Fair enough. I'm not sure on exact details but I am aware that if you miscarry after a certain time you have to actually give birth to the dead fetus. This requires two trips to hospital - one to induce her and another to actually give birth. She will have needed someone else with her by law. I'm fairly certain that this method is used from 12 - 16 weeks onwards. The gender of a child can't be determined by scan until 16 weeks+. There are a few ways of determining the gender after miscarriage that involve a lot of tissue testing etc. Just incase any of that puts your mind at rest...
She given you any dates or anything?