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Yes perhaps you're right there. I have considered it but have thus far been too lazy to do so. In regards to your other statements, do you not think you would still be able to appreciate your supervisor from a position of happiness? Does being happy after a death negate feelings about somebody? or are you required to feel sad in order to do so; to give meaning to their life? I also think that certain statements in this post seem ignorant but I'm not sure your anger achieves what it desires? The statements are not unacceptable in themselves even if you personally find them unacceptable. I always feel like a pedantic knob saying that but I think we all forget that sometimes. I know definitely do, to an embarrasing extent, regarding past posts. I think the other thing worth considering is that you may be being hypocritical? Do you, or have you ever made generalisations or inferences about a certain social group? or even an individual? This is no different if you have, it's just that this particular social group involved here has 'offically' been, in some sense, designated a no generalisation group. It's an irony I always find interesting when people I know abhor racism but love to indulge in another kind of ism, like classism; the word 'chavs' instantly springs to mind regarding my friends. Not saying anything specific about you. Perhaps you're not a hypocrit though? I don't know, although I've never met anyone who wasn't a hypocrit. I did it the other day. I judged a friend for behaving in a way which I then ironically behaved the next day I'm not saying don't disagree with people; in fact I'm not telling you to do anything but maybe just bear in mind you're probably the same as them in some sense? Ah, the ego security of shared opinion This was what I was getting at. I think people feel that they should mourn the loss of somebody. I believe it follows from convention, for whatever reason. We grow up witnessing the 'correct' way of responding to death and then feel if we don't follow that standard line, we obviously don't care. This can lead to guilt as some people have stated. I'm in no way saying it's bad to feel sorrowful about the death of someone you know. Just that perhaps, is it neccesarily a 'bad' thing for any of us if we are able to remove the negativity of it? I suspect if you answer yes, a lot of your opinion may be based on the 'rules' of society. I could be wrong though. I think that I could love the memories of somebody just as much regardless of if I mourned them or not. I also think I could consider the lifes of other people without the worry of feeling bad following their death. In fact I find it suggestive that the fear of guilt or mourning driving your consideration of life actually means you think less of life. Consideration of life motivated by death or a consideration of life motivated by life? I choose the latter. Thanks everyone who replied. Mucho appreciated

I think some of you chaps are missing my point slightly. The hypothetical part of this question is if you could choose to avoid mourning and have it not catch up with you; no ill effects what so ever. What then would you choose? I'm interested in seeing if you think mourning is something you should do as a choice, rather than a neccesity. Does a person you love deserve to be mourned? In becoming hypothetical, we are moving out of the reality of what is 'best' for you right now and considering what might be 'preferable' for you regarding an imaginary choice containg different 'rules'.

Why does mourning give meaning to love though? I can understand how "absence makes the heart fond"; that's something I've experienced myself; but for me there's only point to that when absence leads back to presence. Regarding death though, it means the end; the absence probably doesn't move back to the dead persons presence. Is it, at that point, somewhat pointless to feel bad about something that you can do nothing about? Why not just choose to feel completely okay about it and get on with the rest of your life? Remember I mean this in the sense that by not feeling bad about a death it causes no long term 'harm' to you. You completely escape the process of mourning; of dealing with the loss of life.

What I mean then, is that you don't have to go through a process of mourning. It won't effect you 'negatively' to not go thtough that process because of this machine; this machine will change you so that you don't feel about about the death at all. It's simply a choice of feeling bad about death or not. Should you feel bad about death for the sake of what that lost person meant to you? Does it devalue them to not feel high levels of sorrow and hurt?

Hah, yeh I thought that as well.

I've got a hypothetical question which I'm very curious as to how you might answer. Basically the idea regards a device of the future which which is able to alter your nervous sytem or mind so that you may experience whatever feelings you wish to. You can use it to feel as amazing as you want to. The question is, if somebody very close to you were to die, would you be happy to use the device to make yourself feel completely alright with their death, so that you didn't have to deal with the process of mourning or sorrow? In other words, do you think you would prefer to not feel any pain about the death of someone you love? or do you think that you should go through a process of mourning, as though you owe it to the loved one to feel bad about their death? Cheers if you answer. Ben.

pfft. I'm in a relationship and I did nowt for my lady. In fact I think I was a bit rude to her yesterday. Anyway, I'd rather do something a bit more spotaneous when I actually feel like it than be guided by convention. Does it not seem more romantic in that sense? An act formed from your own desire or one from a nominated day that directs your behaviour? It seems to me that the latter and more contrived behaviour is less from one's own 'heart', so to speak. At the same time though, furry muff if you did get involved. Despite my current disinterest I have, in the past, made some effort

Link doesn't seem to go anywhere for me?

Yeh but he hasn't followed the game rules of these unhappy individuals. These things need to be expressed! People need to be how others want them to be

Defnitely Fear and Loathing Additionally: The Royal Tenenbams The Life Aquatic Rushmoore Aliens Is Naked Lunch, the film version of William Burroughs, Naked Lunch, Mr Jonny Jones? I've read the book which is very unconventional. I'm interested into how that might have translated to film. I can imagine a lot writing being displaced; a lot of the content would be too much for most to deal with methinks. I shall have to get myself a copy though.

I'm going to cut her heart out and give it to her with a genuine "ben rowlands" signed card. In 'reality' though, I have made no plans. I'm unable to find validity in the convention. I find it meaningless.

I think you should be killed. All humans expressing human behaviour need to be removed from this human society.

Thanks for that. I really enjoyed it

I thought that was really good riding and editing. I also really liked the filming. That was certainly an advert for helmet wearing

It's interesting you can make such commentry having never seen the show

I've not been in this situation but I would suggest giving her a massage. I'm assuming that half the difficulty for a girl and her first time is that she's nervous and perhaps tense which could potentially lead to additional uncomfortable friction/pressure. My experience with massage is that its a very effective form relaxation for the mind, through the body. It's something I've noticed though, that when my gf has been nervous or stressed, for whatever reason, she i more prone to discomfort regarding penetration. I might be completely off here though.

That was very much enjoyed. I liked the editing, filming and riding. Good job Andy and company

Thanking you also

Ah, so "non-humanity" + "non-humanity" = no "non-humanity"? 1 + 1 = 0 I get you, you've developed a whole new math system More of the same obviously equates to a rubbing out of the past.

Squawk! Polly wanna cracker?

Adam, you're a superstar. Thank you very much

Thanks a lot for that. They do seem to have some very good deals.

Basically my gf is after a new computer for uni work. She'll also be using it for games, dvd's etc. etc. She has aproximately 400 squid to spend and would obviously prefer as good a deal as possible. I'm really out of the loop these days regarding where is good/cheap to buy from so if someone could point me in a direction it would be really appreciated. Or if someone knows of a specific deal on at the moment. I have looked but am not satisfied that that I've looked enough and I don't really know anywhere else to look besides dabs and aries. I don't want to trawl through google, which I always find a time pain regarding the purchase of goods. Thanks in advance to anyone that can help or makes an attempt to help Ben.

Rowan and rocks doesn't seem to equate at first. Really enjoyed that though. Your style is always a great watch

Really enjoyed that. I liked the choice to put some Aphex Twin with the riding