I'm just curious, mainly because I hate people that don't reply. I pretty much reply to everything, like if I was invited somewhere instead of leaving the person to assume that I'm not coming I would reply saying that I'm not coming. But most of my friends seem to think that not replying means they're not going. For instance, today I asked two people if they were able to ride during the day. I then also sent a message (over Facebook) to more friends about doing something tonight, one of which I had also asked about riding. The said person replied to the one about night activities but did not about riding, which annoys me as I know he got the message, read it and didn't feel it was worth replying. Do other people think this is normal or share my opinion that it's annoyingly rude? And here's another one, on chats, would you say something like 'got to go, bye' or just go offline? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I behave as I would on the phone or in person. If someone phones you and says, "Fancy going to the pub later?" or asks you in conversation, you wouldn't just ignore it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miles Mallinson Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 Its just people being lazy proberly, for the last thing I always say good bye if I'm not in a rush, if I'm in a rush I'd proberly just sign off if its a guy but not if its a girl I'd proberly get evils for ages if I did and also if I say good bye I'd wait until they replyed not just sign off like most of my friends do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1a2bcio8 Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 (edited) I'm one of those people that doesn't reply. Just because I have a phone and access to the internet doesn't mean I'm going to be a slave to those things and other people's view that they have immediate contact with me. I prefer to be able to disconnect from that stream of information, in one sense, because it's healthy to be able to do so. Thus, some days, I don't even look at my phone until the next day when I'm feeling more in the mood to deal with it. I don't get bothered with not getting a response from other people. Pretty much all my riding buds here in Bristol often don't respond if they're not up for a ride. Edited April 9, 2011 by Ben Rowlands 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si-man Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 Pisses me off when people dont reply. Hence I dont ask them anymore. Takes all of 5 seconds to type "No" into a text Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke Rainbird Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I behave as I would on the phone or in person. If someone phones you and says, "Fancy going to the pub later?" or asks you in conversation, you wouldn't just ignore it. If I'm actually busy I might not answer the phone/reply to a message straight away, but provided I don't forget I'll generally get in contact/drop a reply when I get the chance for sure. If you need to contact someone then and there use the phone, if it's not urgent drop a text/email and you'll get a reply if and when. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CurtisRider Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 stuff I am a bit like that, i hate having to text back every 5 seconds and things like that, i dislike using my phone because of this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I often forget to reply once I've read stuff, I try to reply to things that require an answer though. On a similar note I hate people who reply to me to just say "ok", absolutely no need! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I usually reply, but I occasionally don't reply if I want the person who's asking me to f**k off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eskimo Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Pisses me off when people dont reply. Hence I dont ask them anymore. Takes all of 5 seconds to type "No" into a text 'specially seeing as the majority of people have free texts now. Though i generally feel the need to answer within a day is okay to not be rude. Funny how this topic came up. I got a long text yesterday, some of it said, "sorry, didn't get back to you the other week". WTF is that about However, what truly pisses me off, asking someone to ride or they ask me, they stitch me up or cancel at the last minute and think it's okay. Yet if it is a night out, or something involving the pub etc and i were to cancel it's not okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simpson Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Don't cry about it. I'm forever leaving my fb logged on when I go out, and chances are when I come back the person who's asked me the question has gone off-line, so I'd just shut down the chat window and totally forget about it, I wouldn't go writing on their wall like "oh my god I'm so so sorry", same goes with texting, if the moment has gone by the time I read it I won't bother replying, for instance if someone asks me to go pub and I don't read it till 11 i wont reply. Generally I go for the whole "same as face to face thing" but if I genuinely don't get the message in time I won't reply. If you wanna speak to me and know I've heard the message then just call me! Don't get grumpy because I may / may not have read the message in time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Don't cry about it. I'm forever leaving my fb logged on when I go out, and chances are when I come back the person who's asked me the question has gone off-line, so I'd just shut down the chat window and totally forget about it, I wouldn't go writing on their wall like "oh my god I'm so so sorry" I have that as well, except it happens to me because when I log out it still says I'm online and then when someone goes to chat with me it'll say I went offline, which made people think I just logged out because they started talking to me. But going back to my original thing, I think the guy he replied to one of my messages and not the other should have at least acknowledged it, the face to face thing seems to be a good way to go I suppose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 I don't be arsey with people really because I wouldn't be like that with them in reality. Unless of course it's just a bit of banter then I would be. On a forum, this one especially where I do intend to meet other riders etc it just doesn't make sense that people would be keyboard warriors then be ok in person. Why not just be cool lol. But same with Fbook, more so at uni where your pc is literally on all the time I just leave a Fbook tab on and always miss people talking to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadManMike Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 I leave Skype / Facebook on all the time so technically I can't always reply. The annoying thing is everyone knows this, yet they still get annoyed. If it's that urgent, give me a ring??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolfa Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 If it's that urgent, give me a ring??? Got any mates who just never answer their phone, reply to txts or return your calls but are pally as f*ck to your face and make weak excuses? That's annoying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Quinn Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 I kinda know what you mean, if people don't reply constantly it's just annoying and I stop bothering. I've got mates who are just so useless at life in general that they actually genuinely can't seem to manage replying and have heads like sieves though rather than out of spite. But at the same time, this conversation is a bit womanly. It's not the kind of thing worth holding a grudge for, just because you wanna spend your time texting, why should everyone else? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bikeperson45 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 But at the same time, this conversation is a bit womanly. It's not the kind of thing worth holding a grudge for, just because you wanna spend your time texting, why should everyone else? The way I sort of see it is, if they've given me their number and I reply to their texts/messages, they should do the same back. If they messaged me on facebook I would always say whether or not I was going to somewhere, I wouldn't assume not replying means I don't want to participate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Topsy Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 I actually answer everything I can pretty soon, except it's my father. And yes, sure you can phone those people who don't answer texts/fb messages, but they are usually those which anyways have their phone on silent and also won't answer there either unless they just see it ringing. I can end up wasting a whole day trying to get in contact with friend/waiting for them to reply. I'm mostly left doing nothing at all/riding alone all the time. Kinda sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dann2707 Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 I actually answer everything I can pretty soon, except it's my father. And yes, sure you can phone those people who don't answer texts/fb messages, but they are usually those which anyways have their phone on silent and also won't answer there either unless they just see it ringing. I can end up wasting a whole day trying to get in contact with friend/waiting for them to reply. I'm mostly left doing nothing at all/riding alone all the time. Kinda sucks. Looks like you need to source new friends mate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Token Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 Is it just me that's noticed, and maybe because I rarely frequent this forum nowadays, there's pretty poor etiquette here with respect to conversation. I noticed a few people ask questions but generally speaking everyone wants to talk about themselves and how I do this, I think this, I can do this, I got this. Feel free to shoot me down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 It seems like if someone posts a question, and the next post isn't an answer, it will probably be ignored. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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