word I have one in my left ear, it's only at 6mm atm You need to get hold of a stretching kit, or the individual stretchers link fo' you I initially had my ear pierced, then let it get better then bought an eyebrow bar which is 1.6mm as opposed to the 1mm initial hole, then went up with the stretchers which look like large spikes. Some people start a stretch with an eyebrow bar then ram say a 4mm spike in, i found that very painfull so i went up in 1/2mm stages if you get me. For example i did - 1mm -> 1.6mm -> 3.mm -> 4.mm -> 5.mm -> 6.mm -> 6mm plug I hope this has helped