Fishy Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 I'll step up onto Anzo's side and without being overly deep as a kid my parents wern't afraid to give me a smack if I was in the wrong and I totally support it, I think in the most part it wasn't the pain that ever made me cry but the sheer embarasment of it happening. My parents were very good parents and as a kid I always pushed the limits, and the smack was the last resort to remind me of my place. I was only ever really smacked for lying (because my mum hated it) and really bad stuff. However I must admit (i really don't know how to say it because its not that im asking for sympathy of attention or anything like that) but I can think of a 1 or 2 occassions where maybe it wasn't innocent smacking but domestic abuse. But IMO that was fine because I really needed that to keep me on the straight and narrow.And look how you turned out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 (edited) What my dad used to do (and f**k me did it ever work !!!) was whenever either me or my sister did anything he used to pick us up by our hair and bang our heads together. The times we thought of doing something stupid and then thought better of it were amazing, don't get me wrong we never feared our dad or anything and he loves us both unconditionally; but the whole "Action > Consequence" routine really sank in fast. Edited July 30, 2009 by Pashley26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papa Manual Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 I'd fear anyone who picked me up by my hair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 he used to pick us up by our hair and bang our heads together.Is that why you're not 'all there'...theoretically speaking? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Is that why you're not 'all there'...theoretically speaking?Probably Nahhh, thats my Asperges that makes me say stupid irrational shit that only makes sense to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Nahhh, thats my Asperges that makes me buy stupid irrational shit cars that only make sense to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Chillax, I haven't bought an RS500 just yet... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Well that would be a rational good car, so if you did you'd be cured. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 30, 2009 Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 Thats how Mothers from Cheshire seem to do it. Daft deluded bint... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fishy Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Should smacking be illegal? In short: No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bol Maaaaaaing Posted July 31, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 (edited) I see where you're coming from, but again, how you draw the line or even begin to enforce such a thing, even with a slap on the arse, how do you charge someone for that?Yes, speeding we do push our limits...but when parents push the 'limits' with kids they can end up killing them. Limits exisit and limits get pushed, pushed so much that it becomes the norm, and then it gets pushed more and more from there.Its a judgement call for the parents as Jon said. Any good parent will know how to bring a kid up but any parent smacking their kids 'within the limits of the law' shouldn't be a parent at all.Edit: Worded the last bit badly, what I'm saying is there shouldn't be a law to tell parents when enough is enough, that should be a natural decision.In a world where people think that killing a baby (abortion) is ok, that may not work as well as you planSmacking doesn't work if you ask me, my Mum used to smack me for every tiny little thing, and up until I was about 14...All smacking does is remove any respect that the child ever had for the parent, it's bollocks.I do believe that it should be there as a last resort, when you're smacked as much as I was then you realise, actually it doesn't hurt and it's worth it for anything you want to do. It should be something only dished out by the father (not being sexist, just believe it work better coming from an "overlord" type figure"), and only when something really bad has happened.As it happened it f**ked up my childhood because I was incredibly angry and depressed all the time until I was about 15 and then I just hated her and hardly spoke to her. My Dad never smacked me, he just spoke to me like a human being and made me see that what I'd done was wrong, and 9 times out of 10 I apologised to my Mum without being asked.If it is done incorrectly then it would lose the respect of the kid.Being smacked for everything wont work at all, but for the important things it would work good and it has to be not overly hard, but if you need to show them that you are angry at them and that they have done wrong. Edited July 31, 2009 by Bol Maaaaaaing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anzo Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 In a world where people think that killing a fetus (abortion) is ok, that may not work as well as you planI see a clear difference between a fetus and a baby - you can't raise a fetus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 I love when people describe abortion as "killing a baby", how deluded can you get!It's not as easy as just going to get an abortion either, you've got to have a real reason, like you're 15 and don't know who the father is.Anyway coming back to it, no, smacking shouldn't be illegal, but if they're going to do anything about it they should hand out leaflets so that parents can be told how to use it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..::littlesam::.. Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 it is an offence to hit another adult, known as assault???so what on earth make people think its acceptable to hit a child?? that has no means of fighting back, when there at the age to not even explain themselves.i think its a f**king joke that people hit kids there the ones that need the smack not there children,my mum n dad have never hit me but my dad's dad hit him from when he was a baby to when he was about 16 and then one day when his dad went to hit him my dad stood up and (looking down at his dad) and said i dare you to do it again, and he never did. but is that really when a family should be like? a near physical fight between members?bring it on making it illegal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muel Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 I think you're getting mixed up between a smacking and slapping.Sounds like your Dad was slapped about a bit too much. A smack should be round the back of the legs or on the arse, somewhere it won't do any damage, but does sting a little bit momentarily. It's useful to have as a last resort, like if you were really, really naughty, not to be used lightly. This is where shit parents differ from good parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Quinn Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 (edited) The only memory I have of getting smacked is when my mum said 'to that again and i'll smack you' and i cheekily replied 'no you wouldn't' and she said 'yes i will' so I did it again just to test I don't see any problem with it, but it's just a judgement call and what's classed as domestic abuse should be judged by individual case, rather than with set laws.In any case, it's an irrelevant rule because it's pretty much impossible to enforce. Most parents aren't gonna smack their child in public in front of people, but in the privacy of their own homes where it's pretty hard to discover/prove it. It will just become one of those laws like not being allowed to download music or rip movies etc. Edited July 31, 2009 by Max Quinn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..::littlesam::.. Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 its still hitting someone in a form with intent to hurt them, i personally disagree with it and think there are other ways to deal with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revolver Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 (edited) The problem is, very young children don't know enough about the world to understand some things. Smacking them because they're poking around in a plug socket, or trying to touch the fire is going to prove more effective than explaining to your 3 year old that if they do so they may suffer third degree burns and will have to go to hospital where they might die. Edited July 31, 2009 by Revolver Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mat Smith!! Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Even if it was illegal theyd still do it, if they really wanted to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Token Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 I love smacking kids. I love smacking other peoples kids the most. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pashley26 Posted August 1, 2009 Report Share Posted August 1, 2009 Even if it was illegal theyd still do it, if they really wanted to.For f**k sake, I was going to reply "I shouldn't think most people want to hurt their kids."Then I saw this - I love smacking kids. I love smacking other peoples kids the most.Damn you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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