You never win, people just can't be bothered with your shit so they leave you to your own devices.
As for the moaning, I guess I'm as bad as everyone else really but I certainly see where you're coming from, actually slightly off topic kind of - the other day I was on my way home from college and it started raining, really heavy it was and now normally I'd be thinking "shitting rain, pissed off, getting wet now grumble grumble" but this time I just thought to myself 'Why don't I like the rain, theres nothing to dislike really'. I actually really enjoyed walking home in the rain and it was very refreshing.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is if you feel like moaning just think to yourself, why am I moaning and is it really worth moaning at all?!
Word Bongo.